Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide? (edition 2003)

by Andy Stanley

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Work. Family. Church. Hobbies. Physical fitness. Housekeeping. Socializing. Fitting everything in is a delicate balancing act where something -- or someone -- is inevitably overlooked. The problem, writes author Andy Stanley, is not a lack of discipline or time management -- it's simply lack of "time." With only 24 hours in each day, we sometimes need to "rob Peter to pay Paul." We have to choose to cheat.The key is learning when and where to cheat, argues Stanley, and home is never the right choice. When we cheat our family, we say, "you are important, but work "(or football, or shopping, or whatever occupies your time) "is more important." We are, in a sense, devaluing each other.It may mean coming home from work an hour earlier, letting the dishes sit while you play with your child, or missing a round of golf. But your "cheating" will express security and worth to your family.… (more)

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Title:	Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
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deldevries | Jan 31, 2016 |

This book is a must read for anyone who struggles with balancing work and family. While acknowledging the importance of doing your best at work Stanley encourages us to make sure we are not cheating our family. In fact he challenges us that if we have to cheat we should cheat work not family. Stanley encourages us to make sure we are not sacrificing our family for success in our career. The primary way we do this is by spending time focused on and with our family. This means we must set boundaries so that work does not run over into family. While not telling you exactly how to do this he gives several examples such coming home at a predetermined time, limiting travel and nights away from home, and a willingness to forgo important work "things" to attend something special with your children. He also encourages us to make sure we are communicating with our family so that we are aware of how our choices are affecting them. (

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Work. Family. Church. Hobbies. Physical fitness. Housekeeping. Socializing. Fitting everything in is a delicate balancing act where something -- or someone -- is inevitably overlooked. The problem, writes author Andy Stanley, is not a lack of discipline or time management -- it's simply lack of "time." With only 24 hours in each day, we sometimes need to "rob Peter to pay Paul." We have to choose to cheat.The key is learning when and where to cheat, argues Stanley, and home is never the right choice. When we cheat our family, we say, "you are important, but work "(or football, or shopping, or whatever occupies your time) "is more important." We are, in a sense, devaluing each other.It may mean coming home from work an hour earlier, letting the dishes sit while you play with your child, or missing a round of golf. But your "cheating" will express security and worth to your family.

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This book with the wonderfully deceptive title first hooks you into picking it up and beginning to read. But like the parables of Jesus, you soon realize that the cover and title are only veiling a more important truth - that the one that needs to change is the reader! Whenever life brings to a point where we must choose between one thing or another, the one we do not choose will feel cheated. We must learn to choose the right thing - even when it causes some disappointment to another, or even short term loss to ourselves. Andy Stanley has done it again, with wit, wisdom, and a focused point that we all need to hear.

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