2nd August 2011: Verity and Ken marry!
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Briar - thank you so very much for getting this thread under way .... here are a few words for dear Verity and Ken on this special day.
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.
Anne Morrow Lindbergh, b. 1906
Offered, with love, from Julie
I’m wife; I ’ve finished that,
That other state;
I ’m Czar, I ’m woman now:
It ’s safer so.
How odd the girl’s life looks
Behind this soft eclipse!
I think that earth seems so
To those in heaven now.
This being comfort, then
That other kind was pain;
But why compare?
I ’m wife! stop there!
Emily Dickinson (1830-1886)
With love and best wishes from Paola
Yes, I'll Marry You
by Pam Ayres
Yes, I'll marry you, my dear,
And here's the reason why;
So I can push you out of bed
When the baby starts to cry,
And if we hear a knocking
And it's creepy and it's late,
I hand you the torch you see,
And you investigate.
Yes, I'll marry you, my dear,
You may not apprehend it,
But when the tumble-drier goes
It's you that has to mend it,
You have to face the neighbour
Should our labrador attack him,
And if a drunkard fondles me
It's you that has to whack him.
Yes, I'll marry you,
You're virile and you're lean,
My house is like a pigsty
You can help to keep it clean.
That sexy little dinner
Which you served by candlelight,
As I do chipolatas,
You can cook it every night!
It's you who has to work the drill
and put up curtain track,
And when I've got PMT it's you who gets the flak,
I do see great advantages,
But none of them for you,
And so before you see the light,
I do, I do, I do!
Wishing you a lifetime of happiness and "great advantages" for both.
All my best,
What is Marriage?
two people in love
Congratulations, and all good wishes for many happy years together!
I'm having a hard time finding a good poem, so I'll just add my congratulations and best wishes and maybe come back later.
>15: I've had the same problem, Peggy, and just realized I've not said a peep here waiting for a revelation.
So congratulations Verity and Ken! May you have many years of bliss ahead of you.
I'm a little late, but The Virago Book of Weddings and Marriage, commissioned specially for the occasion, is here.
Thank you to those who contributed, and apologies to anyone I forgot to contact and to anyone I left confused when I didn't explain the concept too well.
Lovely job, Jane! I'm sure Verity will be pleased and happy with this. Thank you! Hope they are having a super time in Austria.
Now you will feel no rain, For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness for you,
For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of your togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth
Native American Blessing
Congratulations and celebrations!
I think The Virago Book of Weddings and Marriage has said it all but
Congratulations Verity and Ken!
Woo!!! You're all amazing! I'm late to the party as although my archaic phone can manage google reader and facebook and the occasional tweet it can't cope with librarything! But what a lovely post to see amidst a whirlwind of washing and post holiday chores.
Keep an eye on my blog next week as I'll share some photos - it's not fair to do it before then as family won't get to see them until our party at the weekend.
Thanks for the update Verity and looking forward to the pictures .... and the tomatoes?
The tomatoes are HUGE! My neighbours husband fed them with tomato feed. Must blog them too. Too much to doo!
I am a bit slow but congratulations Verity! I look forward to seeing the photos.
I wish you both great joy!
Bleurgh....we all have colds the day before our wedding lunch/reception.... :(
Some photos up on my blog today: http://cardigangirlverity.blogspot.com
Thanks - I can't put any other photos up as they feature Mr W, and it's not fair really to have them up - I don't think he minds, but I don't want to force him to say yes!
Zell Am See!
I'm late looking at the blog and pictures, but I'm carried away. It all looks WONDERFUL!!!! Your new username looks wonderful too!!
Late in replying here too! Jane, you did a fabulous job and I think Virago needs to give you the commission for creating a real edition of The Virago Book of Weddings and Marriage!
Verity, you are cute as a button and Ken all handsome and proud. The two of you are glowing with love and happiness. Just beautiful!
Congratulations on your new username! (Somehow I kept my 'miss' name even after getting married, and now wonder if I should have changed too - but Mrs_Read doesn't really work for me.) The wedding looked FABULOUS. What an amazing setting. And you are gorgeous. Lovely, lovely, lovely.
Thanks - I keep rereading Jane's wonderful book. Wedding seems so long ago, even though it was jusr 22 days
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