X That Ex: Making a Clean Break When It's Over

This is the best book of its kind I have ever seen.

Having been twice divorced and having had more than one long-term relationship, I thought this book might be of use when I saw it offered on Library Thing's Early Reviewers list. I was fortunate to get a copy.

If you're involved in a toxic relationship with a manipulative ex-, this book will help you with practical advice about how and why you should end it. With chapters like "Your Ex-'s Defensive Plays" and "Your Ex'-s Offensive Plays", and further chapters titled, "Standing Behind Your Truth" and "Setting Yourself Up for Success", this well-written book carefully combats each myth and bit of garbage you might hear from others as you seek to extricate yourself from a bad relationship. show more

Although the book is written specifically for those involved in relationships with violent, manipulative men, its quality advice could be applied to any relationship that needs to end, for whatever reason. I can't praise it nearly enough. If you're starting a separation and you suspect it will get ugly, crack open your wallet and get this book before it does. show less

This is one of the best books I've read that has dealt with leaving someone, either in a semi-healthy or a dysfunctional relationship. Having been out of a domestic violence/abusive relationship the information provided would have been excellent during that time in my life but, as in most cases, I wouldn't have been able to read it then. Hind sight - being 20-20 - has given me the tools to avoid those types of situations but Kristin Carmichael has described scenarios and provided sensible solutions. HUZZAH Ms. Carmichael for putting what took more than ten years to learn into print.

If you have ever found yourself wondering how you keep ending up with someone who is very toxic and are ready to break the cycle, "X that Ex" is a great start.

Through straight-forward messages and clear-cut language, the author delivers a message to women (although she emphasizes at the outset that it is for anyone) that respects their emotional vulnerability coming out of a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship but tells them what they need to know.

If you have ever been in a toxic relationship, this book is filled with "aha" moments. It explains the psychology and thought process of someone who is abusive in laymen's terms and is very accessible so that anyone can identify the tactics and techniques that have been or could be show more used on them while vulnerable.

I especially like the segment included at the back that speaks to family and friends of women who have found themselves with the wrong partner. Often times the people who love and truly do care for a victim of toxic relationships, in trying to help, say and do all the wrong things and send a message that adds to the damage and insecurity that person is already feeling. It offers better solutions on how to support a person trying to close an ugly chapter in her life. show less

X that Ex is an excellent book at successfully dealing with the emotional turmoil that comes when leaving a bad relationship of any kind. That turmoil can often times send a person right back into the bad relationship they left in the first place because the staying gone can sometimes be the hardest part. Kristin Carmichael, author of the book, hits the nail on the head as she address tactics used by Exes to get their spouses/partners/friends back into relationships. Carmichael not only uses stories and examples from clients but also has self-discovery exercises throughout the book to help the reader recognize the examples in his/her own life. The first part of the book addresses lies and excuses that Exes will use to lure, entice, or show more even coerce individuals back to them. The second part address tools to help avoid and deal with the lies and excuses from Exes found in part one. Although this book addressed a situation I was not currently in I found it to be very informative. The tips and examples used helped me to recognize and better understand a previous bad relationship I was in and to have gratitude for being able to finally break free from it and to stay gone. Overall, I am glad to have this book included in my library and would recommend it to anyone who is contemplating leaving a bad relationship or has had the bravery to do it and needs a guide to X that Ex for good! show less

I do not believe I originally requested this, however, I found this book very helpful for anyone going through a divorce or breakup. The author did a good job pinpointing various tactics and lines that controlling partners use in order to win back someone trying to leave. She also has some journaling pages in order for one to self reflect, which I think would be helpful. I do not think this book is really for someone who is in an abusive relationship, but I do think this will help someone who knows they need to get out of a relationship going nowhere. Very well written.

Although this book had some good advice for trying to keep yourself from getting back into a bad relationship, I found it to be rather repetitive overall. Basically it all boils down to having enough inner strength to stay away from the person who isn't good for you, regardless of whether you still love him or not. Easier said than done, which is why this book does serve as a good reminder of what not to do and what you can do to help break free. Not a plethora of helpful ideas, but not useless either.

Even though this is not the type of book I usually read, I found it interesting. It provides some insight as to why some people keep ending up in bad or toxic relationships. I think it would be great for anyone who has been in or is in dysfunctional relationship to read this book.