Barbara Keesling

Keesling, Barbara. Sex So Great She Can't Get Enough. Lanham: M Evans, 2012.

Before you start scratching your head and thinking I've lost my mind let me say but one thing: yes, I am reviewing a sex book for men. Call me a raging feminist but as a woman I had something to prove by requesting this book from the Early Review program. LibraryThing called my bluff and here I am. I want to believe I can review any book and that I'm not restricted by my gender or narrow mind. When asking for books show more to review I don't want to be limited by genre or preference. I think I am capable of taking any subject matter and giving it a fair shake - MY fair shake. I also requested Sex So Great to play devil's advocate. What if a man is too shy to buy such a book? What if a guy is just the opposite, too egotistical to believe he needs such a book? Either spectrum of a man's ego could deter him from furthering a sexual education with Dr. Keesling. What if I dated a man and knew he needed the good doctor's help? Could I buy the book, translate her knowledge into my own words and garner a better sex life for myself in the process? Not exactly. This is a book primarily written TO men with one curious section for women discussing vaginal shaving. (As a side note, what's a man supposed to do? Hand the book over and say, "here honey, this part is for you"? So, having said all that let's turn to Sex So Great She Can't Get Enough.

I want to commend Barbara Keesling for her calm, gentle, and understanding (and sometimes humorous) manner with which she writes. You can tell immediately by the language she uses and the tone she conveys that she is has expertise when talking to people about sensitive subjects, not just men about sex. She is super careful not to offend. Let's face it, men are sensitive about their private parts. As a woman, you can never call him "little" or "wimpy." Leave that up to him. Self degradation is completely acceptable. Based on Keesling's writing style I would say she is a good therapist and her other books (at the least the ones related to sex) are equally approachable. Sex So Great is mostly common sense advice that would sound just silly coming from my mouth. Keesling exaggerates the vulnerability and timidness of a woman to prove a point. Every moment a man makes must be slow and thoughtful. He could easily frighten his woman away. That's not entirely true, but I get it.
Don't get me know. Sex So Great had it's educational moments for me, too. For instance, I never knew men should exercise their pubococcygeus muscle or practice a series of breathing routines for improved sex.
So. In the end, could I read the book and pass along the information to my lover? Some of it, sure. But like trying to give myself a foot massage it won't be as effective and it certainly won't feel as good. show less

This is a guide directed at males in a reasonably stable relationship. As with so many of these sorts of books it will likely be read by the female who will attempt and fail to persuade the male in the relationship to read it. A pity, since it is well presented and addresses many common relationship problems. No matter how experienced someone thinks they are they will likely derive some benefit from this book. A little introspection and perseverance never hurt anyone.

This was a decent beginner's book written for men by a woman, so I'm not really the target audience but felt I could give an honest review regardless. The book contains very basic information, but good conversation-sparking ideas. Nothing too kinky. Shame my ex-husband didn't read it! Hah. But anyway, it's a good place to start. There are better books out there, though.

This is a horribly titled book, but it does give you an indication to the books contents. While there are a few helpful and insightful additions in this book, many of the things discussed in the book are fairly common sense and the rest are so completely geared for the male anatomy, that as a woman, they did not have much resonance for me. That said, I think that if a man wanted to improve his sexual prowess this would be a good book to read to help with confidence as well as performance. It show more is written in a friendly and non threatening tone and there is not a judgmental attitude you often encounter with sex books. So, this is a pretty decent book, but one definitely geared for men who are in heterosexual relationships. show less