I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships

by Michael S. Sorensen

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What if making one tweak to your day-to-day conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life? In this 3-hour, conversational read, you ll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable (yet surprisingly little-known) communication skills available validation. Whether you re looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on a deeper level with friends and family, this book delivers simple, practical, proven techniques for improving any relationship in your life. Mastery of this simple skill will enable you to: Calm (and sometimes even eliminate) the concerns, fears, and uncertainties of others; Increase feelings of love, respect, and appreciation in your romantic relationships; Quickly resolve, or even prevent, arguments; Help others become open to your point of view; Give advice and feedback that sticks; Provide support and encouragement to others, even when you don t know how to fix the problem; And much more. In short: this skill is powerful. Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you ll be amazed at the difference they can make.… (more)

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This was a really interesting read, a book that highlighted the simple way that we can connect better with others in conversations/relationships by learning to be better active listeners. This is a simple skill I want to develop to be a better husband and generally becoming someone that people can talk to and feel heard and valued.

JourneyPC | Sep 26, 2022 |

Insightful & thoughtful

“I Hear You” provides great advice and examples on how to validate others and one’s self in an effort to foster better connections with others, improve relationships and simply be a better listener and better able to help others.

The methods can be used for so many different relationships, with self, coworkers, spouses, friends, love interests, etc.

After reading this book, I noticed when my roommate validated a frustration I was experiencing and how quickly I calmed down after hearing that. And he didn’t even read the book yet! :)

I’m looking forward to trying out the tactics and especially hope it helps foster self-compassion.

(I received this ebook via a Goodreads giveaway, with gratitude, and these are my unbiased thoughts.) (

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coffeefairy | Nov 21, 2020 |

This is one of the best self-improvement or skill-improvement guides that I have ever come across. It is short, concise, direct, and easy to digest. Like many others, I am sure, I have tried to use active listening techniques in the past and found them obvious, programmatic and insincere. This book describes a truly empathic way to listen.

Although I don't just expect to change my habits and approach quickly and completely (I am not that easy to change), I intend to go back to this a few more times to make sure I can extract as much as possible and get the greatest benefit from it. I have already recommended it to others and expect that it will be a frequent recommendation of mine in the future. (

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afkendrick | Oct 24, 2020 |

I won this in a GOODREADS giveaway. Another self help book. It was an ok read. Sometimes, it made me feel like I was chatting with my mother. Which is good, I think. (

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tenamouse67 | Jul 22, 2018 |

"Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart" - Richard Carlson

Such a simple concept and yet it seems like the need frequently goes unmet. Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is obviously listening to the words you're saying but didn't seem to get what you meant? Or understood your point and were obviously disconnected from the emotion or weight of the situation? I Hear You by Michael S. Sorensen is all about the power of validation and how to use it in your life. I have to say this little book is fantastic! Sorensen explains the problem and common traps we fall into, how we're unknowingly invaldiating by trying to jump straight to giving advice or negate a persons feelings with phrases like "you'll be fine" or "that's not true, you did great!" and the like. It explains why these conversations feel like they're unsatisfying. He then offers a very simple, easy to follow solution that I've already started incorporating into my daily life. I'm really glad I read this and would recommend it to others.

I won this book for free in a Goodreads giveaway. (

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Narilka | Mar 15, 2018 |

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What if making one tweak to your day-to-day conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life? In this 3-hour, conversational read, you ll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable (yet surprisingly little-known) communication skills available validation. Whether you re looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on a deeper level with friends and family, this book delivers simple, practical, proven techniques for improving any relationship in your life. Mastery of this simple skill will enable you to: Calm (and sometimes even eliminate) the concerns, fears, and uncertainties of others; Increase feelings of love, respect, and appreciation in your romantic relationships; Quickly resolve, or even prevent, arguments; Help others become open to your point of view; Give advice and feedback that sticks; Provide support and encouragement to others, even when you don t know how to fix the problem; And much more. In short: this skill is powerful. Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you ll be amazed at the difference they can make.

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