Man and Wife

Sometimes a book comes along that seems to contain so much from your own life you wonder whether the writer has been secretly asking your friends to tell him all about you. The funny thing about this one though is that most of what he wrote has been too hard to tell anyone and so he couldn’t have wheedled it out of them. He must have been following me around…

Man and Wife is the first thing I’ve read by Parsons. He reads very much like Nick Hornby actually – the kind of London-based (i.e. trendy), emotional carnage that, if it weren’t a novel, would be your nearest wine bar’s most juicy gossip. But like Hornby, Parson’s books work because they connect with the damage that all of us drag behind us through life both from show more relationships we don’t choose (our parents) through to those we do (our partners).

My parents were divorced when I was nine. This catastrophe started much earlier in my life. In fact, when I was 7, the age of Pat, our protagonist’s son, my nightmare was just beginning. It was a particularly violent divorce full of alcohol and broken glass. I will never get over it. And so I found a novel which dealt with this issue a riveting read, particularly as it came from one perspective I still have had no insight into, the father’s.

My dad remarried and my stepmother and he adopted my younger brother and a couple of years later shipped me off to boarding school. If I was any good at writing, I’d have written my own novel by now but, truth be told, it wouldn’t come out half as funny as Parson’s effort here. In fact, it would as bitter and twisted as I still feel about it all. Anyway…. what comes across so well in this book is the emotional roller-coaster relationships can be for us all; the uncertainty of trying to define and demonstrate love; the struggle we find to place people in the right boxes society provides for us.

It also helped that I too have had questions of what love really is raised in my social circles recently.

So, I found this a riveting read from start to finish. I think it’s a good novel for husbands and wives to read to perhaps discuss different perspectives of love and marriage and if any of you are contemplating divorce, it would be a good one to make you think again. I can assure you that no matter how civil your divorce is, if you have children, you will be wounding them emotionally forever. While this isn’t fully explored in Man and Wife, Parsons does explore the agony that parents go through in the aftermath and it’s not comforting reading.

The novel careers down all sorts of relational pathways and I really wasn’t sure how it was going to end. I kept waiting for a head-on collision. All I’ll say for now is that I’m relieved to say it ended better than I thought it was going to. show less

Tony Parsons böcker är äkta, det är inga vackra kärleks historier med lyckligt slut, eller historier med dramatisk handling om människor med spännande liv.
Det är en bok om helt vanliga människor, om riktiga familjer som har problem som vi känner igen oss i.
Harry Silver är inne på sitt andra äktenskap, och boken handlar om att finna sig tillrätta med livet efter en skilsmässa, med en ny kvonna och hennes barn. Hitta sin roll som styvförälder till kvinnans barn och kämpa med att vara en b ra pappa till sin son som inte längre bor med honom och som han får träffa bara på helger.
Jag satte betyg 3 på boken men egentligen så är den värd en 4, men jag älskar inte att läsa böcker om den gråa verkligheten som det show more riktiga livet består av utan flyr gärna i böcker med spännande och dramatiska handlingar. show less

Yet another in the genre of North London post-modern family life. Harry Silver fights to maintain a close bond with son, who livesd with his ex-wife, whilst his current marriage starts going off the rails. A good read, but Silver is a bit too self indulgent and smarmy to be likeable.

Yet another in the genre of North London post-modern family life. Harry Silver fights to maintain a close bond with son, who livesd with his ex-wife, whilst his current marriage starts going off the rails. A good read, but Silver is a bit too self indulgent and smarmy to be likeable.

I liked Man and Boy, and this is just not quite as good, still I enjoyed reading it;.

not as good as man and boy