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Abschied für Anfänger by Anne Tyler

Abschied für Anfänger (original 2012; edition 2012)

by Anne Tyler

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Title:Abschied für Anfänger
Authors:Anne Tyler
Info:Kein & Aber (2012), Ausgabe: 1. Aufl. 2012, Gebundene Ausgabe, 240 Seiten
Tags:Ehepaar, Tod, Trauer

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The Beginner's Goodbye by Anne Tyler (2012)

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    LynnB: Both stories are about a man dealing with his wife's death in ways most people would deem crazy.

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AS Anne Tyler is one of my favorite authors, I was drawn to this book and looked forward to it. Unfortunately it was a bit of a disappointment, The author seems to only scratch the surface of the characters and does not explore their make-up as she has in previous titles.
This book tells the story of Aaron, a pretty ordinary fellow who looses his wife Dorothy to an unusual accident. He hours her and begins to experience sightings of her which result in his believing she may have come back from the dead. The novel explores his grieving process and how he interacts with family and friends. ( )
  AstridG | Jul 22, 2015 |
Aaron and Dorothy married against objections from his family and friends, but he loved her. When a tree crashes through the roof of their home and kills Dorothy, those family and friends do not know how to reach out to Aaron as he grieves. Aaron’s family owns a publishing company specializing in “Beginner’s how-to books”, but there was never a Beginners Guide to Grief”. Aaron is left alone, in his destroyed home that he is procrastinating about repairing, until it virtually falls down around his ears, forcing him back into the real world. His coping mechanism is the glimpses he has of Dorothy. Is she a ghost or a figment of his imagination?

This is a charming book, which examines family, friends and loves in the life of a pretty ordinary man. It wouldn’t be hard to imagine Aaron as someone you know or have met. That’s part of the charm of this book. This is a perfect summer read.
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  ChristineEllei | Jul 14, 2015 |
My favorite of her books, even better than ( )
  picardyrose | Feb 15, 2015 |
Official summary: "Anne Tyler gives us a wise, haunting, and deeply moving new novel in which she explores how a middle-aged man, ripped apart by the death of his wife, is gradually restored by her frequent appearances--in their house, on the roadway, in the market. Crippled in his right arm and leg, Aaron has spent his childhood fending off a sister who wants to manage him. So when he meets Dorothy, a plain, outspoken, independent young woman, she is like a breath of fresh air. Unhesitatingly, he marries her, and they have a relatively happy, unremarkable marriage. But when a tree crashes into their house and Dorothy is killed, Aaron feels as though he has been erased forever. Only Dorothy's unexpected appearances from the dead help him to live in the moment and to find some peace. Gradually he discovers, as he works in the family's vanity-publishing business, turning out titles that presume to guide beginners through the trials of life, that maybe for this beginner there is a way of saying goodbye. A beautiful, subtle exploration of loss and recovery, pierced throughout with Anne Tyler's humor, wisdom, and always penetrating look at human foibles"
I found this an enjoyable listen, though the subject my seem grim (getting over the death of a beloved spouse) it's handled with a kind of wry humor. The appearances of his dead wife and everything else is described in a matter of fact manner, the reader is more of an observer than someone who is privy to the thoughts and emotions of the main character. Still by observing we learn a lot about his life and I was pleased with how things turned out for him. ( )
  debs4jc | Jan 27, 2015 |
Anne Tyler's novels are always well put together and enjoyable. This is a story of Aaron and how he comes to terms with the death of his wife after their house is hit by a tree. The novel is short and quite sparse but has her usual excellent grip on what life is really like for people. ( )
  Tifi | Dec 24, 2014 |
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Embarking on an Anne Tyler novel is like heading off on vacation to a favorite destination: You're filled with anticipation of pleasure, even though you know the place is likely to have changed since your last visit.

The Beginner's Goodbye, Tyler's 19th novel, fulfills that dual craving for familiarity and freshness. Its focus is loss and recovery, grief and growth....
This is not a dramatic transformation but a slow, hard-won realisation that comes with time and constant picking-over the same problem. For the essentially optimistic Tyler, this process allows for rejuvenation and the opportunity for a second chance. For Tyler's many fans, her latest work won't disappoint.
The Beginner's Goodbye," Tyler's 19th novel, features all of these things and more — there is a ghost — and less; just over 200 pages, it is, both in literal weight and narrative complexity, lighter than most of the Tyler canon. Which should not be construed as "less," at least not in the pejorative sense of the word. In many ways, "Goodbye" feels like the center slice of an Anne Tyler novel, a distillation.... The wonder of Anne Tyler is how consistently clear-eyed and truthful she remains about the nature of families and especially marriage.
All of this Tyler understands, tackling Aaron’s sudden loss with characteristic warmth, sympathy and wisdom. As in all her books – and this is one of her great strengths – male and female characters are equally well drawn.

Perhaps the chief constituent of grief is regret: regret for the unkind word, the unexpressed affection, the small opportunities missed. To say that Tyler writes about regret would be like saying that Anton Chekhov writes about boredom: true, but inadequate. Without melodrama but always with compassion, as well as outstanding insight and gentle humour, regret is the abiding theme of her fiction. This makes her especially popular with readers over the age of 35, who are old enough to have started accumulating regrets of their own.
Ms. Tyler’s tepid new novel, “The Beginner’s Goodbye,” doggedly follows this formula, adding a supernatural twist seemingly borrowed from old movies like “Topper” or “The Ghost and Mrs. Muir.”...The problem is that the reader couldn’t care less. Whereas Ms. Tyler’s most powerful work has been animated by an intimate knowledge of her characters’ inner lives — sympathy that lofted us up over whatever was clichéd or cloying about their stories — the people in “The Beginner’s Goodbye” are irritating stick figures, insipid and emotionally uptight. .....As the title of “The Beginner’s Goodbye” suggests, Dorothy’s spectral visits are supposed to help Aaron learn to come to terms with her death — and with the imperfections of their marriage — so that he might move on with his life. It’s a trite and predictable lesson from what is arguably this talented author’s tritest and most predictable novel.
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The strangest thing about my wife's return from the dead was how other people reacted.
En wat zou ze hebben gelachen om al die ovenschotels! Dat was een van de ergste dingen als je je vrouw verloor, merkte ik: je vrouw is nu net degene met wie je dat allemaal wilt bespreken.
En toch kreeg ik nog maar twee avonden later zo'n droomachtige gedachte die langsdrijft als je net in slaap valt. Hé, Dorothy heeft al een poosje niet meer gebeld, dacht ik.
Toen we pas getrouwd waren belde ze me vaak vanuit haar praktijk, zomaar om even te kletsen en te horen hoe het met mijn werk ging. Dus de wittebroodsweken waren blijkbaar afhelopen. Heel even vond ik dat jammer, al wist ik dat het de normale gang van zaken was.
Maar toen werd ik opeens klaarwakker en dacht: o. Ze is dood. En het was nog niets gemakkelijker dan in het allereerste begin. Ik kan dit niet, dacht ik. Ik zou niet weten hoe. Hier geven ze geen cursussen voor. Dit heb ik nooit geleerd. Eigenlijk was ik nog geen stap verder
That was one of the worst things about losing your wife, I found: your wife is the very person you want to discuss it all with.
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Amazon Best Books of the Month, April 2012: "The strangest thing about my wife’s return from the dead was how other people reacted." So begins Anne Tyler's new novel, which documents the days of Aaron Woolcott after the unexpected loss of his wife, Dorothy. And as arresting as the first sentence is, it's also a bit worrying. So many clichés could follow. Will Aaron resolve his grief through poetic moonlit walks with the apparition of his lost wife? Thankfully, this is Anne Tyler. And the ghost of Dorothy, like all Tyler's characters, has a kind of rich, eccentric depth that sits opposite to the expected. Aaron's recovery after his wife's death conveys all the subtle hallmarks of Tyler's style, where a flawed man must learn how to do a very difficult thing--say a final goodbye. --Ben Moebius

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"Explores how a middle-aged man, ripped apart by the death of his wife, is gradually restored by her frequent appearances-- in their house, on the roadway, in the markets ... Only Dorothy's unexpected appearances from the dead help him to live in the moment and to find some peace."--Provided by publisher.… (more)

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