This book is referenced alot in adoption literature. I really didn't want to read it since everything referenced always seemed dark. This is one book Nancy let me borrow & encouraged me to read. I'm not sorry I read it; I learned a few things - BUT the author states that any adoptee that grows up & seems normal has serious problems of denial & needs serious help.
I also disagree that mother & baby should be kept together at ALL costs - even if it means we put her on welfare for 3 yrs while she raises the child by herself & doesn't work. Sorry, but you cannot raise healthy, well adjusted, PRODUCTIVE members of society if you aren't one yourself. I am a 100% believer in staying home with your children - but not on welfare, at my expense. More 2 parents families could afford to have mom stay home if we weren't supporting so much of this.
Iceland has a system where any related family member living is responsible for the mother & child before the government (this includes extended family, not just parents). It's the law/rules. If you have family - no welfare. Then I could see the "keep them together at all costs" thing.
The book is worth a read - but don't make it the only book you read - or you will never adopt. It is very anti-adoption. ( )