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Nurture Shock (Korean Edition) by Po Bronson

Nurture Shock (Korean Edition) (edition 2009)

by Po Bronson, Ashley Merryman

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Title:Nurture Shock (Korean Edition)
Authors:Po Bronson
Other authors:Ashley Merryman
Info:Mulpurae (2009), Paperback, 390 pages
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Tags:Non Fiction, parenting, read in 2010, autograph

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NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children by Po Bronson


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A pair of journalists sum up recent research on childrearing. Some is seemingly obvious:
Praise efforts, not intrinsic qualities.
Make sure children get enough sleep, in a consistent pattern.
Talk about race with children, because they're noticing on their own and they may come to erroneous conclusions. (I actually really liked part of this section, because it talks about how children watch their parents for how to respond to others--and if white kids see that their white parents only have white friends, or are uncomfortable around people of color, they'll mirror that.)
Adults are bad at telling when a child is lying, and need to respond when their children lie.
Siblings fight, but this isn't necessarily harmful or the sign of a bad relationship, and they rarely fight over parental love or attention.
Having conversations with babies helps them learn language.

I was surprised by the research into teen arguments with their parents: apparently its often motivated by a desire to connect and find agreement. It's not necessarily a sign that they're trying to destroy the relationship or that they don't respect the parent (if they truly don't respect their parent, they'll ignore them and do what they please).
And I hadn't heard that no early test for intelligence (emotional, physical, or whatever) is particularly good at predicting later intelligence or achievement; kids' intelligence scores aren't reliable until 11 or 12, because neurons, the cerebral cortex, and connections between nerve capsules are still developing, often very rapidly in short periods of time during childhood. Too, children use different clusters of their brain to think. "Smart" kids are the ones who have shifted processing to the same network as adults. The authors make a compelling argument that testing for "gifted" programs should take place later in childhood; testing preschoolers miscategorizes well over half (the authors say 73%) of children.

The ideas are interesting, but I was annoyed at the tendentious, breezy way the authors talked about the included studies. They flit from one to the next, proclaiming a single interpretation as the One Truth and then hustling along to the next topic. The lack of critical thought frustrated me and made me doubt their conclusions. ( )
  wealhtheowwylfing | Feb 29, 2016 |
This book covers several areas of developmental psychology in an accessible way- it reminded me a lot of Freakanomics, for child psychology instead of social psychology. I liked this book better than Freakanomics though in that more studies were covered for a given topic and the topics seemed tighter. The authors, journalists, supplemented just reading the articles with interviewing and sometimes observing the studies of some of the leading researchers in the fields.

Topics covered: Praise, Sleep, Race, Lying, Intelligence/IQ tests, Siblings, Teen Rebellion, Self-Control, Aggression, and Language Development.

Note that most of the studies presented (and topics overall) are about younger children (infants - preschool). Since I currently have a toddler that fit with my interests very well.

Some of the studies and conclusions were familiar to me because I have a background in educational psychology, but I haven't been involved in academia for awhile and even when I was I only focused on certain areas. So many of these studies were new to me. There's a bibliography at the end that I plan to take advantage of to learn more from the original sources. ( )
  kparr | Dec 31, 2015 |
Nurture Shock’s basic premise is to take traditional parenting techniques and ideas and turn them on their heads. For instance the first chapter, called The In Inverse Power of Praise, is about how over praising children can have the opposite effect of what the parent intended. The child’s performance may actually decrease. Each chapter cites studies and research the authors have uncovered to support their conclusions. Most of the authors’ assertions make total sense after they explain the research that’s been done on the subject in question, even though it contradicts conventional wisdom.

My favorite chapter, that I think every parent should read, is Why White Parents Don’t Talk About Race. I have long railed against the notion of color-blindness being a sincere or realistic perspective and this chapter helps explain why. When parents don’t talk about race, it leaves children confused and often thinking any mention of race must be bad because their parents never talk about it.

This book is more about how children’s brains work and doesn’t have that many specific techniques that a parent could just lift out of the book and put into practice. However, if a parent has a better understand of how her child’s brain works and what her thought processes are, then she will be better able to come up with ways of dealing with her child that works for her family.

I think this is definitely one book every parent should have in his/her arsenal. ( )
1 vote mcelhra | May 29, 2015 |
I like evidence-based claims; not because the evidence makes the claim inherently true but because those claims are testable. At any rate, the author of this book did a good job of presenting his case and keeping the dialog interesting. I particularly enjoyed the chapter on language development and I wish I had read this book (and done other research) prior to fatherhood. ( )
  jimocracy | Apr 18, 2015 |
最早是從張大春的部落格看到這本書。後來在書店中看到,看了一下背面, ​
提到EQ被誤解的問題,引起了我的好奇心。最後從圖書館借來看。 ​

書中其實是近年來教育、認知、發展心理學界對於兒童成長研究成果的集結,面相極廣,但不外乎針對教育的問​題:怎麼樣的孩子才是好孩子?我該怎麼樣培養?書中舉出許多新近的研究成果表明過去媒體以及廠商大肆宣傳的​「科學」定見已經被後來的研究更新或推翻:如​EQ的概念欠缺科學根據,讚美只有在特定的條件下才能夠發揮好的作用。書中也說明為什麼現在的普遍看法不對,以​及新的理解。叫這本書「震撼」,並不為過。對於新手爸媽來說,這其中提供了一些知識,乃至於方法(但大多數​無法透過想像理解);而對於一般的成年人而言,也可藉此回顧過去的成長歷程,看看自己現在的問題是否源自過​去的錯誤教養方式。如果是,那麼這些問題便是可以被解決的。 ​

書中呈現的一個主題是科學與社會、商業之間的巧妙關係:社會需要科學的知識,但科學的知識卻往往被商業操​弄,甚至難以傳達給社會。這問題的存在使得我們的許多「知識」並不正確。對於這樣​STS的問題而言,這本書也提供了一個有趣的個案。總的來說,這是一本值得一讀的書。​ ( )
  windhongtw | Apr 1, 2015 |
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But to judge from these pages, the authors are a bit too enthralled with their academic sources. Their penchant for describing psychological studies and research projects as if they were chemistry experiments, with phrases like “the test of scientific analysis” and “the science of peer relations,” conjure up the image of Thomas Dolby repeatedly exhorting “Science!” ......Bronson has adroitly polished a fairly unoriginal subject into high-gloss pop psychology.

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In a world of modern, involved, caring parents, why are so many kids aggressive and cruel? Where is intelligence hidden in the brain, and why does that matter? Why do cross-racial friendships decrease in schools that are more integrated? If 98% of kids think lying is morally wrong, then why do 98% of kids lie? What's the single most important thing that helps infants learn language?
NurtureShock is a groundbreaking collaboration between award-winning science journalists Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman. They argue that when it comes to children, we've mistaken good intentions for good ideas. With impeccable storytelling and razor-sharp analysis, they demonstrate that many of modern society's strategies for nurturing children are in fact backfiring--because key twists in the science have been overlooked.
Nothing like a parenting manual, the authors' work is an insightful exploration of themes and issues that transcend children's (and adults') lives.

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Award-winning science journalists Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman demonstrate that many of modern society's strategies for nurturing children are in fact backfiring--because key twists in the science of child development have been overlooked. The authors discuss the inverse power of praise, why insufficient sleep adversely affects kids' capacity to learn, why white parents don't talk about race, why kids lie, why evaluation methods for "giftedness" and accompanying programs don't work, and why siblings really fight.… (more)

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