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1arubabookwoman
Dec 29, 2018, 11:07 pm

Hello all—I joined LT on 1-1-09, so this is my 10th anniversary for LT membership, although I guess 2019 will be my 11th year on LT.
I dropped off the face of the earth midway through 2018, first to prepare our house for sale and a move to the east coast in early 2019. In October my husband’s cancer came back with a vengeance, and we have been on a roller coaster ride since then. He is currently in a clinical trial for a targeted therapy drug and is now somewhat stable. However, we are looking at a killer T cell trial or a bone marrow transplant as the next step. We decided to proceed with the sale of our house, and it goes on the market in 2 weeks, but we also decided to stay here in Seattle for the time being, since we are truly blessed with the best possible medical care.
I’m not sure how much visiting I’ll be doing, but I do want to at least track my reading. I’ll try to keep a timely list of what I’ve read in the first few messages on this thread, and to make bookish comments/reviews if I get a chance.

2arubabookwoman
Edited: May 11, 2019, 1:38 pm

First Quarter

JANUARY

1. Ghost Stories of Edith Wharton by Edith Wharton 292 pp 3 1/2 stars
2. Blood’s A Rover by James Ellroy (2009) 658 pp 2 1/2 stars
3. Moo by Jane Smiley (1995) 434 pp 3 stars
4. The Death of Truth by Michiko Kakutani
5. Vox by Christina Dalcher (2018) 336 pp
6. The Seventh Cross by Anna Seghers (1942)
7. The Deadly Dinner Party by Jonathan A. Edlow 260 pp
8. Juniper, The Girl Who Was Born Too Soon by Thomas French and Kelly French (2016) 357 pp
9. Bibliophile by Jane Mount (2018) 224 pp
10. The Futilitarians by Anne Gisleson (2017) 273 pp

FEBRUARY

11. Seventeen: A Novel by Hideo Yokoyama (2003) 368 pp
12. Labyrinths by Jorge Borges
13. Educated by Tara Westover (2018)
14. The Power and the Glory by Graham Greene
15. Everything Is Teeth by Evie Wyld (2016) 128 pp
16. The Apprentice by Greg Miller (2018) 449 pp
17. The Night of Camp David by Fletcher Knebel (1964) 347 pp
18. Signal Loss by Gary Disher (2017) 353 pp
19. The Cleaner by Paul Cleave (2006) 402 pp

MARCH

20. The Twisted Sword by Winston Graham () 656 pp
21. Second Person Singular by Sayed Kashua (2010) 352 pp
22. Red Birds by Mohammed Hanif (2019)
23. The Wall by John Lancaster (2019) 255pp
24. The Art of Dying Well by Katy Butler (2019) 289 pp
25. Maid by Stephanie Land (2019) 289 pp

4arubabookwoman
Edited: Jan 1, 2020, 5:03 pm

Third quarter

JULY

48. Territory of Light by Yuko Tsushima (1978/9) 192 pp
49. Manual for Survival by Kate Brown (2019) 432 pp
50. The ABC Murders by Agatha Christie 272 pp
51. The Hill To Die On by Jake Sherman
52. The Garden of Evening Mists by Tan Eng (2012) 352 pp

AUGUST

53. Henry Himself by Stewart O'Nan (2019) 384 pp
54. Upstate by James Wood (2018) 224 pp
55. An Elegant Defense by Matt Richtel (2019) 448 ppby
56. A Woman Is No Man by Etaf Rum (2019) 346 pp
57. Sacred Cesium Ground by Kimura Yusuke (2019) 176 pp
58. Hazards of Time Travel by Joyce Carol Oates (2018) 324 pp
59. Lost Children Archive by Valeria Luiselli (2019) 401 pp
60. Fall and Rise by Mitchell Zuckoff (2019) 624 pp

SEPTEMBER

61. A Great Deliverance by Elizabeth George (1988)
62. Dead Lions by Mick Herron (2013) 348 pp
63. What Patients Say What Doctors Hear by Danielle Orfi (2019) 248 pp
64. The Unwanted: America Auschwitz and a Village Caught In Between by Michael Dobbs (2019) 368 pp
65. Citizen Vince by Jess Walter (2008) 320 pp
66. Turbulence by David Szalay (2019) 160 pp
67. Real Tigers by Mick Herron (2016) 369 pp
68. Dear Mr. M by Herman Koch (2016) 397 pp
69. The Fifth Risk by Michael Lewis (2018) 221 pp

OCTOBER

70. The Testaments by Margaret Atwood (2019) 432 pp
71. The Unpassing by Chia-Chia Lin (2019) 288 pp
72. Clash of Civilizations Over an Elevator in Piazza Vittorio by Amara Lakhous
73. Slow Medicine by Victoria Sweet (2018) 304 pp
74. Happy Are The Happy by Yasmina Reza (2015) 161 pp
75. The Optimist's Daughter by Eudora Welty (1990) 192 pp
76. Spook Street by Mick Herron (2017) 321 pp
77. The Yellow House by Sarah Broom (2019) 304 pp
78. Billion Dollar Whale by Tom Wright (1/2)
79. My Life As A Rat by Joyce Carol Oates (2019)
80. Conviction by Denise Mina
81. Quichotte by Salman Rushdie
82. Under the Cold Bright Lights by Gary Disher (2019) 313 pp
83. Newcomer by Keigo Higashino (2001) 334 pp
84. On the Clock by Emily Guendelsberger
85. London Rules by Mick Herron
86. A Nearly Normal Family by M.T. Edvardsson (2019) 400 pp

N0VEMBER

87. The Snakes by Sadie Jones (2019) 418 pp
88. Trustee From The Toolroom by Nevil Shute (1960) 304 pp
89. The Collected Schizophrenias by Esme Weijun Wang (2019) 224 pp
90.The Uncoupling by Meg Wolitzer (2012) 304 pp
91. The Nickel Boys by Colson Whitehead (2019) 224 pp
92. Marathon Man by William Goldman (1974) 336 pp
93. As If by Blake Morrison (1997) 209 pp
94. Dead Mountain by Donnie Eichar (2014) 218 pp
95. The Devil’s Footprints by John Burnside (2007) 224 pp
96. Deep State by James B. Stewart (2019) 382 pp
97. Sourdough by Robin Sloan
98. Job by Joseph Roth (1930) 212 PP
99. The Elephant in the Room by Tommy Tomlinson

DECEMBER

100. My Lovely Wife by Samantha Downing (2019) 378 pp
101. The Warlow Experiment by Alix Nathan
102. American Predator by Maureen Callahan
103. Joe Country by Mick Herron (2019)
104. Tokyo Ueno Station by Yu Miri
105. The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai
106. American Marriage by Tayari Jones
107. Crisis in the Red Zone by Richard Preston
108. The Man Who Saw Everything by Deborah Levy
109. Miracle Creek by Angie Kim
110. Becoming by Michelle Obama
111. The Go Between by L. P. Hartley
112. The Need by Helen Phillips
113. Tin Man by Sarah Winman

5arubabookwoman
Dec 29, 2018, 11:08 pm

Q4

6avaland
Edited: Dec 30, 2018, 7:24 am

So glad you are back. Hope this year goes better for you & your family.

7dchaikin
Dec 30, 2018, 11:44 am

I wasn’t aware of all this. Hugs and wish you well this year.

8RidgewayGirl
Dec 30, 2018, 2:47 pm

It's good to see you here. I hope that 2019 is easier than 2018 was. I'm glad your husband is receiving excellent care, but sorry he needs it.

9NanaCC
Dec 30, 2018, 8:35 pm

I’m sorry to hear of your husband’s illness. Sending you hugs and good wishes.

10janeajones
Jan 2, 2019, 7:55 pm

Best of health for your husband in the new year!

11ELiz_M
Jan 5, 2019, 9:11 am

I am sorry to hear that the great move has been postponed, but it's good that you had the opportunity to choose stay and get good, familiar treatment. I've missed your posts on Litsy. Wishing you and your husband the best for the coming year.

12auntmarge64
Jan 5, 2019, 11:14 am

Glad you're able to be with us at least on and off, and hoping your husband sees some improvement as the year goes on.

13AlisonY
Jan 5, 2019, 1:42 pm

Looking forward to your posts again this year, however sporadic they may be. Everything crossed for your husband's trial. My Dad has non-Hodgkin's lymphoma - I'm guessing as you're talking about T-cells and bone marrow transplant that perhaps your husband has some kind of lymphoma as well, or another blood cancer. Hope your house sale goes well so that's one less thing to juggle.

14labfs39
Jan 11, 2019, 9:09 pm

This is my 11th year on LT as well.

I sold my house in April and moved to the East Coast (Florida), just in time for Hurricane Michael. Timing is everything, right? I had hopes of one last Third Place LT reunion before I left, but it got away from me. I know what you mean about the health care in Seattle. I am planning to return in March to see my doctors, my dentist, my orthopedic surgeon... Your husband is truly in good hands (Cancer Care Alliance?). Wishing you and him all the best.

15Nickelini
Jan 14, 2019, 12:10 am

Oh my, big HUGS! It's great that you have access to good health care in Seattle.

16arubabookwoman
Feb 4, 2019, 6:49 pm

>6 avaland: Lois; >7 dchaikin: Dan; >8 RidgewayGirl: Kay; >9 NanaCC: Colleen; >10 janeajones: Jane; >11 ELiz_M: Liz; >12 auntmarge64: Marge; >15 Nickelini: Joyce Thank you all for your concern and good wishes. It means a lot!

>13 AlisonY: Alison--Close--he has CLL, a form of leukemia that is often slow-acting. Unfortunately he has something called the 17p deletion, which makes it quite aggressive.

>14 labfs39:-Lisa, maybe we can get together when you are here in March.

Right now the Fred Hutchinson Center here is in the process of finding a bone marrow donor--they are quite confident that they will find a suitable donor. Before the transplant can occur, his regular oncologist has to get his white count down to 20,000 or below (right now its at 256,0000 and it's been going up 20,000 or so each week; normal is less than 10,000). Once it begins, the transplant process takes about 4 months, and the Hutch is probably the best place in the world to be for a bone marrow transplant. What is surreal is that despite his awful blood work numbers, he looks and feels fine.

But I have been reading, so a few comments about books follow.

17arubabookwoman
Edited: Feb 4, 2019, 6:59 pm

1. Ghost Stories of Edith Wharton 292 pp

I'm not a short story fan, nor am I a horror/ghost story fan. However, I can recommend this book. Because--it's Edith Wharton. While there were a few stories I was puzzled by, or that didn't pull me in, or that were duds, in most of the stories Wharton's prose shone, the characters were well-developed, and the plots were varied and original. My favorites were: "The Dutchess at Prayer" in which an evil husband isolates his wife at an Italian country estate and, knowingly or unknowingly, seals her lover into a tomb; "A Bottle of Perrier," which is set in the middle eastern desert castle built by a medieval crusader, where the water tastes and smells terrible; and "Kesfol" where the ghosts of murdered dogs appear once a year on a Brittany estate.

3 1/2 stars

18lisapeet
Feb 4, 2019, 8:44 pm

Belated hello here, and sympathies—my husband is currently riding the valley post–cancer diagnosis and treatment. It's a real beast. Best wishes for good outcomes for him (and you). I was just in Seattle last week, very briefly—liked it a lot, but didn't have enough time at all to sightsee. Next trip, I hope.

19arubabookwoman
Feb 4, 2019, 9:08 pm

>18 lisapeet: Welcome Lisa. I wish the best for your husband. I am constantly amazed by the continuing advances medicine makes--just not fast enough sometimes. I went to the ALA conference last week too, and picked up way too many free books. You wouldn't recognize Seattle this week--it snowed 6+ inches last night, and it's expected to hang around all week.

On to books:

2. Blood's A Rover by James Ellroy (2009) 689 pp

This is the third volume of Ellroy's Underworld USA Trilogy, in which historical figures from mid-20th century America mix with fictional characters to give us an inside look at dirty politics, corrupt law officers, and the criminal underworld (Mafia). I loved the first volume, American Tabloid, which took us through the assassination of JFK in Dallas in November 1963. Volume 2, The Cold Six Thousand began in Dallas on the day of JFK's assassination, and brought us through the 1968 assassinations of RFK and MLK. I also liked the second volume, in which many of the same characters carried through. There's lots about the Vietnam War, LBJ, drugs, the Mafia moving on Las Vegas, and Howard Hughes also making a move on Las Vegas.

This final volume begins with the RFK assassination, brings us through the 1968 election of Nixon, continues on with the activities of the Mafia, as well as the decline and corruption of J. Edgar Hoover, and ends as Watergate is beginning. However, I didn't like this one as much as the first two. It seemed more scattered and less focused, and either I began to tire of Ellroy's staccato prose, or it wasn't as compelling as in the first two volumes. In fact, the only reason I kept reading is because the book began with the brutal heist of an armored car, and the failed attempts to solve that crime constitute a sort of leit motif throughout the novel. I kept reading because I wanted answers regarding that crime.

Overall, I highly, highly recommend American Tabloid and also recommend The Cold Six Thousand. Read this one only if you are a completist.

2 1/2 stars

20lisapeet
Feb 4, 2019, 9:19 pm

>19 arubabookwoman: Thanks. And that's right, you said you were at ALA. My twelve books that I shipped back showed up at the office today... I picked some good ones, I think. Man, what I wouldn't give for unlimited reading time. But of course unlimited reading time would mean I wouldn't have this job or all these books, so there ya go.

21arubabookwoman
Feb 4, 2019, 9:52 pm

3. Moo by Jane Smiley (1995) 434 pp

A lot of people haven't liked this offering from Jane Smiley. It's a satire of life at a midwestern agricultural university. There are dozens of characters. Most are stand-ins for particular campus types, and include students, professors, and administrative officials (including a super-human administrative aid who really runs the whole university). Even the lunch lady from the cafeteria has a part to play, as well as the owner of a big corporation who, with possible evil motives, is dangling the offer of research money to the cash-strapped university. All the characters are broadly-drawn and no one individual could be called a "main character." I had a hard time keeping track of who was who, which detracted from my enjoyment of the novel. There is also very little plot. It is more of a "slice of life" novel.

Nevertheless, the novel is enjoyable if you go into it recognizing these limitations. Instead of focusing on and examining a specific aspect of academic life or a character or two, Smiley is covering Academia and its denizens with the broadest possible brush. It's not her best novel, but still worth a read.

3 stars

22AlisonY
Feb 5, 2019, 5:16 am

>21 arubabookwoman: Interested in your Jane Smiley review. I picked up A Thousand Acres in November, but every time I pick it up off the shelf I set it back down again for some reason. I've not read anything by her before, but I'll have to give it a start one of these days.

I hope all goes well for your husband with getting his bone marrow transplant. Some of my dad's blood figures aren't great at the moment, but like your husband he feels well so he's quite resistant to the idea of treatment at the moment. You're lucky to be close to a great hospital for treatment - it definitely is what we call a healthcare post code lottery out there.

23arubabookwoman
Edited: Feb 5, 2019, 11:30 am

>22 AlisonY: Alison—Definitely read A Thousand Acres. Even though I read it years ago, I still think about it. It is a book I would recommend highly to anyone. Even though I enjoyed Moo, I would recommend it only in limited circumstances to someone interested in the subject.
Thanks for the good wishes re my husband. I hope your dad continues to feel well. It’s all such a roller coaster ride isn’t it?

24BLBera
Feb 5, 2019, 8:16 pm

Deborah - I hope all goes well with your husband. It is amazing how quickly medicine advances. I tend to enjoy novels set in the academic setting and have had Moo on my shelf for a while. One of these days...

I'm also a Wharton fan -- and think maybe I read these at some point.

So, are you going to tell us what you picked up at ALA?

25Simone2
Feb 5, 2019, 8:46 pm

Hi Deborah, I just now read the long version of your staying in Seattle although you mentioned it on Litsy. I hope all is well and that your husband is receiving all the medical care he needs. Wishing you all the best.

26avaland
Feb 6, 2019, 6:20 am

Just checking in. Glad you are squeezing a bit of reading in.

27auntmarge64
Feb 6, 2019, 7:24 am

Me too, just checking in and wondering how things are going. You do seem to live in a wonderful place if there's illness.

A Thousand Acres is on my list too but I just keep putting it off. I'll have to move up the TBR list.

28dchaikin
Feb 8, 2019, 1:33 pm

Nice to see your reviews here, Deborah. Wish you and yours well.

29markon
Feb 9, 2019, 3:33 pm

Glad to see you here Deborah. Best wishes to you and your husband.

30labfs39
Mar 29, 2019, 4:36 am

>16 arubabookwoman: I would have loved to get together, Deborah. Unfortunately I arrived late Sunday and left very early Friday morning. During the four days I was there I had appointments with three doctors, my optometrist, orthopedic surgeon, and dentist, and my tax accountant! In addition, I took my daughter to five medical appts. Now, we are not hypochondriacs, but healthcare is dismal on the Florida panhandle, and worse since the hurricane. As some mentioned, Seattle has great medical facilities, so it was worth the trip.

I hope your husband continues to feel well while waiting for his transplant. Fred Hutch is fantastic.

31avaland
Apr 5, 2019, 10:28 am

Thinking of you & yours, Deborah.

32lisapeet
Apr 5, 2019, 11:58 am

I am as well.

33arubabookwoman
Edited: Apr 7, 2019, 2:29 pm

>24 BLBera: Beth, >25 Simone2: Barbara, >26 avaland: >31 avaland: Lois, >27 auntmarge64: Marge, >28 dchaikin: Dan, >29 markon: Ardene, >32 lisapeet: Lisa Thank you all so much for visiting, and for the kind words. It means a lot. I will post a personal update in the next paragraph, and a little book talk in this one.

>30 labfs39: I totally understand Lisa. We are at the hospital nearly every day ourselves-see next paragraph. Maybe next time

Beth asked what free books I got at the ALA conference, and here they are:

Deep River by Karl Marlantes (don’t see touchstone yet)
Black Souls by Gioacchino Criaco
Unquiet by Linn Ullmann
Optic Nerve by Maria Gainza
Courting Mr. Lincoln by Louis Bayard
Diary of a Dead Man on Leave by David Downing
China Dream by Ma Jian
Rabbits For Food by Binnie Kirshenbaum
The Lightest Object in the Universe by Kimi Eisele
The American Messiahs by Adam Morris ((don’t see touchstone)
Family of Origin by C. J. Hause
The Darwin Affair by Tim Mason
The Devil Aspect by Craig Russell
The Editor by Steven Rowley
Red Birds by Mohammed Hanif
An Agent of Utopia by Andy Duncan
After the Party by Cressida Connolly

The only one I’ve read so far is Red Birds, and I was mightily disappointed.

I’ve updated my February and March reading in paragraph 2 above. I finished the Hal Challis series with Signal Loss by Gary Disher, and I strongly recommend the series to mystery fans. I also liked The Cleaner by Paul Cleave, in which we are in the mind of a psychopathic serial killer, but didn’t care for its sequel, Joe Victim, which I did not finish.

Other books I really liked are:

Seventeen by Hideo Yokoyama, which is billed as a mystery, but really is not. It’s an in depth look at the inner workings of a newspaper covering a major story (a plane crash) back in the day before cell phones etc. made communications so much easier.

The Wall by John Lancaster I really loved his book Capital from a few years back (and a couple of his other books), so I picked this up. It’s in a genre entirely foreign to him (speculative/dystopian/post-apocalyptic), but I also loved this one. In near future Britain, climate change has caused the seas to rise, and also caused many refugees to try to cross into Britain. Britain has built a wall around its entire sea coast to keep out the “Others,” and every young person must fulfill a 2 year term on the Wall fighting off refugees. Highly recommend this one. (Negative reviews I read seemed offended by the recognizable political implications of “the wall” as well as climate change.

Second Person Singular by Sayed Kashua An Arab Israeli attorney finds what appears to be a love letter in his wife’s handwriting in a book He purchases at a used book store. He goes a bit off the deep end with jealousy. This was a fascinating look at the lives of Arabs and Palestinians in Israel, the obstacles and prejudices they face, as well as a fascinating glimpse into the mind of a secular Arab male.

I was also blown away by Labyrinths by Borges, one I hope to reread a few more times in my life.

And if you’re interested in more Trump reading I recommend The Apprentice by Greg Miller (subtitle: “Trump, Russia, and the Subversion of American Democracy”)

Didn’t care for The Night of Camp David, which I read and enjoyed in the 1960’s, and which was recommended as pertinent to our current political situation, but which is so dated and hokey I suggest you avoid it.

Any other books I’ve listed you’d want to comment on or would like my opinion, feel free...

34arubabookwoman
Apr 7, 2019, 2:27 pm

Personal update. Feel free to skip.
Despite a month from Hell, house is sold, we moved, and are settling in to an apartment in a high rise in downtown Seattle (across the street from Amazon corporate headquarters by the way). In early Feb. the doctor allowed a quick trip to Fla. to visit kids before we would be ‘confined’ by the transplant. The day after we got back my husband had to be hospitalized for severe anemia, and he remained in the hospital to get the chemo needed to get his white count down to where the Hutch needed it. While he was in the hospital we accepted an offer on the house which gave us only 3 weeks to find a place to live, pack, and move. Monday(2 days after the offer) he was out of the hospital, and by Friday we signed a lease on the apartment.
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The next day, however, I began having difficulty breathing, went to the ER, and was hospitalized with major blood clots (pulmonary embolisms) in both lungs. I’m not sure how that happened, though we did have 2 long plane flights. While we were in Fla. my knee had begun hurting quite a lot and was swollen so I had feared a blood clot in my leg and went to the ER there. They did an ultrasound and said no blood clot, but I had something called a Baker’s Cyst in my knee which was the cause of the knee pain. The blood clots in my lungs came from blood clots in my leg, but who knows how and when I got this. In the hospital for the clots, I had an MRI on my knee which showed in addition to the Baker’s Cyst, a torn meniscus, runner’s knee, and severe arthritis. I will need a knee replacement, but no surgery while on blood thinners.

Got out of the hospital with 8 days til the move. My lovely friends had hot meals for us every night and helped clear out the garage. Our middle son came from NYC and helped with the actual move. We also had great professional movers. After the move, I saw an orthopedist, had a cortisone shot, and am pretty mobile again. Now just need to wait and see whether the blood clots caused permanent heart or lung damage.

A week after the move our youngest son came from NYC to help with the settling in and was a great help. He also took our dog Dante back to NYC and will care for him during the transplant since we can’t have pets around. I really miss Dante, but he seems to be adapting to life in NYC and visited the Brooklyn Bridge this weekend.

The past 2 weeks we’ve been at the Hutch just about every day for preliminary tests and education. “Conditioning” consisting of chemotherapy and total body irradiation begins on 4/13, and the transplant of the stem cells takes place on 4/17. The donor is a 20 year old European woman. So many more people in Europe are on the donor registry than in the US (apparently because everyone has health care, and people are also encouraged by their health care professionals to register). It takes about 2 weeks for the donor stem cells to begin to engraft, and gradually my husband’s new immune system will develop. This period of time after the transplant is the most critical. Our younger daughter will be coming from NYC 4/16 and will be here part of that time.

I really appreciate everyone’s kind words and thoughts and will try to update when I can.

35Nickelini
Apr 7, 2019, 4:05 pm

>34 arubabookwoman:
Oh my, that's a lot! It's fortunate that you have family and friends to help you out. Stay strong! Sending you hugs.

36NanaCC
Apr 7, 2019, 7:11 pm

>34 arubabookwoman: Sending well wishes and hugs, Deborah. I’m glad that your family has been able to offer some support. As Joyce says, stay strong!

37lisapeet
Apr 7, 2019, 7:41 pm

>34 arubabookwoman: Wow, that's a real confluence of challenges, Deborah. I'm also glad to hear you have family to help out, and I hope your husband's procedures go smoothly.

I picked up a dozen books at ALA and only one overlap with yours (Family of Origin), so between the two of us we probably got everything good there.

38BLBera
Apr 7, 2019, 9:05 pm

Thanks for posting your ALA books and updating your reading. I am so happy I had all of them except the Gary Disher mystery on my WL already. I'm waiting for a copy of The Wall from my library.

Good luck with the knee. Take care of yourself. Fingers crossed that all goes as planned with the transplant. It sounds like you have great support, and certainly your LT friends are behind you.

39AlisonY
Apr 8, 2019, 3:54 am

>34 arubabookwoman: oh my - any one of those things would have most of us heading for the hills. Your physical and mental resilience is being tested to the max, that's for sure.

On the knee issue, I was having a lot of knee pain last year and found out I had a meniscal tear too along with some wear and tear to the kneecap. In case it helps at all, my consultant at the time told me that the tear would not heal itself, especially as 6 months had passed and it was no better. However, I had a few other health issues going on at the time so I decided to delay the proposed operation and figured the surgery option would always be there if I changed my mind. I'm glad I did, as 1 year on it's considerably better than what it was. It sounds like you have a lot more going on besides with your knee so perhaps that story's not overly useful / relevant, but I know how painful the tear can be, and in my situation time was a good healer, despite what the surgeon told me. I continued my yoga class whilst it was at its worst, and my teacher did a lot of great work on exercises to create space beyond the knee which I think was beneficial.

I hope that all goes well for your husband's transplant, and I hope that you get back to good health yourself as soon as possible.

40avaland
Apr 8, 2019, 6:13 am

>34 arubabookwoman: What an amazing and stressful time, Deborah (and I mean 'amazing' is so many ways!) Oh, the blot clots are scary! I'll tell you my knee replacement story (all good) sometime when you aren't overwhelmed.

I'm glad family and friends have been there for the two of you, and the movers were great. Hope your own health issues work out and I hope to hear that the transplant went well and your husband's immune system is improving.

I second the recommendation of the Garry Disher series. He just isn't writing more fast enough:-)

41auntmarge64
Apr 8, 2019, 6:12 pm

That's just a appalling, what's happening to you both .
I'm very glad to hear the kids are available to be there. Wishing you much, much better health very soon!!!

42janeajones
Apr 15, 2019, 10:43 pm

Wishing you and your husband the best of health -- the stem cell transplant sounds promising. So many challenges is such a short time. So glad you have supportive children.

43RidgewayGirl
Apr 16, 2019, 10:48 am

That's a lot to get through in a short amount of time. Sending positive thoughts towards your husband's transplant. And while Dante will be sorely missed, he will return a sophisticated, well-traveled dog.

I hope you're settling into your new place and that it is becoming home.

Second Person Singular was an interesting novel and I'm happy that so many people are finding it. I also really enjoyed Seventeen and will read Six Four soon. There was something very compelling about the minutiae of daily newspaper life. And I've made note of your disappointment with Red Birds. This one is on my wishlist, but I will wait until I find an inexpensive copy rather than blow the book budget on it.

44kidzdoc
Apr 17, 2019, 5:15 am

I'm very sorry to hear about your and your husband's health crises, Deborah. You'll be in my prayers.

45rhian_of_oz
Apr 18, 2019, 11:22 am

>34 arubabookwoman: My goodness you've had a bit to deal with! I really hope the transplant goes well.

46avaland
May 23, 2019, 7:07 am

New Garry Disher coming out in July, a standalone: Under the Cold Bright Lights, Soho Crime, $26.95 (312p) ISBN 978-1-64129-057-9 (it's already out in the UK, btw)

47dchaikin
May 24, 2019, 1:18 pm

>34 arubabookwoman: I missed this post, Deborah. Wishing you and your husband well, and hoping Dante enjoys NYC. Thinking about you both.