For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

I was familiar with most of the ideas in this book, but it was really interesting to read so many men's words and commentary on them. From that perspective, I feel I understand on a much deeper level what those topics really mean to them. But there were times when Feldhahn's analysis of her data seemed a little awkward.

I really and truly enjoyed this book. Most people who know me will be surprised to hear this, as I'm usually a fiction only type of reader. This book, even though non-fiction, kept me riveted. I couldn't wait to read more. It was inspiring, thought provoking, and well researched. And for a book of non-fiction, that's not even a true life story type book, to bring tears to my eyes in it's final chapter speaks volumes about the emotion the author put into this reading. I am hoping to come out of this with not only a better understanding of my husband, but a better relationship with him (if such a thing is possible since I consider my relationship very strong to begin with) I would definitely recommend this book to anyone currently in a show more relationship, or with any intention of ever being in a relationship with a man. show less

I was invited to read this book by a friend, and like so many survey-driven books, am left questioning the survey more than myself.While this book does reveal some inner workings of men that many women might not have perceived, it also, in my opinion, portrays men as shallow creatures with little self control, especially when it comes to sex and physical appearance.This is a spiritual (Christian) based book, so the survey and interpretation of the results are taken through that lens. It's not bad, but like anything, it colors the content in a certain way. The authors admittedly make gross generalizations on their findings, which adds another layer the reader has to work through to apply the information to their own situation.So read show more with caution, and do your own research, preferably with your significant other. show less

Someone told me this would solve the question: "What is he really thinking when you ask him what he's thinking about and he says: 'nothing.'?" ( Feel free to correct the puntuation errors in that sentence. )

I don't think it did.
The goal was good. The execution was muddled for a couple of reasons. 1, the author kept saying how shocked she was when she saw her results. It felt repetitive. 2, there was no hard data to support her data. No "how many people took this survey," no "they were lumped according to age," nada. Maybe that wasn't significant. But I'd still like some evidence that this wasn't a MonkeySurvey type deal.

1.5 barely rounded up to 2 stars. The polling results were kind of interesting, but the rest of the book didn't add much more value to them. And honestly a lot of those results were easy to predict anyway, if you've been paying attention at all. Like 'most men feel great pressure to be the provider for their family' yeah... I've managed to pick up on that. There was also a definite slant of Christianity and traditional values over everything. Some churches are using these books in their premarital counseling apparently, and it's probably a better fit in that context. It likely helps some people.

It's hard for me to not bristle at this book, being a feminist. I don't necessarily consider myself Christian so I didn't buy into all of this books reasonings. But, you can't deny the statistics and a couple of these chapters did at least sort of speak to me. Not a bad idea to read but know that it won't all apply.

At first this book didn't seem to offer anything really remarkably new - but then I read on... She tells it like it is - and it's refreshing. I was challenged by the results of the polls and I believe I am understanding my husband's mind a bit better especially in the field of what's romantic to him, how insecure he is at being romantic and the necessity of respect in order to feel loved. Very good for married women.