Jay Wiseman

I read this while stranded in an airport, waiting for my delayed flight to come in. I deeply enjoyed the looks I got from people around me when I read the pages with illustrations.

Very good as a technical manual. The safety recommendations put the fear of God into me. It was really good to get an EMT's (and a top's) perspective on how to kink safely. I also liked his whole checklist of things to negotiate before a scene.

Overall, though, I think it compares unfavorably to [b:The New Topping show more Book|503943|The New Topping Book|Dossie Easton|https://d202m5krfqbpi5.cloudfront.net/books/1364720425s/503943.jpg|2041898] as an intro for new kinksters. It doesn't go as far into why people do kink or the right frame of mind for going into a scene. show less

This book lives up to its title. It really is a "realistic introduction" for people who are interested in getting started into the world of BDSM (the current PC acronym for S&M). The author intended for people to read straight through it, though he reports that many people use it as a reference work, turning to the section they're most interested in reading about.

SM101 is much more for people who are interested in, or curious about, participating in BDSM activities, than it is for someone show more trying to understand from the outside. There is some introductory material which would be of use for the second sort of reader, but it's presented more as background material before delving into the details than it is an overview for outsiders.

Mr. Wiseman has an EMT background, and is a strong exponent of safety in one's BDSM practice. Within the BDSM world, there is some controversy over safety and acceptable risk, and Wiseman comes down very strongly on the low-risk end of things. Despite the controversy over the level of safety appropriate for experienced BDSM "players", for people beginning to explore BDSM, who are the intended audience of this book, it's appropriate to strongly emphasize safety for acts which carry significant risks. show less

A very wonderful and detailed introduction to SM... so much information, well-written, includes negotiation forms and drawings of rope techniques.

Could be a little clearer, but still fun to practice!