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Asking for It

by Lilah Pace

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I picked this up when looking for Asking For It by Louise O'Neill; it is Not that book.

What it is is a rape fantasy fantasy, by which I mean it's erotica about a woman who gets turned on by the thought of being raped, who meets a rich handsome considerate caring man who enacts her fantasies with her, gives her the type of rough non consensual sex she's dreaming about but in a controlled and consensual way (they talk about what they want in advance, they have safewords etc), and then holds her in his arms / gently brushes her hair, and tells her how amazing she is.

It's porn with a very light sparkling of plot, mostly how it's hard to have awesome no strings attached sex without falling for the person you're sleeping with. Oddly, the heroines best friend has a scare when she's pregnant, and I had a moment of 'oh, gah, even the rape porn is going to turn into a baby loss book', but (spoiler!) the baby is just fine in the end.

I'd have liked it much more if it hadn't done the cliché of 'both protagonists want this because of Terrible Abuse earlier in their lives'. There is a wonderful snarky therapist character, who basically says 'lots of women have rape fantasies whether or not they were raped, maybe your problem isn't the rape fantasies but that you've got obsessed that you have a problem because you have rape fantasies'.

I don't read much porn, so it's hard to know if it's good or terribly formulaic. But it's page turning. ( )
  atreic | Oct 18, 2016 |
It's one amazing book! Not for everyone, but amazing nevertheless! Review soon :) ( )
  kara-karina | Nov 20, 2015 |
An erotic romance between two people with compatible kinky desires who agree to remain strangers to each other in order to allow their fantasies to play out more intensely. Developing feelings between them and old wounds from their pasts complicate matters. A well-done story with believable characters and plot development that feels mostly plausible. Most remarkable for its treatment of rape fantasies, clear demarcation between fantasy and reality, and discussion of and portrayal of consent (*side-eye at Fifty Shades of Grey*). Some points off for being another story that gives kinky protags deeply disturbing abusive pasts and suggests a connection between them and their adult sexuality. A couple points grudgingly given back because it's clear here that while these characters are dealing with thorny issues of emotional well-being, past abuse, and current desire, interest in non-vanilla sex itself =/= psychological distress (*further side-eye at FSofG*). Recommended if you're interested in the development of the portrayal of BDSM in mainstream erotic romance or portrayals of consent or if you just like this kind of thing, with the HUGE CAVEAT LECTOR: please, please heed the trigger warnings. ( )
1 vote lycomayflower | Jul 25, 2015 |
Advertencia: Esta novela erótica No es para cualquiera. No sólo por cuestiones de edad (aunque podría afirmar, si acaso me preguntaran, que pueden considerarla como sólo apta para mayores de 21 años) sino porque las escenas de sexo, si bien son totalmente consensuadas, pueden llegar a resultar chocantes o, como mínimo, incómodas o, incluso, hasta llegar a asquear a aquellos lectores que no estén al tanto de los temas que se tratan aquí, ¡tengan la edad que tengan!. (por favor, lean con cuidado la sinopsis antes de decidir comprar Asking For It.)

Segunda advertencia. ¿Ya dije que no es para cualquiera? Y aclaro, ESTO NO ES BDSM. Tampoco es apto para lectores con prejuicios o ignorantes acerca de cómo funciona la cabeza de varias víctimas de abuso. Si no están habituados a este tipo de novelas, no las lean ya que les puede provocar desagrado.

¿Qué me pareció?

Necesitaba un romance light dada la pésima tarde que tuve ayer y el hecho de que hijo adorado está enfermo y tenía que pasar la noche en vela, así que compré este pensando que iba a ser una novela erótica pa' pasar la noche y nada más.

BIG.MISTAKE.

HUGE.



Onda que terminé lagrimeando en un par de escenas.

Muchas de las cosas que se cuentan se me hicieron tan cercanas a mi propia realidad -a mis propios recuerdos- que terminé totalmente enamorada de la historia y de sus dos protagonistas principales. (Así como lamentablemente más amargada de lo que ya estaba antes de empezar a leer)

Pero, banquenme un cachito ya que, como escribí en un principio. No es una novela para cualquiera y NO la recomendaría, a menos que sean lectores a quienes les interese leer sobre el tema. El tema siendo, obviamente, qué significa ser una víctima de violación que, luego de años de haber sufrido tal aberración, desarrolla deseos sexuales que giran en torno a revivir tal episodio, pero con el añadido de querer "sentirse segura" y en absoluto desear ser violada. ¿Está claro? NO es sobre alguien que está "asking for it" sino sobre una víctima que ha desarrollado un mecanismo de defensa muuuuuuy común entre entre muuuuchas sobrevivientes de violaciones. Así que, en este caso, hay que dejar de lado los prejuicios y tratar de comprender de qué hablamos cuando hablamos de rape fantasy.


Anway...

Puede ser que esté comenzando a desarrollar cierta predilección por novelas con temas "tabú". Seguro que sé, por ejemplo, que cuando se trata de misterios, me gustan las tramas difíciles, esas que te joden la cabeza y te dejan pensando; esas que van más allá de la acción porque sí, y se enfocan más en desarrollar a fondo las personalidades de sus protagonistas (tanto de los "buenos" como de los "malos"); esas que se meten bien adentro en tratar de explicar motivaciones y pasados; en ir a fondo en el porqué y no tanto en el cómo.

A lo que voy es esto, me pasa lo mismo en todos los géneros. Con el género de misterio/terror ya la tenía bien clara, pero ahora me pasa que también esto buscando eso en los romances. Quiero, ahora, protagonistas con personalidades bien definidas y bien escritas, cuyas definiciones sean claras y específicas (no que lo sean ni bien se da comienzo a la novela, pero sí que se lo pueda ir conociendo a la largo de la historia); quiero saber porqué las parejas se encuentran y se enamoran; porqué la protagonista decide ésto y deja de lado lo otro. Necesito novelas sobre personas que están "Mal de la cabeza"-- Y, OJO, porque lo digo en el buen sentido.

¿Qué quiero decir con eso?






Bien, obviamente, todos entendemos que se puede estar mal del marote pero sin llegar a ser un psicópata ni herir a segundos, terceros o cuartos. Y es ésa la clase de personajes que voy tratando de buscar.

Villanos y no villanos; gente común pero no tan común-.
En fin, ya me siguen, supongo.

Es por eso, manzanita, que esta novela me gustó tanto (lo mismo que [b:Bang|24871115|Bang (Black Lotus, #1)|E.K. Blair|https://d.gr-assets.com/books/1423620350s/24871115.jpg|40774607] de EK BLAIR). Se las arregla bastante bien para presentar una protagonista inestable con deseos que pueden llegar a parecer imposibles o ciertamente inentendibles.

El modo en que está escrito te permite distinguir a la perfección las diferencias que hay entre un acto de violencia extrema (como es una violación) de una fantasía consensuada cuyo tema central, eje movilizador, gira en torno a eso. Es así que leyendo alguna escena, podés sentirte aterrada/amargada/triste con lo que leés, mientras que en otra, el terror no existe, y la historia es absolutamente sensual y, varias veces, tierna, el romance que una espera.

No sé si es tanto como para cinco estrellas pero, en este momento, para mí, las 5 (y más) le sientan bien).

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  LaMala | Jun 7, 2015 |
New Adult, or whatever we’re calling explicit erotica with plot these days; free review copy. Content warning: The relationship centers on the protagonists acting out their rape fantasies, consensually, with a lot of negotiation and limits that are respected. The encounters are very explicit and include physical and verbal violence. There is also a rape in flashback, and discussion of other rapes and harm to children. Vivienne is a grad student working on her art, and Jonah is a professor in another discipline; they find that their fantasies match up and begin a relationship that quickly moves past sex—though the narrative spends a lot of time writing about the sex! Vivienne’s self-disgust and her related attempts to accept her desires and deal with an underlying sexual trauma that has alienated her from her family are a big part of the story, which is in her POV. Unsurprisingly for the genre, Jonah is wealthy and also carries a grim and Grand Guignol-ish secret that eventually comes out. This is not my kink, but the author brought her A game and made the sex increasingly sexy to me as the characters got into it, and—true confessions time—I teared up a little bit at the ending. Turns out I wanted those two crazy kids to work it out! ( )
2 vote rivkat | May 12, 2015 |
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Amazon.com Product Description (ISBN 0425279510, Paperback)

“This is who I am. This is what I want. Now I need a man dangerous enough to give it to me.”

Graduate student Vivienne Charles is afraid of her own desires—ashamed to admit that she fantasizes about being taken by force, by a man who will claim her completely and without mercy. When the magnetic, mysterious Jonah Marks learns her secret, he makes an offer that stuns her: they will remain near-strangers to each other, and meet in secret so that he can fulfill her fantasy.

Their arrangement is twisted. The sex is incredible. And—despite their attempts to stay apart—soon their emotions are bound together as tightly as the rope around Vivienne’s wrists. But the secrets in their pasts threaten to turn their affair even darker...

Reader Advisory: Asking for It deals explicitly with fantasies of non-consensual sex. Readers sensitive to portrayals of non-consensual sex should be advised. 

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