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You Don't Have to Say You Love Me: A Memoir (original 2017; edition 2017)

by Sherman Alexie (Author)

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Biography & Autobiography. Multi-Cultural. Nonfiction. HTML:A searing, deeply moving memoir about family, love, loss, and forgiveness from the critically acclaimed, bestselling National Book Award-winning author of The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian.
Family relationships are never simple. But Sherman Alexie's bond with his mother Lillian was more complex than most. She plunged her family into chaos with a drinking habit, but shed her addiction when it was on the brink of costing her everything. She survived a violent past, but created an elaborate facade to hide the truth. She selflessly cared for strangers, but was often incapable of showering her children with the affection that they so desperately craved. She wanted a better life for her son, but it was only by leaving her behind that he could hope to achieve it. It's these contradictions that made Lillian Alexie a beautiful, mercurial, abusive, intelligent, complicated, and very human woman.
When she passed away, the incongruities that defined his mother shook Sherman and his remembrance of her. Grappling with the haunting ghosts of the past in the wake of loss, he responded the only way he knew how: he wrote. The result is a stunning memoir filled with raw, angry, funny, profane, tender memories of a childhood few can imagine, much less survive. An unflinching and unforgettable remembrance, You Don't Have to Say You Love Me is a powerful, deeply felt account of a complicated relationship.
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Title:You Don't Have to Say You Love Me: A Memoir
Authors:Sherman Alexie (Author)
Info:Little, Brown and Company (2017), Edition: 1, 464 pages
Collections:Library book / borrowed, Your library, Currently reading, Read but unowned, Favorites
Rating:*****
Tags:2017-reading-list, autobiography, authors-i-love, important, non-fiction

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You Don't Have to Say You Love Me: A Memoir by Sherman Alexie (2017)

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Wow! I really enjoyed this unusual memoir. Unusual in that half of it was his heartfelt poetry (I liked it!) and t have never heard of him before.
He is a Spokane Indian growing up on the "Rez". He is tortured by his unresolved relationship with his mother (now dead). Another associated issue was his mother and grandmother were apparently the result of a rape. A lot of pain, grief and trauma was revealed in these pages. ( )
  camplakejewel | Nov 14, 2023 |
Very beautifully written and heartbreaking. Not to excuse his actions, but it definitely puts what happened into context. ( )
  ElektraBurgos | Oct 23, 2023 |
Towards the end a bit repetitive... but overall interesting. ( )
  ubgle | Aug 26, 2023 |
absolutely beautiful. and heartbreaking. the power. the passion. that Sherman Alexie puts into this book.. i will never forget this one. i cried and i laughed sometimes both at the same time. he is so good at mixing humor with serious topics. Alexie knows how to move you and if you think you don't like poetry, he'll show you that you actually do. he is such a great storyteller and we are all very lucky to have him sharing his stories with us. ( )
  Ellen-Simon | Jan 18, 2023 |
Please consider the two-star rating as petty. I hadn't expected the book to clock in at over four hundred pages. A lot of the stories are repeated, which at first is charming, but gets emotionally disorienting after the third time. A large part of my emotional reaction to this book was because I've been reading, analyzing and writing about various works of Alexie's since i was in eighth grade. Nothing works faster to make me dislike reading, than if I have to analyze it. I'm nearly thirty and can remember so clearly what it was like to read various works of his knowing I had an essay due on it in a week. I read the first fifty pages of this and tried so, so hard to snap out of the "The essay must be in Times New Roman twelve font, and don't double-space it!" mode. It didn't work. I wanted to shout at certain points, "I have all my themes! Can I outline now?" I feel so childish admitting that, but these books were deeply rooted into all my schools' curriculums, from eighth grade into college. Part of that is because I'm from Western Washington, and he's well-respected here. I greatly appreciate that now that I'm an adult, but--I've only read two of his works for fun, ever. This was the second. I am sorry for the author's loss, and I do appreciate his success and have learned a lot from his books. ( )
  iszevthere | Jun 23, 2022 |
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In 1972 or 1973, or maybe in 1974, my mother and father hosted a dangerous New Year’s Eve party at our home in Wellpinit, Washington, on the Spokane Indian Reservation.
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Biography & Autobiography. Multi-Cultural. Nonfiction. HTML:A searing, deeply moving memoir about family, love, loss, and forgiveness from the critically acclaimed, bestselling National Book Award-winning author of The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian.
Family relationships are never simple. But Sherman Alexie's bond with his mother Lillian was more complex than most. She plunged her family into chaos with a drinking habit, but shed her addiction when it was on the brink of costing her everything. She survived a violent past, but created an elaborate facade to hide the truth. She selflessly cared for strangers, but was often incapable of showering her children with the affection that they so desperately craved. She wanted a better life for her son, but it was only by leaving her behind that he could hope to achieve it. It's these contradictions that made Lillian Alexie a beautiful, mercurial, abusive, intelligent, complicated, and very human woman.
When she passed away, the incongruities that defined his mother shook Sherman and his remembrance of her. Grappling with the haunting ghosts of the past in the wake of loss, he responded the only way he knew how: he wrote. The result is a stunning memoir filled with raw, angry, funny, profane, tender memories of a childhood few can imagine, much less survive. An unflinching and unforgettable remembrance, You Don't Have to Say You Love Me is a powerful, deeply felt account of a complicated relationship.

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