Considering the topics reviewed (porn, BDSM, alternative lifestyles), I really wasn't sure if I would get a real benefit out of reading this book. However, the topics covered, including sexual fantasy, were very educational. It wasn't just about what those things entailed, or how people incorporated them in their lives, but the book also explored the "whys" people are driven to do what they do. The book was able to explain effectively the difference between normal sexual fantasy versus crossing the line. The book does not condemn those who are struggling, and yet it does not cross the line to stimulate the mind to want to act on those hardcore fantasies. I would definitely recommend it to any adult. ( )

I read the Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the deeper meaning behind sexual struggle, in exchange for review from Booksneeze.com. The book was written by Shannon Etheridge and Steven Arteburn. I chose this book because I have been celibate for almost two years. I had a serious sexual addiction, porn addiction, and masturbation addiction. I still struggle with issues, but not as bad as I used to be.This book is written from a Christian perspective.

The book talked about how fantasies can make you want more sex. Fantasies also can cause unwanted expectations in relationships. Fantasies also can depersonalize sex and may ruin potential relationships.

Not all fantasies are bad, a fantasy can help heal pain, motivate towards a goal, or help you through a life transition.

The book also discusses types of fantasies (autoerotic, erotic, and illicit). It also discusses the repression of fantasies and sublimation (redirecting sexual energy elsewhere). The book also discusses how porn and voyeurism affects individuals.

Finally, the book discusses new ways to look at fantasies. Maybe the fantasy fulfills a psychological nee

Where the Fifty Shades of Grey novel by the British author E.L. James which glorifies BSDM and the young girl versus old man role playying got the of attention by millions of female readers last year, a critical look for the reason for reading and watching books and erotic movies, pornography or practices like prostitution and incest is necessary. In case you’d think that Christians aren’t fantasizing and practicing these, you’ve been living on another planet, didn’t watch the news and need to wake up. Maybe you recognize some or much of it in your own life. Then you may expect a harsh preaching from a well-known Christian writer with a black or white approach, pointing the finger and pulling the trigger. No, Shannon Ethridge, known for her contributions to the Every Women’s Battle takes a different approach. Her thesis: “Fantasies are simply the brain’s way of trying to heal itself from unresolved tragedies and traumas. We mentally compartmentalize our pain to make room for pleasure.” She has lots of statistics and people that came to her for counseling.
Fantasy can be healthy, but also undermine healthful relationships and personal development. Fantasies may harmed your self-image and did serious psychological damage. Don’t let fantasies rule you, let’s take out the sting and bring the sexual oriented fantasies under God’s rule, get healing from the brokenness, loneliness and insecurities.
With an open-mind, free from condemnation Ethridge explores the fascination with pornography, the mental or actual pursuit of multiple partners, the lure of gay and lesbian desires and the fascination with pleasure, pain, And power. It’s has a balanced psychological / theological approach, much like Michael John Cusick – Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle intended for male readers. A book can’t do it all. And so, a 12 steps to recovery and recommended resources for your church / home library are given as well. And if you want to know why and how you should respond to the Fifty Shades of Grey Phenomenon, Shannon shares her thoughts. ( )