Sometimes you just need someone else to give you permission (and scripts) to say no. ( )

This was excellent reading and then the last chapter about "no and compromising" and respecting other people's nos, moved it from good to great. I've read a fair few of these books at this stage and they're a bit repeditive but in each one there's a nugget of great in every one. This one is no exception, realising that I'm a People Pleaser who also Overachieves and a bit of a Pushover. Sometimes the person I need to say no to is me.

And that's the truth of it, sometimes it's not just other people you need to say no to but also yourself. You need to find the right nos to say to everyone.

This book has also good notes to fill out with your own stuff. using her templates you can say no to a variety of people and it's a good start. ( )

I enjoy Sarah Knight's book so much. Her blunt wisdom and practical techniques are approachable and relatable. I am working on being less of a “yes” person and one of the biggest things I have learned(and am still working on!) is that saying “NO” can actually help you say “YES” to the things that really matter to you.

In F*ck No, Knight offers practical ideas that can help you say "no" in a variety of circumstances while also being realistic about it which I really appreciated. Saying yes all the time sounds like a good thing, but then you just feel spread too thin and aren’t really there for the people and things that you really want to be prioritizing. Her insights are the perfect balance of humor and useful tools to help work towards our own individual goals of setting boundaries in real-world situations.

I got so much out this one and I highly recommend it! Thank you to NetGalley and Little, Brown & Company for an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review. ( )

there's some good information here and probably something in here that everyone needs to hear (a different something for different people). and she made me chuckle at least a few times.

but overall i wasn't into it. the tone wasn't right for me. i get what she was doing but i would have found it more useful if it seemed like she was taking it more seriously, and if her examples of "things you could say" were more realistic. sometimes they were ok and sometimes they were useful and sometimes they felt super rude and sometimes they felt entirely unrealistic. i do think, though, that it's an important discussion that we should be having about boundaries and how we both say what we need and accept hearing what someone else needs when it's not what someone else wants or is asking for.

the author did a good job with the audio, and there was some good stuff here, just maybe not a book's worth. ( )

Best for:
Fans of Knight’s previous work (like me); people who need some tips for how to set boundaries with others and themselves (also like me).

In a nutshell:
Knight offers suggestions and tips for how to say no in pretty much any given situation.

Worth quoting:
“Most people do not care nearly as much about how you live your life as you think they do.”
“It’s okay to protect our mental, emotional, and physical health by saying no to our bosses if we feel we need to and that it’s realistic to do so.”

Why I chose it:
I’ve read her other three books (though not the two related journals) in the No Fucks Given series and mostly enjoyed them.

Review:
My first book reviewed in 2019 was Knight’s ‘Calm the Fuck Down,’ and it genuinely helped me. I mean, I’m still full of anxiety, but I can manage it better. So when I heard this book was coming out at the end of 2019 I thought, why not make it my first review for 2020?

I tend to have trouble saying no to family requests (which luckily are quite few and far between, though that’s probably why I’m more disinclined to pass on things I don’t want to do) and, lately, with requests from my football coach. I have trouble balancing being there for the family (or team) and what I believe will be best for me. Where is the line between self-care and selfishness? Fuck if I know.

But that’s not so much what this book is about. It’s about primarily HOW to say no once one has decided that they cannot / should not / do not want to do something. And there are some great tips and amusing anecdotes. I enjoy Knight’s writing style, and found the book to be a pretty quick read despite being nearly 300 pages long.

Keep it / Pass to a Friend / Donate it / Toss it:
Keep it ( )