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You Were Always Mom's Favorite!:…

You Were Always Mom's Favorite!: Sisters in Conversation Throughout…

by Deborah Tannen

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Having read and enjoyed a few of Deborah Tannen’s books and as a person with two sisters, I was intrigued about what she could reveal about these unique relationships. Tannen offers a linguist’s view ((Professor at Georgetown University) of how sisters relate. Specifically, she analyzes sister’s relationship issues using their conversations as her guide. Like all important relationships those of sisters are complicated and at times, fraught with difficulties. By observing sister’s conversations, she discusses the special dynamics of these relationships. Some of the aspects discussed are e.g. the love and hate aspects, competition, the sister relationship within the larger family dynamic, roles assigned and chosen, special “sister speech”, strong and weak ties and conflict issues. If you have sisters this book may enlighten and if you don’t have sisters, this book will illuminate what you are missing out on…mostly good.

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  mcpl.wausau | Sep 25, 2017 |
Helpful insights into the relationship between sisters, demonstrated for the most part by language, which is Tannen's metier. The style is easy and confidential, like a conversation over dinner, but a little repetitive. Nevertheless, I think it might help my relationship with my sister. ( )
  ffortsa | May 10, 2012 |
I had hoped for more from Deborah Tannen's latest foray into the hidden messages we convey in conversation. While I enjoy Tannen's ideas and writing style, I found this book disorganized; I had to keept rechecking the table of contents to see which section I was reading. Was it about older sisters? Wait, then why does she keep talking about younger sisters? With each new section, I hoped for a new, organized set of insights; instead it seemed like she kept saying the same things over and over. I came away from the book feeling that there really was nothing much to say about sisters in conversation that couldn't be said of practically anyone in conversation.

I did like the stories, though. My favorite was the younger sister who heard about her brother-in-law's sudden death and called her sister: "Dad told me about Greg. *pause* Is this a bad time to tell you what's going on in MY life?" Haha, well, YES. ( )
  2chances | Sep 15, 2010 |
I tried to read this and was only able to get through the first couple of chapters before getting bored. Then I found the audio version (read by the author) and enjoyed it much more. Not surprisingly, I guess, the author’s conversational style seemed better suited for listening than for reading. Her tone is witty and the anecdotes insightful. As the youngest of four with two older sisters, I saw myself and my sisters several times, not only in how we communicate verbally, but also in how we relate to each other. Sisters have complicated relationships and I do have a better understanding now of why I am like I am when I’m with them. If you’re a woman with a sister or two, you might find this interesting but I recommend the audio. ( )
1 vote Copperskye | Jan 5, 2010 |
Watch Bethanne Patrick interview Deborah Tannen about "You Were Always Mom's Favorite" on The Book Studio.
  thebookstudio | Nov 10, 2009 |
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Siblings will jump on this book to read about pigeonholing (who's the pretty one? who's the smart one?), power dynamics (older sister as "mini-mom"), and the coded messages, fond or furious, that only the person who knows you best will understand.
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Explores the connections among sisters throughout their childhood years into adulthood, including competitiveness, age differences, and lifelong friendships.

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