A great book breaking down the idea that love and sex can only bring happiness within the framework of an exclusive, monogamous relationship. ( )

Bad: Kinda for people who believe crystals can heal.
Good: Really excellent and practical instructions on forming your own relationships and becoming a whole person, whether you're poly or monogamous or undefineably sexy. Easy + fun read. ( )

Blah. Not a fan; too many assumptions. ( )

I feel like this book speaks to me deeply, because on some gut emotional/instinctual level, I have never understood why **anyone** would want monogamy for life. It just....has zero attraction for me. And for too long I felt like a failure as a woman because I just did not grok why so much of the world thought this was important--I sure don't.

Eventually, though, I've had to come to grips with the fact that a lot of people assume exclusivity = love and this is "normal," and I really needed this book to give me good logical arguments to the contrary. ( )

I still blanch at the word "slut", but this is a basic polyamory primer that anyone who is interested in multiple sexual relationships should read. ( )