I almost put this down again after the first page, did not want to read about senile dementia and the aggro created by looking after a difficult mother/relative. But this book is a surprise. It shows not only the guilt and desperate exhaustion but also the rewards -if the care is deserved and comes from the heart. At one point the never much loved daughter-in-law debates with herself why she takes on so much of the looking after and why she is the one who repeatedly objects to her mother-in-law being sent to a home. She comes to the conclusion that the woman deserves it because she worked hard and was a good and kind and generous person.