I really liked this book. Some of the stories were horrid and one even made me laugh- RL Stine. I saw myself and my kids in many of them. I am glad that my kids have been able to embrace their uniqueness so much better than I did at their ages. It is so sad that so many people still treat bullying as a "rite of passage". No one should be bullied. It does get better but in the adult world it is done in different ways. Thank you to all you authors that shared your stories. I appreciate you. ( )

Not *actually* finished with this, but it has to go back to the library and I haven't really been reading it because whenever I pick it up, I get depressed. So yeah.

When I was at my child's book fair, I saw this on the shelf and thought, "holy cow, this exists?" I have an interest in bullies and bullying as it exists (beyond the overused cliche seen in movies like Biff Tannen or Scut Farkus). The clincher was the few authors I recognized: R.L. Stine, A.S. King, Mo Willems. Unfortunately, those were the only authors I recognized.

Some are bullies, some stand by and do nothing, but most relate anecdotes or essays about their bully experience. The best thing this book provides is the knowledge that everyone gets bullied, popular people, nerdy people, and adults. It's nice to know that eventually, all things come out in the wash. This means that the experience is universal. It also means that you get seventy stories of virtually the same thing.

Each essay is only a few pages, and there are seventy-five of them. After a while, the story starts being the same. I think this could have gone farther if the number was reduced and the length was upped. Find the experiences that are truly unique, or more authors that are universally well-known or use a variety of techniques, and this book could have gone a lot farther. Also, there is way too much bias on the female end. I don't have the facts to support this, but I believe this is a universal experience. As a result, a lot of the stories are "Mean Girls" style bullying. I feel male stories would A) provide the variety the book needs and B) raise the stakes from "shunning" or "shaming" behaviors to physical threats. ( )

Review courtesy of Dark Faerie Tales.

Quick & Dirty: This is a heart wrenching eye opening anthology about bullying. 70 authors tell their real life experiences with bullies and how it affected them.

Opening Sentence: I know bullying.

The Review:

Bullying is a huge problem in our society today with so many of our young people being victims of it. Dear Bully is filled with real life experiences of 70 different authors. It tells about what they had to endure as children, and how they made it through. It also tells of some that were bullies themselves and the regret they now have from causing others so much pain. There are consequences for every action we take and every word we speak, don’t let those consequences hurt you or others.

This was a heart wrenching book to read. Some of the author’s stories brought me to tears when I learned of the torment they had to go through as children. Some of them also gave me hope that in some ways their terrible experiences made them stronger in the end and helped them to endure the tough times in life. Others were full of regrets for the pain that they caused to their victims. Some talk of survival and what they had to do just to make it through the day. Then there were the ones that spoke of their friends whether they pressured them into bullying others, or how they were their saviors. Some of the authors speak about the insight bullying gave them as kids and how they use it in their lives now, and the inspiration it gives their writing. It also covers the reasons why children become bullies and the sad journey that makes them turn to hurting others. Finally, there are the stories that tell of hope and that it will get better in the end if you can just live through the moment.

Reading all of these authors’ stories has really opened my eyes. Growing up, I don’t really remember ever getting made fun of or getting called bad names. I am sure that there are times that it happened, but it obliviously never really affected me like it would others. As a kid, I was a little on the shy side so I stuck to my little group of friends, but I was taught to respect others even if they were different than me. I realize that bullying is a part of our society and that it will never fully go away, but it can be greatly improved if people would just pay attention. If you are a parent make sure your children feel comfortable enough to come to you if they have a problem. Also, be open minded enough that if someone else comes to you about a problem with your child you will listen and try to understand. If you are a teacher or a school administrator take notice of your surroundings and pay attention to what is going on. Don’t let your students be the victims of bullies. Last but not least, if you are just a normal person and you see someone being bullied, don’t be afraid to stand up and say something.

This was a very educational read for me that was both sad and inspirational. I wish that we didn’t have this problem in the world today and that everyone could be accepting, but that’s not reality. That being said, it doesn’t mean that something can’t be done, because we are a growing ever changing race and we can always improve. We should love and respect one another and not let our own hurt and hate turn us into a bully. I would highly recommend this anthology to anyone that has ever had a problem with a bully, whether you are having a problem now or have scars from the past. This can help you see how others dealt with their own personal bullies and it will give you hope that things will get better.

Notable Scene:

From 2009 surveys we find:

More than seventy-five percent of our students are subjected to harassment by a bully or cyberbully and experience physical, psychological, and/or emotional abuse.

More than twenty percent of our kids admit to being a bully or participating in bullylike activities.

On a daily average 160,000 children miss school because they fear they will be bullied if they attend classes.

On a monthly average 282,000 students are physically attacked by a bully.

Every seven minutes a child is bullied on a school playground with more than eighty-five percent of those instances occurring without any intervention.

FTC Advisory: Harper Collins provided me with a copy of Dear Bully: Seventy Authors Tell Their Stories. No goody bags, sponsorships, “material connections,” or bribes were exchanged for my review. ( )

I love the concept of this book, and even after reading it, I still love the idea of it, I also love that a portion of the book sales go to a charity to stop bullying, which I think is so important in today's society. I wanted to really connect to the stories in a deep and emotional way, and unfortantly many of them I didn't. There were a few that really hit home for me, but for the most part, I felt almost bored by the stories. I wanted them to be powerful and moving, but many of them had the same recurring theme of "hang on and it will get better", which fustrated me a bit, because if I was a teen and a victim of bullying, I think hearing that over and over again would fustrate me, because unfortantly it's not really giving them a solution.

Now onto the story that really hit home for me and that was Slivers of Purple Paper by Cyn Balog, this story hit me in a deep and thought provoking way, I myself had a similar experience in high school, and getting a note from someone that you changed their life in a significant way is a very powerful thing, and one that has stuck with me my entire life.

Maybe I didn't connect as much as some people because although I was heavier then most in High School I had a lot of friends, and although I do remember a few instances of being called names or being teased, nothing was as horrible as what many people deal with every day. I never wanted to stay home to avoid a bully, and I never had my books knocked out of my hands or was shoved into a locker. I also don't think I was a bully, I really prided myself on being friends with everyone, from the cool kids to the not-so-cool kids. I'm not tooting my own horn, so please don't take it that way, but reading this book opened my eyes to being at fault for not standing up or saying things when a bully was attacking people. I'm sure I may have said something to someone occasionally, but i'm also sure that I was a part of gossip or a rumor about someone that i'm sure I might not have seen as hurtful, but was.

While, I didn't connect to this book as much as I had hoped I would, I still think this book is very important, maybe because it's been 10 years since high school for me, so wounds are not as fresh as they would be if I had read this book when I was younger, but i'm a firm believer that kindness goes a long way, and I truly believe that if everyone could take a moment and think about their actions and hurtful words, this world would be a much kinder and better place. ( )