Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps

I found this much more accessible than the Venus & Mars books. Although I am still p*ssed off that men get a cave and a rubber band while women only get a g*d dammed well!

The he said/she heard passages are worth the book alone. Might make a really good wedding gift.

I needed to read this about 40 years ago. By now I know all this stuff, without realizing that I know it. e.g. p. 76 Male brains are highly compartmentalized and can separate and store info. Female brain can't store info this way--problems just keep going round and round in her head Only way for women to get problems out is to talk them out, not to find conclusions or solutions.
Women like to talk. Women think out loud--man thinks she's giving him a list of problems. Women can speak and listen at same time while men can do one or the other. So many similar insights.

Very interesting analyses of the differences between men and women. The authors (a married couple) cite a lot of research showing differences in hormones and brain structure and function and hypothesize that many of the differences go back to our primitive ancestors, when men were the hunters and warriors and women were the nurturers and caregivers. The fact that those roles are no longer very relevant explains many of the tensions modern couples have in forming and maintaining relationships. While there's a extensive bibliography at the end of the book, the fact that the authors don't actually cite many of their sources during their presentation may lead readers to question some of their claims. On the other hand, the book is a popular show more presentation (and a very readable one, interspersed with cartoons and jokes which help the authors make their points) rather than a scholarly work. show less

Alan and Barbara Pease are american body language experts and psychologists who travel all around the world to explore the differences between genders.
Their book uses biology and evolutionary psychology to explain the differences between male and female cultures.
As the main message of the book is that men and women cannot be made the same no matter how much politicians try and treating them identically causes problems. Our differences are biological and permanent and we would be happier if we accepted and adapted.

Overall this is an enjoyable and entertaining book. I picked it up because I saw it in the library and couldn't resist because of the title. It kind of points out things that we know already, but talks about them on a neurological level. However, the language is not overly scientific so that most adults can easily grasp the concepts. A fun read.

Nicht so spannend, wie ich dachte. Vieles ist nun schon lange bekannt

I'm giving the second star only for being anti-PC, otherwise it's a definitely one-star read. Superficial, repetitive, trying to be humourous in vain. Had they not mentioned internet and mobile phone, I would have thought it was written in the eighties.