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Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and…

Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents…

by Gavin de Becker

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You cannot protect your children from the unknown. You can only keep them safe if you are aware of what could potentially harm them. This book caused me to face my fears and discover ways to guard against them. I think all parents should read this honest and realistic, yet comforting, book. ( )
  AAM_mommy | Jun 2, 2014 |
  Bruno_Estigarribia | Mar 31, 2014 |
A fantastic book. I've purchased four so far for various relatives. de Becker's book: The Gift of Fear, is equally great and focuses on safety for adults, especially women. ( )
  CharlesBoyd | Mar 20, 2014 |
To me, the most interesting part of the book was the beginning, when he discusses how often people fail to listen to their instincts or voices of doubt before tragedy strikes. The babysitter who seemed distracted, the neighbor who seemed slightly creepy, the person n the store who struck up too long a conversation, etc. He discusses strategies used by predators, such “forced teaming” (trying to establish a bond, like having a shared interest) and not taking no for an answer, as well as common-sense strategies. For both children and adult women who need assistance, he suggests asking a woman for help rather than waiting to be approached by someone offering help.

In the second half of the book, he gets in details like choosing a pediatrician, school, babysitter, etc. for your child and suggests a level of scrutiny that many people (myself included) will find excessive. Still, the viewpoint is a useful one and I would encourage other parents to read the book; even if you don’t agree with it completely, you’ll learn something. ( )
  jholcomb | Dec 24, 2011 |
This book gives very practical advice on keeping children (and adults) safe, but it is not alarmist. It does not aim to "freak out" parents, rather it just makes you aware of some dangers, and lets you know what you can do to stay safe. In this regard it is actually empowering, which takes away a lot of fear. ( )
  AlexPearson | Feb 13, 2011 |
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Be warned: In many ways this is a terrifying book. It deals with a subject--violence against children--that most of us never want to consider. But, as Gavin de Becker stresses, such situations, though rare, can occur, so all parents must deal with the facts in order to protect their children properly. De Becker's aim is to create awareness of potential dangers and provide parents with the knowledge necessary for prevention and control. As he emphatically states in Protecting the Gift, much of this knowledge is already hard-wired in the form of intuition: "This natural ability is deep, brilliant, powerful. Nature's greatest accomplishment, the human brain, is stunningly efficient when its host is at risk, but when one's child is at risk, it moves to a whole new level, one we can justifiably call miraculous." The trick, he stresses, is trusting and acting on intuition.

In this valuable, even necessary, book, he shatters many myths about the typical profiles of regular offenders and the prevalence of such problems as sexual abuse and kidnapping. He also deconstructs the wisdom of traditional maxims such as "Never talk to strangers" and "If you are ever lost, go to a policeman." Without offering a compendium of every conceivable danger, he identifies warning signals and real risks that are often easy to spot once you know what to look for. He offers practical advice on recognizing signs of sexual abuse, choosing a baby sitter or nanny, how to prepare kids for walking to school alone, and how to teach children about potential risks without making them afraid to venture out of the house. And he continually stresses that denial and ignoring intuition are the biggest mistakes that parents make in protecting their kids from those that mean them harm. Well written and infinitely informative, Protecting the Gift affords parents more confidence and less reason for unnecessary worry. --Shawn Carkonen

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An authority on human violence shares advice on how parents can protect their children from being victimized, explains how to minimize danger, and discusses such topics as school safety, teenage dating, and firearms.

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