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Loading... 100 Times: A Memoir of Sexismby Chavisa Woods
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Sign up for LibraryThing to find out whether you'll like this book. No current Talk conversations about this book. This book is laid out with a very simple format: Woods has put down on paper 100 different instances of sexual harassment and sexual abuse, ranging from discrimination, to verbal abuse to groping to out and out assault. These instances are laid out chronologically, from age 5 to her mid-30s. These have happened everywhere; in school (by a teacher), in places of employment, in bars, and even in her own apartment – by her male roommate who refused to wear pants. And they are not by any means *all* the problems she has had with sexist men. She writes plainly and simply, just laying out what happened with no melodrama attached. Most women reading this will be horrified, but will also recognize their own lives. Most of us have endured these kinds of discrimination, harassment and assault. I cringed, because I certainly have, from the mildest to the worst. And despite the fact that these things happen to almost all of us, a huge segment of men- even men who are feminists- do not believe that sexual harassment happens. It is so ingrained in our society that it’s become invisible. We mostly shrug it off. I wish this book were given to each and every middle school student in some kind of health or even civics class. These problems need to become visible, before the kids get out there navigating adult life. Five stars, and kudos to the author. no reviews | add a review
"Shirley Jackson Award-winning author and three-time Lambda Finalist, Chavisa Woods presents one hundred personal stories of sexism, harassment, discrimination, and assault. Recounting her experiences with sexist discrimination, sexual harassment, and sexual violence--beginning in childhood, through the present--Woods lays out clear and unflinching personal vignettes that build in intensity as the number of times grows. Individually, and especially taken as a whole, these stories amount to powerful proof that sexual violence and discrimination are never just one-time occurrences, but part of a constant battle all women face every day. In these extraordinary pages, sexual violence and sexist discrimination occur regardless of age, in all spheres of society, in rural and urban areas alike, in the US and abroad, from Woods' youth through adulthood. Demonstrating how often people are conditioned to endure sexism and harassment, and how thoroughly men feel entitled to women's spaces and bodies,100 Times forces the reader to witness the myriad ways in which sexism and misogyny continuously shape women's lives, and are built-in facets of our society"--
"An undeniably powerful account of one hundred experiences of sexism, harassment, discrimination and assault by Shirley Jackson Award Winner, Chavisa Woods. Here are Woods's personal stories of 100 times she suffered or was witness to a sexually charged experience--from gender-based discrimination in work places, to unsolicited groping from strangers in public, to sexual assault--beginning from the time she was five years old to the present. Laid out in direct and unflinching vignettes, building one after another, the stories are powerful proof that sexual violence and discrimination are never just one-time occurrences, but part of a constant battle women face every day. In these extraordinary pages, sexual violence and sexist discrimination happen to women regardless of their age, in multiple spheres of society, in rural, and urban areas alike, in the U.S. and abroad, from the time they are very young or come out as women. Demonstrating how often women (heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, and transgender alike) are conditioned to endure sexism and harassment, and how men are allowed to feel entitled to women's spaces and bodies, 100 Times is powerful in its blunt and straightforward recitation"--
Recounting her experiences with sexist discrimination, sexual harassment, and sexual violence-- beginning in childhood, through the present-- Woods lays out clear and unflinching personal vignettes that build in intensity as the number of times grows. Her personal stories-- some only one page long-- amount to powerful proof that sexual violence and discrimination are never just one-time occurrences, but part of a constant battle all women face every day. -- adapted from back cover No library descriptions found. |
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From its introduction:
I must admit, being a white, middle-aged man, that the last sentence in that paragraph woke me up somewhat. A second after reading it, I thought, "Oh yes, most people don't actively try and think as feminists".
The real need to read this book, for me, doesn't have to do with the fact that I enjoy feminist literature; personally, I believe sexism to be one of the biggest problems that humanity is not only facing but has faced for a very long time, but the thing about this book that truly helped me, are the many and versatile ways through which Woods has been subjected to sexism from men; it viscerally and intellectually reminded me of reading Laura Bates's "Everyday Sexism", and also following the #everydaysexism hashtag on Twitter, as they exposed the far-reaching nature of men's verbal violence and discrimination of others than men in ways I had not experienced before.
So, the book starts:
Now, thinking about that, I suppose that some men may think "It's a boy's prank!" but Woods is right; that last sentence does put the finger on the matter; a girl could probably not have gotten away with doing the same thing to a boy, and they're five years old. The old "boys being boys" idiocy just has to stop, and reading that paragraph kind of validates that the tombstone needs to be in-place soon.
This example is also mind-numbingly horrific, in my mind; to even joke about something like sexualising a six-year-old child is in the realm of the insane. It's not OK, it's not acceptable, and it's assault. To be male and to propagate the behaviour is simply degenerate and punishable.
Early into the book, it stunned me. I had to put it down and recognise how most men, I wager, seldom come across this pap. It's simply not in "our" world, by which I mean that a lot of men seem to think "well, it doesn't happen to me, which means it doesn't happen", which is solipsistic beyond sanity.
Reading this book is a mind cleanser; for me, it's like sobering up. This is what the incel sexists need to read and not hang out at Twitter and Reddit and become even more stupid.
The incident that is described in the following two paragraphs recently replayed, in near-entirety, where I live, in Sweden:
That event was actually explained and deemed to be completely justified in the eyes of some persons, which I believe is at the gist of what we men need to do when hearing of sexism being performed in any way: we need to point it out and denounce it immediately.
On another note, I love how Woods prints small facts about hailed persons, showing them for what they actually are:
Sure, Mailer was a celebrated artist, but he also (much like Pablo Picasso) was a complete sexist, which must be known for all admirers of "The Arts" who try to explain away the behaviours of sexists everywhere.
Some times, while reading the book, there comes a story that somehow ends on a good note, despite of something tragic having taken place:
It's poetic, in the middle of all the hate. Woods does carry off the hard task of balancing her stories while maintaining good prosody; this book breathes well.
Woods also speaks of how all transgender persons that she was close to, who revealed their coming out/transitioning to living as a woman lost their job within a year of doing so; about how she asked a male friend to read her exact words from a script to make another man act; how she was chased by a bunch of boys with baseball bats who tried to kill her (according to herself and at least one witness; how cis males believe they can "turn" lesbians; how men blatantly and without any context tell her to shave her legs, etc.
This book is a triumphant achievement. If I worked in a school, I'd try my best to force it to buy a very large amount of copies and spread it everywhere. Physically grown men need this. People need to talk about this, mainly men. And let's not forget that sexism exists everywhere; women do it too.
I give this book 5/5 without even thinking about another grade. This is masterful and immensely needed by all, realising it or not. ( )