HomeGroupsTalkZeitgeist
Hide this

Results from Google Books

Click on a thumbnail to go to Google Books.

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the…
Loading...

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal… (edition 2012)

by Olivia Fox Cabane

MembersReviewsPopularityAverage ratingConversations
189562,490 (3.81)None
Member:drmamm
Title:The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism
Authors:Olivia Fox Cabane
Info:Portfolio Hardcover (2012), Hardcover, 256 pages
Collections:Your library
Rating:***1/2
Tags:Self-Help, psychology, ebook

Work details

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox Cabane

None.

None
Loading...

Sign up for LibraryThing to find out whether you'll like this book.

No current Talk conversations about this book.

Showing 5 of 5
Good information. Author breaks charisma down into a few areas:
Presence (being present in the moment, focusing on the other person)
Warmth (goodwill, empathy, compassion)
Power (confidence)

The author suggests finding an "area of specialty" for your charisma:
Focus (presence)
Visionary (inspirational)
Kindness (warmth and confidence)
Authority (status and confidence)

She also talks about self-compassion, which is an important step in developing warmth and confidence.

The book is an easy read, with key points listed at the end of each chapter. There are also exercises to help you work on a specific area. You can skim through it and get the main points in a couple hours, or read more carefully and try each exercise for a more thorough experience.

A solid book on the topic. I would have preferred something a little more dense, with various theories and research to support/refute them. This is more of a quick "how-to" book. That's probably what most people need.

It's a little light for my personal taste. I feel like the same information could have been conveyed in a magazine article, and it's frustrating to scan through pages looking for important information. But a book earns more profits, I'm sure. It's capitalist inefficiency - the most useful, streamlined version of a product won't make as much money, so consumers get the bloated, lumbering one. It's true of a lot of self-help books.

There's also a rather weak work-around for atheists in some exercises ("If you don't believe in God, imagine the universe as a benevolent being, and ask it for help...") It took many years of hard work to rid myself of toxic religious beliefs. Imagining a "benevolent being" is likely to drag me back into a mental state I don't want to be in. I wish authors with a belief in God would have more respect for those of us who don't want to follow the path of faith--or some generic, watered-down version of faith.

But overall, a useful book for those of us that don't naturally have charisma. Not much new material for people who read sites like Lifehacker, but it created connections between concepts that I hadn't thought of before. ( )
  Malora | Jan 31, 2016 |
ten little cheerleaders yelling "presence! power! warmth!" but alternately gushing about the importance of breathing and mindfulness. ( )
  weeta | Jul 5, 2015 |
This was life-changing to me. I've never read a book like it and didn't realize this was something that could be learned. You know, they should really teach social skills in school, as important as it is to jobs and life. ( )
  KR_Patterson | Apr 28, 2015 |
Can charisma be learned?

It can. Or, at least, that's the promise of this book.

I'm not completely convinced that "Anyone" can master the "Art and Science of Personal Magnetism". The author, while seemingly well credentialed and very experienced, uses her clients as examples and case studies. The problem with this, is that most of the clients she serves are already in positions of power, for the most part, and it's too easy to assume that those in power already posses a good amount of charisma to begin with.

If you already know you posses some charisma then this book is probably good in helping you identify what kinds of charisma you posses . Then you can work on improving those with a focus. ( )
  damienfranco | Aug 22, 2013 |
“To know others is knowledge; to know oneself is wisdom.” ~Lao Tsu

Steve Jobs, Bill Clinton, Barrack Obama, Whoopi Goldberg, Oprah Winfrey….What do these people have that you and I don’t? Charisma. They seem to have some special power or personality traits that attract people to them effortlessly. They attract all the attentions when they walk into a room, even without speaking. Somehow, we were taught that either we have this trait, or we don’t; so I was immediately drawn to this title once I spot it in a bookstore, and…

Yes, charisma can be learned.

Presence, warmth and power.

According to this wonderful book written by Olivia Cabane, charisma is a matter of presence, warmth and power. Presence is constantly paying attention to what’s going on when you’re interacting with people. If you are 100% involved, they feel valued and respected. One of these important skills is listening skill.

Warmth is expressed through kindness, actions and even body language. Do you think your body language has more power over the words you speak, or vice versa? You’re extremely wrong if you say “words.” Your physical comfort and mental state affect your words and body language, and people pick up messages from our body language and words that you don’t even realize yourself. Through out the author described multiple ways and exercises to get over or control your mental and physical discomfort, which will help increase personal charisma, the image that your body language and words projected.

Power is the most important and influential charisma. You do not have be an actual world leader like Colin Powell to impress people with your authority. The way you carry yourself, your body language and the way you dress and act can increase your impression and influence in others.

Not all charismatic people attract people the same way. There are all different kinds of charisma like the different kinds of personality. They can be achieved with different exercised and mind tricks and can be used on different situations. There's only one "first impression" in each event, and it's important to make it count. There are lots of exercises through out the book to help you learn the skills. Although I think they are a bit time consuming, they are actually useful.

Get the book. The wait is over. It's your turn to shine. .


( )
  lovestampmom | Aug 8, 2013 |
Showing 5 of 5
no reviews | add a review
You must log in to edit Common Knowledge data.
For more help see the Common Knowledge help page.
Series (with order)
Canonical title
Original title
Alternative titles
Original publication date
People/Characters
Important places
Important events
Related movies
Awards and honors
Epigraph
Dedication
First words
Quotations
Last words
Disambiguation notice
Publisher's editors
Blurbers
Publisher series
Original language

References to this work on external resources.

Wikipedia in English (1)

Book description
「魅力」就好似賈伯斯的現實扭曲力場:
  讓你吸引、留住人才,讓人們想加入你的團隊;
  讓你的業績比同儕高出五倍,讓銀行爭相捧錢投資你的構想;
  讓媽媽能影響自己的孩子、孩子的老師與左鄰右舍;
  讓醫生的門診絡繹不絕,病患乖乖配合治療;
  讓學生在推甄裡脫穎而出,在社團擔任領袖;
  ──因為它讓人心甘情願去做你希望他們做的事情。

但是,「魅力不是天生的嗎?」,作者卡本尼對這種質疑早已見怪不怪,並能肯定的回答你:就像任何職場、生活技能一樣,「魅力」也可靠許多技巧練出來!

卡本尼拆解出魅力人士內心世界與舉手投足的運作技巧,讓魅力不再神秘難辨,成為我們事業與生活的實用技能。最棒的是,你不需為了魅力而強迫改變自己,只需選擇最符合自己個性的技巧,就足以讓眾人驚豔。

這套魅力課程前往柏克萊大學開設時,人氣火爆,必須一一核對進場學生,以防有人偷溜旁聽;Google、Deloitte等財星五百大企業也爭相邀請她幫助主管脫胎換骨。

卡本尼的魅力學,成效超乎想像。想擁有梅莉史翠普的吸引力、賈伯斯的說服力、或是達賴喇嘛的親和力?學魅力,讓你在社交或事業場合都能炙手可熱!

  關於魅力的七個秘密
  你不需長相好看、或是強迫自己改變個性,你只需學習新技巧就能散發魅力。
  魅力,是透過刻意練習來養成的。
  讓別人喜歡你,不在於花多少時間跟對方互動,在於讓別人感受到你跟他們同在。
  別努力打動他人,讓他們來打動你,這樣對方一定會愛死你。
  找個理由向討厭你的對象道謝,這會讓他們合理化自己的舉動,不再找你麻煩。
  若想發揮影響力,學大猩猩一樣霸占空間吧!
  腳趾頭是你保持專注力的關鍵。
Haiku summary

No descriptions found.

Cabane breaks charisma down into its fundamental components, revealing the secrets to what charisma really is and how it works.

(summary from another edition)

» see all 2 descriptions

Quick Links

Swap Ebooks Audio
132 wanted2 pay1 pay

Popular covers

Rating

Average: (3.81)
0.5
1
1.5
2 2
2.5
3 7
3.5 3
4 16
4.5
5 6

Is this you?

Become a LibraryThing Author.

 

Help/FAQs | About | Privacy/Terms | Blog | Store | Contact | LibraryThing.com | APIs | WikiThing | Common Knowledge | Legacy Libraries | Early Reviewers | 0 books! | Top bar: Always visible