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The Friendly Young Ladies by Mary Renault

The Friendly Young Ladies (1943)

by Mary Renault

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I read this book because I was reading reviews of the Well of Loneliness, and it was mentioned. In fact, the comment was something like 'oh God, the Well of Loneliness, it's so up itself and tortured and po faced and hilarious, it's such a shame it's the defining lesbian novel, the only good thing I can say about it is that it inspired Mary Renault to write The Friendly Young Ladies because she felt exactly the same way as me.' Which given Well is up there in my Favourite Books Ever was a bit of a red rag to a bull, but I like books that are in conversation with other books, and I like queer books that aren't modern queer books and so shed a different light on things, and I like buying books WLOG. So I bought it.

It is definitely in conversation with Well. There are some really wonderfully crafted snarks, where the heroines will be given feedlines to Angst, and then say very prosaically 'I expect most relationships are unusual when one knows enough about them. We're pretty well used to ours, it seems ordinary to us'.

It's a book that left me very keen to Study It - there are bits where they are having clever grown up conversations hinting and implying things I don't quite get, and there are bits where the characters just Know their feelings and act on them, but it's a bit show and not tell - whether I'm a modern reader, or a stupid reader, there were definitely times I'd like the Spark notes just to confirm that what was being implied was what I was reading.

The plot.. well, there isn't that much plot. We start with Elsie Lane, a schoolgirl who runs away from her boring sad middle class home, and seeks out her older sister, Leo, who lives on a boat with Helen. Elsie has a crush on Peter, who has been her doctor and the first man she's really known, there's an author living nearby called Joe, and the characters wander around and interact and change relationships and grow. But they're skillfully drawn, and engaging, and the book has moments of great humour and great sadness and great passion.

Much of the book is setting Elsie's naivety (and Peter's too) against the wisdom of Helen and Joe and Leo. Elsie is so young and sweet and painfully unaware about what is really going on - not stupid, but very sheltered, and not self aware enough to face the things that would hurt her. I wanted her to grow and change, and found the ending (heartbroken that Peter is having a fling with Leo, she returns to her parents) unsatisfactory... but she has grown and changed, and he parents have moved, and the world she goes back to is not the world she left.

Oh, Peter. I loved Peter. I hated Peter. I saw too much of myself reflected in Peter. So arrogant, so convinced he is Saving people by making them fall in love with him, so self centred that he doesn't even see what he is doing. The entire book is worth it for the scene where Peter carelessly and painfully turns up at the boat with his real girlfriend (which will break Elsie's heart if she realises) and Leo delightfully seduces the girlfriend and leaves him entirely dumbfounded and with no recourse.

And the book is worth it for the joy of living on the boat - the sunlight, the island, the feel of the punt sliding through the water, or the chilly morning swims, or the hard work pumping out the bilges.

It turns Well on its head in many ways. There is Leo, boyish in her shirts and trousers, living with Helen, a beautiful well dressed feminine nurse. And you see the patterns of Stephen and Mary, except then it is _Leo_ who finds a boy and runs off with the boy at the end of the book, and it is Helen who gets to make the speeches about how she stays with Leo because Leo is what she wants, but Leo stays with Helen only because she has a broken wing that will heal one day...

Yes, for the record, if you want Well of Loneliness fix it fic, this is another book where the charming, adorable and friendly young ladies of the title are going to end up Doomed because one of them ends up with a boy. Even the author is annoyed by this - when they republished the book she wanted them to stop the ending short - 'far better leave Leo's choice in the air with the presumption she stays with Helen' - and in the end they compromised by letting her write an epilogue, saying 'there is much I would write differently... the silliness of the ending [is] inevitable disaster, [which] is it naïve to present as a happy ending'. Although it isn't a happy ending, it is a deeply uncomfortable ending, Leo swayed by Joe's bold ultimatum of a letter, standing in her bedroom holding Helen's dress in floods of tears, and packing to leave. Not really fix it fic...

It's notable as a book in that it has both silly and serious relationships. Not a farce, where everything is casual and superficial, but a space where people fall casually together for light love making that doesn't have to mean a lot, and yet still have deep deep passions for the people they truly love.

Oh, Helen. Beautiful, charming, wonderful, she is never the focus of the novel, but drifts in when needed, healing, soothing, straightening. Graceful and kind, but with a core of strength, who would never want to try to keep someone who did not want to be kept. A goodbye kiss, and her graceful brisk walk to the ferry, 'It's perfectly fair. Whatever happens, that's the thing to remember. To see things straight, not to arrange them round oneself; if one keeps that, one keeps everything in the end'

So it may be a book that claims to be in conflict with Well's heavy handedness and moralising. But it has very clear messages and morals of its own, how to live and love and be good people, and how things run very deep, and one should never live in comfortable self indulgent delusions. ( )
  atreic | May 17, 2015 |
The writing is excellent which makes the story effective. The young Elsie is a very sad character who doesn't have much grasp of the reality that everybody else seems to understand so well, but their reality strains all credibility. I think that Renault intends us to sympathize with these other characters, but their reality makes so little sense. Why is it an alarming faux-pas to accidentally get a facial sunburn? What's wrong with telling someone directly what's expected of them? How can the way a person applies lipstick be imbued with so much significance? To me Elsie is a tragic figure, unable to escape her solipsism because even those who might have bothered with her are too reserved in what is probably an English fashion to have any effect on her. She's the only character whom I can like and yet she is doomed while the rest are overwrought, pretentious, and just as self-absorbed in their own way.

Mary Renault and Dorothy Sayers were two really talented women drinking the same disturbing Kool-Aid and then inflicting it on the rest of the world with a mordant effectiveness. Renault's early contemporary novels are direct descendants of Sayers' last, Gaudy Night. ( )
  themulhern | Jul 7, 2013 |
This book has me questioning my country shelves. Country shelf is at the moment hovering between country of author/country of publication. The Friendly Young Ladies is set in England by an English author who lived most of her life in South Africa. Categorisation is no easy task.

As for the book itself, for many, many pages it lives up the the back cover blurb of a 'stylish social comedy set in the 1930s', 'delightfully provocative', 'partly in answer to the despair of Radclyffe Hall's [b:The Well of Loneliness|129223|The Well of Loneliness|Radclyffe Hall|http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171984586s/129223.jpg|1156985]' right up to the end when it got morose and despairing. Oh well.

Mary Renault is deft, sharp and hilarious. She picks apart her characters' seams and then sews them up again. It's worth reading for the social comedy and not worth reading for the tedious last minute melodrama. Social comedy outweighs melodrama, btw, and if you stop at the end of Chapter 19 you'll have got most of the comedy. Trust me, the end will just make you want to kick an armchair psychiatrist.

One of the best parts of the copy I read is Mary Renault's marvellous afterword, where she not only puts the boot in to poor, glum Radclyffe Hall, she begins, 'On re-reading this forty-year-old novel for the first time in about twenty years, what struck me most was the silliness of the ending.'

Also, houseboats.

And that's as good a last word on the book as anything. ( )
1 vote veracite | Apr 7, 2013 |
Acquired via BookCrossing 18 Dec 2009 - picked up at Urban Coffee Company's OBCZ

An interesting Virago, quite charming but with an intriguing message as well. This was apparently written as a riposte to Radclyffe Hall's "The Well of Loneliness". Hall posits the idea of a "third sex" of women who are "inverts", ie they have a masculine appearance and nature, while being genetically women. They famously wear "masculine underwear" (Renault mentions this in her Afterword and I've heard it discussed before) and try to make their way in the world as men.

Renault introduces us first to gentle and unformed Elsie, who lives with tyrannical parents, tyrannical because they use her in their battles against each other, so nothing she can do is right for the one, if it's right for the other. She is aware that her older sister, Leo(nora) ran away from home eight years ago. Encouraged by a smarmy locum doctor, she eventually snaps and runs away herself, seeking out her sister on the narrowboat she shares with the pretty medical illustrator, Helen. Leo shares her life and her bed with Helen, but as gentlemen callers, from the smarmy doctor to the half-wild author Joe, circle the boatful of girls, we wonder if Leo could have been turned from her rather masculine early life and dress, if only she'd met the right man...

The doctor, Peter, is a hilarious creation, with his psychological reports on his patients to the long-suffering Norah, but Renault doesn't seem to like her other characters much and the ending, she admits too, is a bit silly. Also, I'm sure she has written books about and accepting male homosexuality, while seeming to cast doubt on the female variety in this novel.

Anyway, it was an enjoyable read with some wincy and some very funny moments.

Offering to the LibraryThing Viragoites. ( )
2 vote LyzzyBee | Feb 19, 2010 |
I hadn't expected to find this book about a young girl's awakening and the allure of the daring lesbian lifestyle (!) in a bygone bohemian age so charming - it's very funny, in a wistful, bittersweet way. It made me smile, rather than laugh, but I smiled all the way through. I remember reading Mary Renault years ago, rather stodgy historical fiction stuff about ancient Greece - I wouldn't have expected a book as sensitive and delightful as this from her on that basis. Pleasant surprise! ( )
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Very quietly and carefully, hardly moving her thin young neck and round shoulders, Elsie looked round the room, first at the french windows into the garden, then at the door, measuring distances.
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"For one thing, stupidity about people like me is all to the good and makes life much more comfortable all round."

Elsie Lane is seventeen and unhappy. Stifled by life with her parents in a bleak Cornish village, she falls in love with the first presentable young man she meets--an ambitious London doctor called Peter. On his advice she leaves home, going to live with her sister Leonora who escaped eight years earlier. But there are surprises in store: not only does the boyish Leo now live in a delightful houseboat on the Thames, but she also writes Westerns, goes punting with the avant-garde writer Joe, and cohabits with the lovely Helen. Then Peter pays this strange ménage a visit, and turning his attention from one "friendly" young lady to the next, he begins to disturb the calm--with results unforeseen by all. . .
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Set in 1937, The Friendly Young Ladies is a romantic comedy of off-Bloomsbury bohemia. Sheltered, naïve, and just eighteen, Elsie leaves the stifling environment of her parents’ home in Cornwall to seek out her sister, Leo, who had run away nine years earlier. She finds Leo sharing a houseboat, and a bed, with the beautiful, fair-haired Helen. While Elsie’s arrival seems innocent enough, it is the first of a series of events that will turn Helen and Leo’s contented life inside out. Soon a randy young doctor is chasing after all three women at once, a neighborly friendship begins to show an erotic tinge, and long-quiet ghosts from Leo’s past begin to surface. Before long, no one is sure just who feels what for whom.

Mary Renault wrote this delightfully provocative novel in the early 1940s, creating characters that are lighthearted, charming, and free-spirited partly in answer to the despair characteristic of Radclyffe Hall’s The Well of Loneliness or Lillian Hellman’s The Children’s Hour. The result is a witty and stylish story that offers exceptional insight into the world of upcoming writers and artists of in 1930s London, chronicling their rejection of society’s established sexual mores and their heroic pursuits of art and life.

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Set in 1937, this title is a romantic comedy of off-Bloomsbury bohemia. Sheltered, naive, and just 18, Elsie leaves the stifling environment of her parents' home in Cornwall to seek out her sister, Leo, who had run away nine years earlier. Originally published: London: Longmans, Green & Co., 1944.… (more)

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