The Dance of Intimacy

by Harriet Lerner

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Series: Dance books (2)

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The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner (1985)
Same series: The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life, The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desper (Dance books)
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Same series: Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love (Mars and Venus)
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix (1990)
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An excellent companion to the Dance of Anger. (

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thesmellofbooks | Nov 8, 2008 |

The most interesting aspect of this book for me was how relationships in one's first family impact the relationships one has now (marriage, children, friendships, etc). It got me thinking about my childhood experiences and how they impact what I'm willing to risk now. (

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tjsjohanna | Oct 1, 2007 |

A self-help book that I actually like a lot! It fits in with some Bowenian theories and have suggested it to some of my clients, who found it helpful. (

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wafflelips | Mar 2, 2007 |

Discusses relationship, the roles people take within them, triangles and the importance of maintaining one’s self. Talks about ‘over-functioning and under-functioning people and how their roles effect 1-2-1 relationships and impacts on triangles. You can get lots out of this book to help you deal with relationships whether it be with family, friends or partners. (

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rayski | Feb 19, 2007 |

Author is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist at Menninger Clinic in Topeka, KS.

Reaction to anxiety.
Polarized reactions.
Over-functioning vs Under-functioning.
How we can change.

Great book for me on over-functioning.
...why
....cost
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Author name	Role	Type of author	Work?	Status
Harriet Lerner	—	primary author	all editions	confirmed
Gregersen, Benedicte	Translator	secondary author	some editions	confirmed
Rinne, Olga	Translator	secondary author	some editions	confirmed
Zetterström, Gun	Translator	secondary author	some editions	confirmed

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In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter.

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Focuses on the anxiety that is born of unhappy relationships--with a loved one, best friend, or family member--and offers advice on how to improve relations.

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