He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt

He's Just Not That Into You (2004)

by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo (Author)

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Two writers from the TV Show "Sex and the City", take letters from women taking about their boyfriends that won't commit. The male author gives the unvarnished truth, he won't commit because "He's just not that into you"! (

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Ellens_ESO | Jan 25, 2013 |

Picked up this audiobook because I thought it would be funny & entertaining. It is -- to a degree. Not sure I liked the format, though. It did get repetitive. It seemed to center on sex in a relationship a little too heavily, in my opinion. My favorite part: the "What you should've learned in this chapter" at the end of each chapter. Brief, simple statements, but they rang very true. Good as a daily affirmation, especially for those single women who are endlessly searching & being disappointed in their choices. And the quote in there about one of the main differences between men & women: women not being able to separate sex from emotion, whereas for men it's two different things. SO TRUE!

I haven't seen the movie. I think I'd like to, but it's hard for me to see how the format of this book was adapted into a movie. (

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indygo88 | Aug 25, 2011 |

Cute book - only read it for the "Sex in the City" aspect of it. (

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readingfiend | May 8, 2011 |

Half a star for effort. But really, I just skimmed past the explanation parts and didn't last past the 15th page. Reading the first 10 pages, I thought, "are you serious? Are people really this shallow?" I picked up the book because I liked the movie. I saw that it was by people from "Sex and the City," and got a bit discouraged. It's not really my scene, but since the movie was ok I thought I'd still give the book a try. This book, IMO, seems to be about shallow people who read WAY too much into things the opposite sex do. Also, I don't seem to understand what audience this book is aimed at. Teens? Tweens? Idgi. (

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veranaz22 | Aug 11, 2010 |

This is a book you pass along to your gal-pals when they are in need. Rock solid, humorous advice to remind us that we are, indeed, superfoxes. (

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Tuccillo, Liz	Author	main author	all editions	confirmed

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Quill Award (Health/Self Improvement, 2005)

New York Times bestseller (Advice, How-To & Miscellaneous, 2004)

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This book is dedicated to all the lovely ladies out there whose stories inspired us to write this book. May we never need to write another one.

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He says:

Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.

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There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic.

For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.

He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.

The truth may be He's just not that into you.

Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel.

He's Just Not That Into You -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you."

He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.

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Based on an episode of "Sex and the City," offers a lighthearted, no-nonsense look at dead-end relationships, with advice for letting go and moving on.

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