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The Five Love Languages (1992)

by Gary D. Chapman

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Dr. Chapman explains how people communicate love in different ways, and shares the wonderful things that happen when men and women learn to speak each other's language.

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Ignored the religious junk (there's not much), but very interesting! ( )
  filemanager | Nov 29, 2023 |
This book was alright, but it could have been condensed a little more. I suppose for someone new to the idea of "love languages", this would be helpful.

A few of the examples did overlap regarding what sort of action would be included in any given love language.

I guess I think if you're striving to love your spouse (or anyone, for that matter), the most important thing is to get to know them and communicate with them - and by that I mean really listen. If you're actually listening to your spouse, you'll be able to figure out what they want and what will make them feel loved, and then you can do those things. You don't need to read this book to do that, though apparently a lot of people have found it helpful. ( )
  RachelRachelRachel | Nov 21, 2023 |
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life?
In the #1 New York Times international bestseller The 5 Love Languages®, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today. ( )
  LynneQuan | Sep 23, 2023 |
This may not be the ultimate guide to saving your marriage. But it could be a good starting point for a discussion with your spouse. Or it could be an inspiration to rethink how you are relating to your spouse. Or it could be a good reminder to revive some behaviors that you've allowed to become stale. No book on relationships can cover all the bases or be the balm that heals all wounds. But this one is pretty clear and direct and well-motivated. ( )
  zot79 | Aug 20, 2023 |
I was recommended this book by my counsellor, and I have to be honest; it's way better than I expected.

This book is a great tool if you're looking for some "simple fixes". Keep in mind, all relationships take work. This book gives suggestions on how to help understand your partner's (and your own) love language. Love languages are the ways your partner feels "love" through the things you do, the things you say, and how you act. It's a very thoughtful idea that is simple in nature, but a little harder to do in practice. If you're feeling hopeless and just want some different ideas, this book is excellent!

I really liked the book because it felt like I was chatting with the author. It's very conversational and it's very to the point. There's "real life" examples of couples, and it sometimes seems too easy. Some of the situations definitely didn't resolve that easily, but I am guessing that the tips of trying to understand what makes your partner feel loved helped develop their relationships.

Is this the end all, be all way to save your marriage or relationship? No. Can it give you ideas to understand why your communication skills aren't on point? Yes. Maybe you don't realize that you partner feels loved when you run errands for them. Maybe you don't realize that your partner needs a lot of quality time, one on one. Lots of people can't see what's in front of them! This book is a great way to remind the simplicity of the 5 ways you can appreciate someone.

The book is uplifting and suggests that relationships can be mended (and they definitely can, in some circumstances). I do not think this will help everyone. I don't think this should be the way someone fixes their relationship (get counselling, the works as well as reading this book).

Are there negatives? Absolutely! The gender roles seem very... stereotypical. What housewife doesn't want to just be someone to does all the chores to make her husband happy? Gee golly! Men crave sex more than women do, in fact women don't normally crave sex at all! Men might cheat, but women can get over it. Yeah, lots of problems. And of course, only heterosexual couples are talked about. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt to say somehow in his whole career he ONLY dealt with heterosexual couples... It's a super big, ridiculous benefit of the doubt... But I'm hoping that's it. Oh, and a pinch of religion in there.

*If you can't sense my sarcasm in the last few sentences, please re-read and add a sassy, sarcastic tone.

Overall though, I enjoyed it. I think it's a great way to help teach people some basic concepts in a fun and engaging way.

Four out of five stars. ( )
1 vote Briars_Reviews | Aug 4, 2023 |
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