My Exaggerated Life: Pat Conroy

Oh, the gift of this delightful book. The thing about Pat Conroy is those who get him really get him and can never get enough. It has been repeatedly written that readers feel as if they know him. That he wrote in the first person was part of what spawned the relationship between Conroy and his readers, the rest of it is that he had an uncanny way of unabashedly calling things by name and spoke for us. And any Conroy devotee knew he was healing his shattered history by veiling it in fiction. We knew it and didn’t care because not only was he charming, he was a master storyteller. Conroy wrote from the center of his sardonic personality. Once he had you, he dove down to universal truth and brought you to your knees. This business of show more life is not for the meek, he suggested, but there is rhyme to it, poetry, in fact, and in his fiction, he figured out how to survive it.
My Exaggerated Life gives us the man behind the curtain. On its cover is Conroy wearing his infamous flight jacket and Citadel ring, which his fans will recognize as symbols of his personal narrative. Conroy was that kind of writer. His books were mind-altering drugs and his readers were addicts who had to have more. Katherine Clark has given us more in what seems to me a labor of love. That she spent two hundred hours listening to Conroy spill out his life over the telephone to assemble this book makes me jealous, but I’ll overlook that in favor of the resounding result.
What struck me most in reading My Exaggerated Life was the realization that there was no separating the man from his craft. It’s Conroy’s voice that does it. In these pages speaks a storyteller of the highest order telling an incredibly entertaining story, it just so happens to be culled from a series of events in his life. You can intuit the haphazard way he stumbled from cause to effect as his writing career took shape. Reading Conroy’s books always made me feel they were born without effort, so to discover in this riveting book just where the struggle had been hit me as staggering—not because parts were painful to read, but because he framed it in such a human way that readers will think, you too?
At the end of My Exaggerated Life, Katherine Clark shares the speech Pat Conroy delivered spontaneously before a crowd of adoring fans in Beaufort, South Carolina at his 70th birthday celebration. In it, Conroy claims “What I wanted to be as a writer, I wanted to be a complete brave man that I am not in my real life.” He did just this in My Exaggerated Life. In an act of bravery, Pat Conroy told his story, and author Katherine Clark captured it in a book that is one for the archives. show less

Pat Conroy is one of my favorite authors. I’ve read most everything he’s written. This book, a biography of him, is one I wish I had skipped. First of all, much of it is contained in one of his autobiographical books, and second, this book reads more like a transcript of the sessions he had with his shrink than it does a biography. In fact, each chapter of this book contains comments from his psychiatrist about Conroy’s sessions with him. I hate to say it, but this book sounds whiny. Conroy, always self deprecating, sounds more pathetic than self deprecating here. His relationships with women rival Donald Trump in their dysfunction, and he admits in this book that he spent much too much time trying to please people, and not just show more the Great Santini, but everyone. Conroy’s baggage is so heavy, it’s a wonder he got through this life. All of that said, I still enjoy the books he himself wrote. show less

Pat Conroy is one of my cherished author's, so I had much hope for this memoir being a chance to visit again. I was disappointed and struggled to get through the 300 plus pages. Much of the material has been previously covered and too many people were named. This book is not of the caliber of even his weakest novels. My time would have been better spent rereading Conroy.

This beautifully-written book is a gift to the legions of readers who consider Pat Conroy to be their literary hero. He is brutally honest about his life and never anything but humble about his accomplishments. He leaves a wonderful legacy. Most impressive is that he will be remembered not only for his writing prowess, but - more importantly - for his unerring kindness, humor and compassion.