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The Pleasers: Women Who Can't Say No-And the…

The Pleasers: Women Who Can't Say No-And the Men Who Control Them

by Kevin Leman

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Well written, easy to understand, good case studies provided. ( )
  mollybdenum | Apr 6, 2011 |
I always enjoy Dr. Leman's work, and this was another great installment in his writings on women who do too much at the expense of their own happiness. While I didn't particularly relate to many of the specific situations he discusses are typical of 'pleaser' women (ie. bad relationships with men, poor father figure influence), I know that I tend to take on too much and then put huge expectations on myself to complete things perfectly. I definitely have pleaser tendencies, so the book was a bit of a wake-up in terms of helping to remind me that if taking on a task or doing things for someone comes at the expense of my own sanity or quality of life, it's not worth it.

As I said, parts of the book weren't relevant to my life, so I glossed over those (and I suspect they apply to more extreme 'pleasers', I don't think I fall into that category), but overall it's a good reminder for women that we don't have to make everyone else happy in order to be happy ourselves. We can't please everyone 100% of the time, so why not focus on the people and tasks that actually matter instead? ( )
  dk_phoenix | Dec 30, 2010 |
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Many women try too hard to be nice. It's not a gimmick or a cute label. It's a way of life for many who live in a culture that subtly trains them to be the ones who "keep everyone happy." But what happens when keeping everyone else happy drains your own happiness? In this newly repackaged edition of an insightful book by best-selling author Kevin Leman, women will learn how to recognize what kind of pleaser they are, give themselves positive messages, choose a man who is right for them, and much more. Packed with wise counsel and illustrative case studies, Pleasers shows how women who find themselves manipulated by impassivity, guilt, or abusive behavior can learn to assert themselves while maintaining their pleasing personalities.

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