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Sign up for LibraryThing to find out whether you'll like this book. No current Talk conversations about this book. Audiobook may be available. ( ) Parenting from the Inside Out guides parents through creating the necessary foundations for loving and secure relationships with their children. The book explores the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way we parent. Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. Selected Reading Questionnaire. How your parents treated you, and how you internalized that, affects how you treat your kids. Hmm, not really a surprising statement there, is it? A lot of psychological mumbo-jumbo thrown about, complete with cross-sections of the brain. At one point in my life (fresh out of college) I would probably have found it fascinating and read each word, but now I just felt thickheaded so I skimmed and tried to pick out the key concepts. I feel like I didn't really need all that theory, I just needed to know what are some things I shouldn't do so I don't fuck up being a parent. The few examples, like about collaborative talk, were brilliant. Don't invalidate their feelings, but try to talk it out. I also heard on a Radiolab episode that our internal voice when we're thinking is actually based on how our parents talked us through something. So I was pretty interested in this. Like if a child falls down and isn't injured but starts crying, don't say "You weren't hurt. You're a big boy. You shouldn't cry." but instead "Looks like you got surprised when you fell down. Are you hurt?" I wish there had been more anecdotes, so I could get the hang of how to react and talk to children. I think I get the idea, but I could really have used more examples, especially about discipline and setting limits. A summary of the concepts at the end of each chapter would have been helpful (like a For Dummies) book. Because, you know, I'm a dummy. And I doubt a sleep-deprived new parent can clear the mind fog enough to appreciate psychobabble. My oversimplified summary: Empathize with your child, and describe back a situation to him in they way you think he/she sees it. And don't lie (saying you're fine when actually you're not), because they can pick up on nonverbal signals. I wish there were workshops based on this where people present a scenario, have parents act, then guide them on what might be a better way to act and what to say. definitely has good information and things to think about. i believe in the importance of attachment, but some parts of the book i thought went too far in stressing consequences of insecure attachments. i think i am also just too exhausted right now to read and truly appreciate a book that's written like a textbook. no reviews | add a review
Explores the extent to which our childhood experiences shape the way we parent, drawing on new findings in neurobiology and attachment research and explaining how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain. Offers parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories. No library descriptions found. |
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