Frag einen Mann wenn du mit Männern glücklich werden willst (edition 2009)

Mrg. A few kernels of wisdom here about the ways men and women tend to think differently about love, but mostly reductionist. And the tone put my back up. ( )

This is the book to read if you have ever wanted to understand you boyfriend’s perspective in your relationship. It helps you decipher what he’s really thinking about your relationship. Even if you no in a relationship it helps you become a better partner for future relationships. If you’re a hopeless romantic with standards like me, this is a great book that inspires hope that a good guy is out there. This book helps show girls the difference between guys who want some and the ones who actually want a future with you. I read this book because of the author is the amazing and funny Harvey. The fact that it was written by him and that it is a book about relationships made me interested in the make perspective on relationships. I started reading it because I thought it could help me understand what a real relationship should be like. After I read it, it solidified that it’s okay to have standards. Instead of telling me to change it supported the idea that having standards was a good thing.

This was a fun quick read.... I don't think it revealed anything that most mature women have already known, or learned through trial and error... LOL. But the book was fun and made me laugh. I was highlighting like a mad woman on this one. I actually checked it out of the public library. Hardly any waiting list. ( )

Ok so, I definitely have mixed feelings about this book. On one hand, I admire the fact that Steve Harvey gives it to you straight and without a TRACE of subtlety (or sugar-coating if you will), the reasons why the majority of men ARE the way they are, and why we, as women, are unknowingly encouraging them to continue bad habits. He made some very valid points, though I felt that many of them should ALREADY be obvious to woman everywhere (i.e. set standards for yourself, RESPECT yourself in order to be respected, don't accept being just his "plaything"....like, cmon now).

On the other hand-and I suppose this has a lot to do with the fact that I was raised in a time where chivalry was (and still IS) unheard of, and feminist views were strongly imparted in schools and within society- I simply cannot accept Steve's obvious conclusion that women need to put forth MORE than half the effort to land a GOOD man. Steve even goes on to (indirectly) blame women for their cheating spouses; their child's uninvolved father. Call me young and ignorant, but the real truth here, is that boys in this day and age just AREN'T being taught to be REAL MEN anymore. Someone needs to write THEM a self-help book on how to smarten the HELL up.

Overall, I recommend this book for those with an open mind and a need to understand our male counterparts a little better-just take what you need from it.

End venting. ( )

While working, a library customer approached me asking for this particular book. And at once, I was intrigued by both her interest and the title. Once I started reading, I thought to myself: “Where was this book when I was dating?”

Steve Harvey offers practical advice for all ladies to the inner workings of the male mind; namely how they view themselves among other men and in society. In a nutshell, men view themselves in three categories: 1. Who they are, 2. What they do, and 3. How much he makes. And if he has all three things together, then he can focus on adding a woman into their lives.

Harvey offers advice on how to be a “keeper” instead of a “throwback,” what 3 things men are looking for in a woman (1. Support, 2, Loyalty, and 3, the “Cookie”). But Harvey’s quote about the fear of failure really spoke to me. “The number one cause of failure in this country is the fear of failure.” This can be applied to roughly everything. But in context, he was talking about not being afraid to lose your man just because you’re afraid you’ll find no one afterwards. ( )