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Love the One You're With

by Emily Giffin

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Story revolves around Ellen -- recently married, her life turns somewhat upside down when her old flame, Leo (he of an "intense" past love) returns to her life. Keeping Leo a secret from her husband Andy (he of a "pleasant, stable" love), Ellen finds herself torn between the two and questioning the state of her marriage. Adding to her troubles is the fact that Ellen's best friend, Margot, is Andy's sister (and was not one bit fond of Leo).

Many books have been written on the "old boyfriend returns" subject and while Giffin's is nothing outstanding, she handles the topic convincingly, giving Ellen surprising depth. A quick and rather enjoyable read. ( )
  justacatandabook | Mar 9, 2016 |
Light, fluffy and predictable. An easy summer read. ( )
  HeatherLINC | Jan 23, 2016 |
When Ellen Graham runs into sexy ex-boyfriend Leo on the streets of downtown New York, about a year after marrying Andy, she suddenly finds herself wondering about the road not taken. As their paths continue to cross, she can't help but be drawn to him. His appearance makes her question her marriage, her love, and her perfect life. Sometimes things are too perfect and become boring. The book centers on these dilemmas and what Ellen ultimately chooses to do and who she chooses. Her final choice is open for debate, let’s just keep it at that. I liked her other book better but it was ok. ( )
  Ingstje | Jan 18, 2016 |
Emily Giffin portrays the thoughts and emotions surrounding lost and found love well, as main character, Ellen, explores what it means to have run into an ex lover and the flood of feelings come back to her. The writing style, which allowed me to connect with Ellen, along with the appropriately explored distress that a woman who knows only monogamy must be going through at loving two people at the same time... that's the reason for a 4/5 star review.

*************** FURTHER REVIEW IS BASED ON SPOILERS****************
While I understand that the traditional resolution of monogamy is likely what plays best to Giffin's audience, the resolution of this book much left to be desired for this reader. Ellen finally learns to stand up for her needs and express herself, finding a way to navigate dual home living between NY and Atlanta, but she limits her potential happiness by conforming to a structure that is, in essence, unbelievable in today's world. It is obvious that the character has the ability to love more than one person at a time. She loves both her husband and her ex. And instead of admitting that to anyone, she again buries the emotions and pretends to be satisfied with the materialistic resolution of getting to spend her weeks in New York, focusing on her art and business, and her weekends in Atlanta with her husband and her husband's family. She doesn't return calls of the ex, leaving him high and dry as she once felt when he did the same to her. What kind of lesson is that in how to treat others, let alone yourself? ( )
  HippieLunatic | Jan 5, 2016 |
Ellen Graham, 33, has been married to her perfect husband Andy (brother of her BFF and former college roommate Margot), for one hundred days. Then she runs into her former boyfriend Leo on the streets of New York. Whereas life with Andy is sweet, life with Leo was tumultuous and tempestuous, and Ellen can’t stop wondering if she did the right thing by “settling” for niceness, wealth, stability, and a large, warm extended family. The book might have been more interesting had Ellen come to a more radical conclusion, but alas, it is totally predictable. In addition, it was sort of boring.

I was, admittedly, looking for something light, but this book was a bit too light, even though it touched on some weighty subjects. But there was far too much emphasis on outfits and home furnishings. And, unlike Sophie Kinsella, who adds a lot of humor and self-deprecation to her books with light themes, this one had none of either. ( )
  nbmars | Dec 9, 2015 |
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Giffin strings the story along, making the reader hold on just a few more pages for the scandal to finally unfold. Unfortunately, she never really delivers. The drama in the story doesn’t come from anything actually happening. It really only comes from the main character blowing events out of proportion. As in an episode of Full House, nothing bad ever would have happened if Ellen had been honest from the beginning.
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It happened exactly one hundred days after I married Andy, almost to the minute of our half-past-three-o'clock ceremony.
Looks like you found yourself a solid, Checkers-playing, Cheerios-eating, God-fearing, glass-half-full kinda guy.
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A chance encounter with an old flame in Giffin's bittersweet, sometimes mawkish fourth novel causes Ellen Dempsey to consider anew what could have been. Shortly after marrying Andy, Ellen runs into Leo, her intense first love. Leo, a moody writer, has secretly preoccupied Ellen ever since he broke her heart, so after seeing him again, Ellen wonders if her perfect life is truly what she wants or simply what she was expected to want. This scenario is complicated by Ellen's past: the early death of her mother and subsequent disintegration of her family have left Ellen insecure and saddled with unresolved feelings of guilt. These feelings intensify when Andy's career takes the newlyweds from Ellen's beloved New York City to suburban Atlanta. As Ellen's feelings of inadequacy and resentment grow, her marriage begins to crumble.
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A novel for anyone who has ever wondered: how can I truly love the one I'm with, when I can't forget the one who got away?


Ellen and Andy Graham have the perfect marriage. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how naturally they bring out the best in each other. But one fateful afternoon, Ellen runs into Leo. The one who brought out the worst in her. The one who left her heartbroken nearly a decade ago. The one she could never quite forget. When his reappearance ignites long-dormant emotions, Ellen begins to question whether the life she's living is the one she's meant to live.

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Ellen and Andy's marriage doesn't just seem perfect, it is perfect. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how naturally they bring out the best in each other. But one fateful afternoon, Ellen runs into Leo for the first time in eight years. Leo, the one who brought out the worst in her. Leo, the one who left her heartbroken with no explanation. Leo, the one she could never quite forget. When his reappearance ignites long-dormant emotions, Ellen begins to question whether the life she's living is the one she's meant to live.… (more)

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