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Please Understand Me : Character and…

Please Understand Me : Character and Temperament Types (original 1978; edition 1978)

by David Keirsey (Author)

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A 40 year clinical study of differences in temperament and character in mating, parneting, teaching and leading. Defines four types: Dionysians (SP), Epimethians (SJ), Prometheans (NT) and Apollonians (NF). Keirsey Temperament Sorter included.
Title:Please Understand Me : Character and Temperament Types
Authors:David Keirsey (Author)
Info:B & D Books (1978), Edition: Fifth Edition
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Please Understand Me: Character & Temperament Types by David Keirsey (1978)


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Let's be clear - I am not rating this a 5 because it's a great book. It's not. As others have pointed out, there is a lot of bias (and some sexism) here. I am rating it a 5 because it's a great tool I have been able to return to again and again for insight into my own behavior and relationships. By far the best temperament sorter I've ever found (in terms of the results actually being accurate - I will never forget the shock of reading my description and having my internal thought process described on the page). The new version may be better; I don't know as I haven't read it. But definitely a great tool. ( )
  amyotheramy | May 11, 2021 |
Great for discovering more about yourself and others around you and finding ways to motivate yourself and improve. ( )
1 vote Bekalyn | Feb 15, 2018 |
The process is the thing - learning and growing comfortable with who you are. Kiersey is number 2 after Isabelle Myers and Dorothy Briggs, Gift Differing. ( )
1 vote 823icc | Sep 28, 2013 |
I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!


"INFJs can intuit good and evil in others, although they seldom can tell how they came to know. Subsequent events tend to bear them out, however."

"[INFJs:] are masters of the metaphor, and both their verbal and written communications tend to be elegant and complex." ( )
1 vote KidSisyphus | Apr 5, 2013 |
Mostly a review of a variety of personality type schemes and an un-useful descriptor of why one type wouldn't understand another, with little in the way of suggestions. Obligatory self-quizes. ( )
  2wonderY | Jan 23, 2012 |
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Does your spouse's need to alphabetically organize books on the shelves puzzle you? Do your boss's tsunami-like moods leave you exasperated? Do your child's constant questions make you batty? If you've ever wanted to change your mate, your coworkers, or a family member, then "Put down your chisel," advise David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates in this book of personality types. We are different for a reason, and that reason is probably more good than bad. Keirsey and Bates believe that not only is it impossible to truly change others (which they call embarking on a "Pygmalion project"), it's much more important to understand and affirm differences. Sounds easier than it is, you might say. Well, this book is a guide for putting an end to the Pygmalion projects in your life and starting on the path to acceptance.

For anyone acquainted with the ubiquitous Myers-Briggs personality test, Please Understand Me will be familiar territory--but gone over with a fine-toothed comb. And for the uninitiated, this book will be a quick introduction to personality typing the Myers-Briggs way--with a Jungian accent. After presenting a brief rundown of 20th-century psychology movements, Keirsey and Bates encourage you to take the 70-question "Keirsey Temperament Sorter," a sort of mini-Myers-Briggs test that places you in 1 of 16 personality types. Like the Myers-Briggs system, this test sorts your personality into groups of extraversion/introversion (E/I), sensation/intuition (S/N), thinking/feeling (T/F), and perceiving/judging (P/J). Unlike the Myers-Briggs system, Please Understand Me also presents four easy-to-remember temperament types--Dionysian (freedom first), Epimethean (wants to be useful), Promethean (desires power), and Apollonian (searches for self)--that underlie the 16 possible personalities identified by the test. The book then delves into a detailed analysis of each type, with sections on mates, children, and leaders. An appendix paints portraits of the 16 possible personality types.

Unless you're already a true personality-typing devotee, this book may seem a little esoteric, especially the somewhat "in" references to psychological theory that few laypeople will be likely to understand. But give it a chance and you may find that you'll begin to understand why you always know where to find Anna Karenina on the shelf (you have an ESTJ husband), why your boss is sarcastic one day and praises your achievements the next (she's an NF), and why knowing the reason that the sun comes up in the same place every day is important to your little one (he's Promethean). You may even find that once you accept quirks and ticks in others, they will understand you a little better, too.

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A 40 year clinical study of differences in temperament and character in mating, parneting, teaching and leading. Defines four types: Dionysians (SP), Epimethians (SJ), Prometheans (NT) and Apollonians (NF). Keirsey Temperament Sorter included.

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