The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success
by Dan Sullivan (Author), Benjamin Hardy (Author)
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As he did in WHO NOT HOW, Dr. Benjamin Hardy shares one of Dan Sullivan’s simple yet profound teachings that until now has been known only to his Strategic Coach clients: unsuccessful people focus on “The Gap,” but successful people focus on “The Gain.”"[T]his one simple concept is a masterclass on positive psychology, healthy relationships, mental well-being, and high-performance. Everything that psychologists know about how to create a high-functioning and successful person can show more be achieved using The GAP and the GAIN."- Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Most people, especially highly ambitious people, are unhappy because of how they measure their progress. We all have an "ideal," a moving target that is always out of reach. When we measure ourselves against that ideal, we're in "the GAP." However, when we measure ourselves against our previous selves, we're in "the GAIN."
That is where the GAP and the GAIN concept comes in. It was developed by legendary entrepreneur coach Dan Sullivan and is based on his work with tens of thousands of successful entrepreneurs. When Dan's coaching clients periodically take stock of all that they've accomplished-both personally and professionally-they are often shocked at how much they have actually achieved. They weren't able to appreciate their progress because no matter how much they were getting done, they were usually measuring themselves against their ideals or goals.
In this book you will learn that measuring your current self vs. your former self has enormous psychological benefits. And that's really the key to this deceptively simple yet multi-layered concept that will have you feeling good, feeling grateful, and feeling like you are making progress even when times are tough, which will in turn bolster motivation, confidence, and future success.
If you're finding that happiness eludes you no matter how much you've achieved, then learning this easy mindset shift will set you on a life-changing path to greater fulfillment and success. show less
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This short book provided some helpful ideas on how to measure goals and reduce negativity. In essence, the authors recommend measuring progress backwards (i.e. compare today to where you were 1 year ago - look at the GAIN you have achieved). It is a great idea! In addition, the book also proposes the practice of recording daily wins. This is a positive habit that I see much value in.
In reading this book in audio book format, it was fun to listen to the authors record an "after chapter" discussion. Adding podcast style discussions into the book reminded me of the Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins audio book which also used this style. These post-chapter discussions added some further insights to the audio book experience.
My primary show more critique of the book is the "all or nothing" examples provided by the authors in a few cases. For example, Sullivan mentions he previously enjoyed wine a bit too much. His solution? Completely eliminate wine. Completely removing wine is one way to go, yet I found it strange that moderation was seemingly not considered. Likewise, Hardy reflects on his past excessive enjoyment of video games like World of Warcraft. It appears that Hardy may have also completely given this up. These two examples bothered me. I think it would be fascinating to see the authors discuss their ideas with Gretchen Rubin who has a different perspective (e.g. some people are abstainers, some are moderators etc). show less
In reading this book in audio book format, it was fun to listen to the authors record an "after chapter" discussion. Adding podcast style discussions into the book reminded me of the Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins audio book which also used this style. These post-chapter discussions added some further insights to the audio book experience.
My primary show more critique of the book is the "all or nothing" examples provided by the authors in a few cases. For example, Sullivan mentions he previously enjoyed wine a bit too much. His solution? Completely eliminate wine. Completely removing wine is one way to go, yet I found it strange that moderation was seemingly not considered. Likewise, Hardy reflects on his past excessive enjoyment of video games like World of Warcraft. It appears that Hardy may have also completely given this up. These two examples bothered me. I think it would be fascinating to see the authors discuss their ideas with Gretchen Rubin who has a different perspective (e.g. some people are abstainers, some are moderators etc). show less
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Benjamin Hardy is a psychologist, writer, and entrepreneur who lives in Clemson. South Carolina with his wife. Lauren, and their three children. His work has been featured in Forbes, Psychology Today, Fortune, and Mashable, and he is the #1 most-read writer on Medium.com.
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- The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success
- Original publication date
- 2021-10-19
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