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Loading... Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationshipsby Tristan Taormino
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will love Sign up for LibraryThing to find out whether you'll like this book. Now why can't my husband get this like I do? lol. Great book! ( )Opening Up is a primer on polyamorous relationships that describes why lifelong monogamy is an untenable arrangement for some, elucidates the main alternatives that have arisen in the western world in the past sixty or so years, and provides practical advice for non-monogamous people on issues like dealing with jealousy, juggling schedules, and raising children. It is best suited for people considering incorporating polyamory into their lives, or as a means of soothing the nerves of worried friends, relatives, and partners. Taormino's presentation is self-helpy but serviceable. She is inordinately fond of bullet points. Her prose is workmanlike and (apart from the delightfully icky turn of phrase "fluid-bonded") as bland as oatmeal, which is precisely what you want in a book like this. The most helpful aspects are tips on maintaining open lines of communication. (Further evidence that polyamory is a plot invented by women to trick men into talking about their feelings all the time.) The least helpful are the anecdotes from people in open relationships that conclude every chapter. These tend to be uniformly upbeat and therefore not very informative. If you are already in an open relationship, this book will not tell you anything you don't already know, but it's still helpful to have things written down clearly in one place. In creating this guide, Taormino has done a service for many people who are trying to be honest and realistic about their sexual and emotional lives.
Good stuff, goes from beginner to hxc. I wonder when we're going to get to the point where books about open relationships don't have to have four or five beginning chapters that justify their motivations to exist in the first place. Taormino provides a much-needed update to the subject. Unlike other authors who have tackled the subject of open relationships, Taormino makes the argument that polyamory can be non-sexual, and such relationships are as valid and important as those with a sexual component. Clearly written without being dogmatic, instructive without being preachy, Taormino's book could possibly topple "The Ethical Slut" from its place as the definitive book on open relationships. Read it if you're curious, currently practicing, or just intrigued by the many and varied ways that human beings relate to each other. Opening Up is by far the best book about open relationships written in the past 10 years. (and I've read a lot of them.) It covers different models of nonmonogamy- everything from polyfidelity to swinging- and is informative and nonjudgmental. I'd recommend this to people new to the lifestyle and people just looking for new perspectives. no reviews | add a review
Amazon.com Product Description (ISBN 157344295X, Paperback)Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy. (retrieved from Amazon Fri, 24 Apr 2009 07:58:10 -0400) The first test round has been closed. Visit the Open Shelves Classification group for details. |
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