Mia Birdsong

Decolonizing our relationships means resisting the toxic hyperindividualism of white supremacy culture and recognizing our fundamental interdependence. This is apparent to those who are systematically excluded from the American Dream, who are able to thrive by creatively building loving, mutually caring communities outside the isolation of the "normal" nuclear family. Mia Birdsong shares countless examples, mostly from queer people of color.

Accounts of community builders and built communities based on found family models, which are often found among Black Women and in queer social spaces. The author's concern is sharing experience and encouragement for those/that community, but we can all learn from what has worked for those most limited by the U.S.A.'s particular mix of vicious racism and willful ignorance.

A thoughtful and intentional exploration of the modern ways we (in America) build and maintain community, and how some groups in particular are laying foundations. Mia's storytelling made me reflect about how much awesome, transformative value real community can hold through the most challenging of times. I consider this a strong read for the average American, as we embark on the rising challenges of everyday life.

Really great book written by a very fascinating human! I was surprised at the breadth of topics it touched on, including non-monogamy, alternative family structures, and bereavement. I was pleased whenever I had a concern about some content that was quickly addressed. I think some chapters could be more focused. I wish that there was instruction on how an introverted or asocial person might find community.