Great book for any single woman who would like to create a meaningful life for herself but has trouble overcoming some of society's stereotypes of single women. Sometimes Lewis seems to fall into the trap of seeing the single status only as temporary thus somewhat undermining her argument that it could be a permanent lifestyle choice. Overall, though, this is an excellent resource! ( )

This is such a good book. It's truly a unique find in the pool of books aimed at singles. The author is motivating women not to be needy, dependent, or hardened and resigned to being single forever. Her whole aim is to get singles to step away from the emotions and screaming biological clocks while considering things that will make their lives better *whether or not* they ever marry. I thought I was well read on the subject of being happy as a single person, yet this author showed me things I didn't realize I was doing and attitudes I didn't realize I had. For example, I wonder how many other singles find themselves holding off on buying furniture they'd like or buying a house because of thoughts, even very subtle, that they should wait because they'll probably be married someday and "he'll" already have a house or furniture, or you can buy what you like together? I was surprised to realize how many of these little things I was doing - and in effect, how it's a sign of undervaluing the individual's life apart from another. The author also examines commonly held beliefs about singles and how we tend to try to dissect exactly why we're single. Karen Gail Lewis demonstrates how we women typically blame ourselves and try to come to some conclusion, such as we're "too choosy", "too independent", "too set in our ways", "too intelligent", "too intimidating", or whatever. She shows that sometimes there simply is NO reason other than not having met the right person yet: a certain amount of finding a compatible mate is chance. Valuing your life and living your dreams is what this book is all about. It's not about man-hating, being jaded or asexual. It's about taking responsibility for your happiness and your choices WHETHER OR NOT you marry. There are great suggestions that will be strengthening to you whether you remain single forever or do find someone to marry. Karen's book is about not putting your life on hold for "someday". It's all about empowerment.