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The Impossible Life of Mary Benson (edition 2012)

by Rodney Bolt (Author)

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Young Minnie Sidgwick was just 12 years old when her cousin, 23-year old Edward Benson, proposed to her in 1853. Edward went on to become Archbishop of Canterbury and little Minnie--as Mary Benson--to preside over Lambeth Palace, and a social world that ranged from Tennyson and Browning to foreign royalty and Queen Victoria herself. Prime Minister William Gladstone called her "the cleverest woman in Europe." Yet Mrs. Benson's most intense relationships were not with her husband and his associates, but with other women. When the Archbishop died, Mary--"Ben" to her intimates--turned down an offer from the Queen to live at Windsor, and set up home in a Jacobean manor house with her friend Lucy Tait. She remained at the heart of her family of fiercely eccentric and "unpermissably gifted" children, each as individual as herself. They knew Henry James, Oscar Wilde, and Gertrude Bell. Arthur wrote the words for "Land of Hope and Glory"; Fred became a hugely successful author (his Mapp and Lucia novels still have a cult following); and Maggie a renowned Egyptologist. But none of them was "the marrying sort" and such a rackety family seemed destined for disruption: Maggie tried to kill her mother and was institutionalized, Arthur suffered numerous breakdowns, and young Hugh became a Catholic priest, embroiled in scandal. Drawing on the diaries and novels of the Bensons themselves, as well as writings of contemporaries ranging from George Eliot to Charles Dickens, Rodney Bolt creates a rich and intimate family history of Victorian and Edwardian England. But, most of all, he tells the sometimes touching, sometimes hilarious, story of one lovable, brilliant woman and her trajectory through the often surprising opportunities and the remarkable limitations of a Victorian woman's life.… (more)
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Title:The Impossible Life of Mary Benson
Authors:Rodney Bolt (Author)
Info:Atlantic Books (2012), Paperback, 320 pages
Collections:Your library
Rating:****1/2
Tags:biography, victorian, gay, family, gender roles, social history, acerbic, made me cackle, religion, massmarket, history

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As Good as God, as Clever as the Devil: The Impossible Life of Mary Benson by Rodney Bolt

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    The Way of All Flesh by Samuel Butler (nessreader)
    nessreader: Way of all flesh is a novel about monster victorian sanctimonious paterfamilias; Life of Mary Benson is about a real one, her husband the archbishop of canterbury. Both books are hilarity-propelled rants that are in the end touching.
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Fascinating life of Mary Benson, who was called the cleverest woman in Europe. The wife of a Victorian Archbishop of Canterbury, she also had a series of women lovers. Five of her six children survived into adulthood to become prolific writers and they all seem to have been gay or lesbian. ( )
  Robertgreaves | Sep 19, 2022 |
On 23 June 1859, eighteen-year-old Minnie Sidgwick married her distant cousin Edward Benson. The couple had known each other since Minnie was a little girl and Edward had hoped to marry her ever since she was eleven, when he had admired her brightness of spirit and her intelligence. Perhaps marriages of this kind did sometimes prove to be happy. But not this one. Minnie, or Mary as she became as an adult woman, passed from being an anxious, eager-to-please daughter to being an anxious, daunted wife. As her husband vaulted up the ecclesiastical hierarchy, Mary Benson played the role of dutiful clergyman’s wife, culminating in the greatest challenge of all: the wife of the Archbishop of Canterbury. But who was this woman who stood behind one of the most influential men in the land? And why should we care about her? In this utterly engaging biography, Rodney Bolt brings together family documents, diaries, letters, novels and contemporary material to give us a deep and absorbing picture of an extraordinary woman whose experiences offer a fascinating picture of the Victorian age...

For the full review, please see my blog:
https://theidlewoman.net/2019/10/24/the-impossible-life-of-mary-benson-rodney-bo... ( )
  TheIdleWoman | Nov 11, 2019 |
Surprisingly delightful. I was expecting something scandal-ridden and rackety but in fact we get a story, improbable but very real, of a warm-hearted and intelligent woman, caught in the web of victorian England married to the Archbishop of Canterbury , no less. He's an authoritarian stuffed surplice, marries her as a near-child bride, obsessed for her yet cold. She realises from the start that she has no physical feelings for him, but remains loyal, bearing a brood of children. She has little formal education , but holds her own in conversation with the greatest in the land and writes letters of elegance and insight. She goes through a whole series of pchildrenassionate relationships with other strong women. When he dies she instantly loses her entire stats in society, almost like a Hindu widow, but she keeps going and maintains a home for her adult children all of whom are as intelligent and cultured as she is, though ranging between the neurotic and the clinically insane. Amazing story, deeply researched, elegantly written. ( )
  vguy | Oct 5, 2017 |
Good, well written biography - she was wife to Edward Benson, Archbishop of Canterbury, and quite a matriarch, and brought up a brood of very talented, if somewhat odd children - several of whom became quite well known (E F Benson) and mixed with many of the key figures of the age. ( )
  dgbdgb | Jul 24, 2011 |
Really very good. I read it because of this Guardian review:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2011/jun/09/good-god-mary-benson-review
which gets it pretty spot on. ( )
  annesadleir | Jun 17, 2011 |
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Young Minnie Sidgwick was just 12 years old when her cousin, 23-year old Edward Benson, proposed to her in 1853. Edward went on to become Archbishop of Canterbury and little Minnie--as Mary Benson--to preside over Lambeth Palace, and a social world that ranged from Tennyson and Browning to foreign royalty and Queen Victoria herself. Prime Minister William Gladstone called her "the cleverest woman in Europe." Yet Mrs. Benson's most intense relationships were not with her husband and his associates, but with other women. When the Archbishop died, Mary--"Ben" to her intimates--turned down an offer from the Queen to live at Windsor, and set up home in a Jacobean manor house with her friend Lucy Tait. She remained at the heart of her family of fiercely eccentric and "unpermissably gifted" children, each as individual as herself. They knew Henry James, Oscar Wilde, and Gertrude Bell. Arthur wrote the words for "Land of Hope and Glory"; Fred became a hugely successful author (his Mapp and Lucia novels still have a cult following); and Maggie a renowned Egyptologist. But none of them was "the marrying sort" and such a rackety family seemed destined for disruption: Maggie tried to kill her mother and was institutionalized, Arthur suffered numerous breakdowns, and young Hugh became a Catholic priest, embroiled in scandal. Drawing on the diaries and novels of the Bensons themselves, as well as writings of contemporaries ranging from George Eliot to Charles Dickens, Rodney Bolt creates a rich and intimate family history of Victorian and Edwardian England. But, most of all, he tells the sometimes touching, sometimes hilarious, story of one lovable, brilliant woman and her trajectory through the often surprising opportunities and the remarkable limitations of a Victorian woman's life.

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