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Too Much and Never Enough: How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man (edition 2020)

by Mary L. Trump Ph.D. (Author)

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"In this revelatory, authoritative portrait of Donald J. Trump and the toxic family that made him, Mary L. Trump, a trained clinical psychologist and Donald’s only niece, shines a bright light on the dark history of their family in order to explain how her uncle became the man who now threatens the world’s health, economic security, and social fabric. Mary Trump spent much of her childhood in her grandparents’ large, imposing house in the heart of Queens, New York, where Donald and his four siblings grew up. She describes a nightmare of traumas, destructive relationships, and a tragic combination of neglect and abuse. She explains how specific events and general family patterns created the damaged man who currently occupies the Oval Office, including the strange and harmful relationship between Fred Trump and his two oldest sons, Fred Jr. and Donald. A firsthand witness to countless holiday meals and interactions, Mary brings an incisive wit and unexpected humor to sometimes grim, often confounding family events. She recounts in unsparing detail everything from her uncle Donald’s place in the family spotlight and Ivana’s penchant for regifting to her grandmother’s frequent injuries and illnesses and the appalling way Donald, Fred Trump’s favorite son, dismissed and derided him when he began to succumb to Alzheimer’s." --book jacket.… (more)
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Title:Too Much and Never Enough: How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man
Authors:Mary L. Trump Ph.D. (Author)
Info:Simon & Schuster (2020), Edition: 1, 240 pages
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Too Much and Never Enough: How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man by Mary L. Trump

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A book about the descendants of Fred Trump, especially the oldest son, Freddie, who was the heir apparent, tried to please his father, but never succeeded and about a younger son, Donald, who saw what happened to his older brother, and took a very different path, learning coping skills that precluded emotional attachment.

This is a description of dysfunctional relationship patterns that were perpetuated from generation to generation and how various family members were affected. It was written by a daughter of Freddie. She tells of the impact on her family financially and emotionally. There is not much about the emotional impact on herself. ( )
  bread2u | May 15, 2024 |
Well written but no new information was offered. Mostly about Fred Sr and Jr (Jr being the authors father). The whole family should possibly have been institutionalized
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  corliss12000 | Mar 16, 2024 |
First and foremost, this book is *NOT* a takedown of 45. It is *NOT* a cash-grab by an angry, estranged niece whose greed was stoked by envy.

It is the story of Fred Trump's family from the viewpoint of someone who, despite not being welcomed within it because her father needed to be himself, still was there inside the bunker until her father's death.

It is the memory of a person whose entire life was formed by bad parents, her own and theirs. It is the analytical conclusions of a trained psychologist whose degree is from a highly regarded school. It is also chilling, infuriating, and deeply, deeply saddening to read.

Freddy Trump never got a break; he died before his life developed meaning and long after he stopped caring about it. Fred, father of the Devil's Brood, was a tyrannical, withholding man without a shred of empathy or emotional capacity. Mary Anne Trump, illegal Scottish immigrant, was useless and indifferent as a mother or grandmother.

And there is no doubt that 45 was formed in this nuclear reactor to be exactly who he is. Mary Trump had a balcony seat to the process and tells us exactly what happened on the occasions she was present. This is not sensationalized or presented as a bid for pity. Dr. Trump made a concerted effort to tell us what happened *then* contextualize it on a psychological level.

I didn't want to read another hatchet job on 45. Of course I despise him. I don't need more fuel for that binfire. I do, however, need to have some context, some sense of *why* this catastrophe is unfolding. Dr. Mary Trump told me what I wanted to know.

The seeds of the present are always in the past. ( )
1 vote richardderus | Mar 11, 2024 |
Insights into Donald Trump, how and why he became what he is and how he lives. A torrid family where the sociopathic father played his children off against one another and showed unfair favouritism towards Donald to the detriment of all including Donald. Written by his niece, daughter of the eldest son of Fred Trump, who significantly disappointed his father and died at the age of 42. And all Donald can do in response to her psychological analysis of him and his family is belittle her. ( )
  ElizabethCromb | Feb 27, 2024 |
This was a very good book. It was very sad. This was not a book I'd have chosen for myself to read, but someone slipped it into my Little Free Library, and I found myself thumbing through it. It seemed interesting enough. I knew that the author and niece of Donald J. Trump was a clinical psychologist who was at odds with him. I thought this book would be about the psychological traits of our former president, but I was surprised to learn that it was the story of the Trump family with an emphasis on Fred Trump, father of Donald , Freddy (Mary's dad), and three other siblings. As I read the story of this toxic family, I began to piece together the story of why Mary was so angry with Donald. I felt a lot of compassion for Mary's father Freddy who had his own apspirations in life which were squelched by Fred in favor of Donald.

It wasn't until the last small chapter of the book that Mary gives a psychological profile of Donald. She hits it exactly. I don't wish to read anything else about Donald Trump, but this was definitely a worthwhile read. I wish Mary all the best. ( )
1 vote SqueakyChu | Feb 18, 2024 |
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The sins of the father loom large too in Too Much and Never Enough by Mary Trump (Simon & Schuster), a fascinating memoir from the US president's niece that sheds a very prescient light on his refusal to quit the White House. The author's own father, Donald’s brother Freddy, was the eldest son of the family; in her telling, Donald and Freddy's father, Fred Trump Sr, was a sociopath who pitted his children cruelly against each other. Eventually Freddy Jr is deemed the loser, not fit to inherit the family business, and brutally rejected. Donald steps up, but never forgets the lesson that failure equals ostracism. From then on everything he touches must always be terrific, amazing, the best it could be.
added by Cynfelyn | editThe Guardian, Gaby Hinsliff (Nov 28, 2020)
 
But the most interesting assessments she offers are reserved for those inside the “institutions,” the people who might have saved us and certainly have not, from the nuclear family, to the Trump businesses, to New York’s bankers and powerful elites, to Bill Barr, Mike Pompeo, and Jared Kushner. They all knew and know that the emperor has no clothes, even as they devote their last shreds of dignity to effusive praise of his ermine trim and jaunty crown....
As she concludes, his sociopathy “reminds me that Donald isn’t really the problem at all.” That makes hers something other than the 15th book about the fathoms-deep pathologies of Donald Trump: It is the first real reckoning with all those who “caused the darkness.”
added by 2wonderY | editSlate.com, Dahlia Lithwick (Jul 13, 2020)
 
“Too Much and Never Enough” is a deftly written account of cross-generational trauma, but it is also suffused by an almost desperate sadness — sadness in the stories it tells and sadness in the telling, too. Mary Trump brings to this account the insider perspective of a family member, the observational and analytical abilities of a clinical psychologist and the writing talent of a former graduate student in comparative literature. But she also brings the grudges of estrangement.
added by Lemeritus | editThe Washington Post, Carlos Lozada (pay site) (Jul 9, 2020)
 
Writing with the sharp eye of a perpetual outsider in her own family, Trump presents a melancholic portrait of their complicity in her uncle's worst behaviors. Readers who despair for President Trump's ability to lead the country out of its current crises will have their worst suspicions confirmed.
added by Lemeritus | editPublishers Weekly (Jul 8, 2020)
 
“It felt,” she writes, “as though 62,979,636 voters had chosen to turn this country into a macro version of my malignantly dysfunctional family.” ... And it goes on, coming to a head in the unbelievable story of Fred Trump’s will. Does Mary Trump, Ph.D., have an ax to grind? Sure. So do we all. Dripping with snideness, vibrating with rage, and gleaming with clarity—a deeply satisfying read.
added by Lemeritus | editKirkus Reviews (Jul 8, 2020)
 

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Epigraph
If the soul is left in darkness, sins will be committed.
The guilty one is not he who commits the sin, but the
one who causes the darkness.
                                    ---Victor Hugo, Les Misérables
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For my daughter, Avary, 
              and
            my dad
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[Prologue] I'd always liked my name.
[Author's Note] Much of the book comes from my own memory.
Daddy, Mom's bleeding!
[Epilogue] On November 9, 2016, my despair was triggered in part by the certainty that Donald's cruelty and incompetence would get people killed.
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The lies may become true as soon as he utters them, but they're still lies.  It's just another way for him to see what he can get away with. And so far, he's gotten away with everything.
“I never challenged my father,” Maryanne said. “Ever.” It was easier to go along for the ride. Donald's chiefs of staff are prime examples of this phenomenon. John Kelly, at least for a while, and Mick Mulvaney, without any reservations at all, would behave the same way—until they were ousted for not being sufficiently “loyal.” That's how it always works with the sycophants. First they remain silent no matter what outrages are committed; then they make themselves complicit by not acting. Ultimately, they find they are expendable when Donald needs a scapegoat.
Once Donald moved into Atlantic City, there was no longer any denying that he wasn't just ill-suited to the day-to-day grind of running a few dozen middle-class rental properties in the outer boroughs, he was ill-suited to running any kind of business at all—even one that ostensibly played to his strengths of self-promotion and self-aggrandizement and his taste for glitz.
Knowing ahead of time that you're going to be bailed out if you fail renders the narrative leading up to that moment meaningless. Claim that a failure is a tremendous victory, and the shameless grandiosity will retroactively make it so. That guaranteed that Donald would never change, even if he were capable of changing, because he simply didn't need to. It also guaranteed a cascade of increasingly consequential failures that would ultimately render all of us collateral damage.
Donald was to my grandfather what the border wall has been for Donald: a vanity project funded at the expense of more worthy pursuits.
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"In this revelatory, authoritative portrait of Donald J. Trump and the toxic family that made him, Mary L. Trump, a trained clinical psychologist and Donald’s only niece, shines a bright light on the dark history of their family in order to explain how her uncle became the man who now threatens the world’s health, economic security, and social fabric. Mary Trump spent much of her childhood in her grandparents’ large, imposing house in the heart of Queens, New York, where Donald and his four siblings grew up. She describes a nightmare of traumas, destructive relationships, and a tragic combination of neglect and abuse. She explains how specific events and general family patterns created the damaged man who currently occupies the Oval Office, including the strange and harmful relationship between Fred Trump and his two oldest sons, Fred Jr. and Donald. A firsthand witness to countless holiday meals and interactions, Mary brings an incisive wit and unexpected humor to sometimes grim, often confounding family events. She recounts in unsparing detail everything from her uncle Donald’s place in the family spotlight and Ivana’s penchant for regifting to her grandmother’s frequent injuries and illnesses and the appalling way Donald, Fred Trump’s favorite son, dismissed and derided him when he began to succumb to Alzheimer’s." --book jacket.

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