Miriam Grossman

I published this review on my blog, lorindasponderings.com, which looks at culture from a biblical worldview.

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Many Americans criticize the biblical worldview on sexuality. Some even call it Stone Age thinking. They, instead, say, “If it feels good, do it.”

But God didn’t place a boundary around human sexuality to be a killjoy. He designed human sexuality to enhance the marriage of one man and one woman. When people deviate from that design, they show more open themselves to physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual pain. God’s boundary provides protection.

Dr. Mariam Grossman exposes the dangers of stepping outside God’s design in her book, Unprotected. Although she is an orthodox Jew, she doesn’t preach from Leviticus. Her scientific and anecdotal evidence alone reveals how “safer” sex harms college students physically, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually.

The author originally published this title anonymously. Speaking against political correctness (PC) can cost a professional her job—or worse. Despite the risks, she felt compelled to wave the red flag because she cares for the students. Too many lives have been ruined by misinformation publicized by the PC crowd.

The subtitle, A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student, serves as the book’s thesis. Dr. Grossman explains in her preface “...that the very profession [mental health] we trust to guide and heal is sowing confusion and illness” (xxiv).

Most college campus healthcare providers embrace the politically correct ideas that free sex is safe and that differences between males and females don’t exist.

But they are wrong.

Expressing Frustration
Writing in the first person, Dr. Grossman frequently expresses her personal frustration over the issues she discusses. “My profession has been hijacked. I cannot do my job, my patients are suffering, and I’m fed up” (xviii). “Unlike other physicians, my hands were tied” (xix).

Her informal style makes readers feel as if they were sitting in the doctor’s living room and talking about her work experience over a cup of tea. As I read, I became as outraged as she over the healthcare profession’s disservice to young people.

In each chapter, the author tackles a particular PC lie. Using the stories of real college campus patients, she illustrates how those lies harmed them. Next, she supports her thesis with scientific studies documented by extensive endnotes.

Many of the chapter titles fail to explain their central topic. In the table of contents below, I have added more description to each chapter title. My additions are marked with underlining.

1. Unprotected: _The Role Of Oxytocin and the Unprotected Female Heart_
2. Damage Control: _The STD Epidemic Cover-up_
3. Memo to the APA: Believing in God Is Good for You
4. Saving Patient Brian: _The Legal Immunity of HIV_
5. Sophia's Meltdown: _More HIV Lies_
6. Kelly’s Summer Vacation: _Post-Abortion Trauma_
7. Delia’s Dream: _The Tricky STD Called Chlamydia and Fragile Fertility_
8. Amanda’s Thirty-ninth Birthday: _Fertility Has a Time Limit_

I highly recommend this book to anyone who works in the healthcare industry and guidance counseling.

Free sex is a risky behavior that can have lifelong negative ramifications. show less

I read this book shortly after I read "Unprotected." Being unfamiliar with CSE at the time, I was shocked at how long this pornography teaching has been in the schools. This book is over ten years old. Thus, a whole generation has been molded by this material. The goal of these curricula isn’t the birds and the bees but revolution.

"What these “experts” are hiding is their goal of bringing about radical social change, one child at a time. Their mission is to mold each student into what show more is considered “a sexually healthy” adult—as if there was universal agreement on what that is. From a review of many of today’s sex ed curricula and websites, it would appear that a “sexually healthy” individual is one who has been “desensitized,” who is without any sense of embarrassment or shame (what some might consider “modesty”), whose sexuality is always “positive” and “open,” who respects and accepts “diverse” lifestyles, and who practices “safer sex” with every “partner.”
This is not about health, folks. This is about indoctrination" (p. 8).

This book demonstrates that the sex education industry is conning the American public.

"The experts do not provide teens with all they need to know to make informed decisions, nor is their information medically accurate. They dismiss fundamentals of child development and omit critical findings of neurobiology, gynecology, and infectious disease. HIV information is distorted. The psychological distress associated with teen sex, especially when followed by a genital infection, is whitewashed.

The experts are wrong, and the parents are right" (p. 12).

Dr. Grossman covers in detail these facts ignored by the “experts.”

*That when individuals have sex, they bring with them all their previous partners to that union. All teens should see the diagram on page 32. It looks like a family tree, but it is a tree of sexual partners.

*That boys and girls are different, their pheromones influence each other, and oxytocin “the cuddle hormone” promotes bonding.

*That teens lack judgment skills.

“The normal adolescent brain is far from mature or operating at full adult capacity. The physiological structure of the adolescent brain is similar therefore to the manifestation of mental disability within an adult brain” (Daniel Weinberger, MD, NIMH, cited on p. 74)

*That a girl’s immature cervix has only one layer of cells to protect it from infection. Thus, she is more likely to contract an STD than if she waited until adulthood. This ignored fact has been known since at least 1989.

*That condoms don’t offer much protection against STDs.

“Each sexually transmitted disease is a disaster in the life of an individual. We must educate [students] to the dangers and to steps they need to take to have full and productive lives and not spend their lives in a physician’s office.” (Dr. Ruth Jacobs, an infectious disease specialist, wrote in a letter to a local newspaper , cited on p. 87).

*That anal sex is dangerous. The gastrointestinal system is designed for absorption, and as such more likely to absorb STDs.

*That female fertility has a limit. Most successful women are childless; not by choice but because they waited too long to be a mother.

*That homosexuals and female bisexuals have a higher risk of disease and mental health issues than the rest of the population.

*That encouraging the questioning of one’s identity makes students more likely to try a nontraditional identity and reap negative consequences.

Dr. Grossman often points out that the real problem with CSE is its worldview.

"But how can educators recognize these truths, when doing so would bring down their house of cards? Their worldview is based on rejecting moral restrictions and struggles. Their aim is to replace the no’s with yes’s…How can they, heirs to [Dr. Alfred C.] Kinsey’s model of sexuality, and after decades of crusading for the expansion of sexual expression, admit that for some people, the exact opposite is best?" (p. 156)

In closing, the author encourages parents to value their child’s innocence and be an authoritative but warm and supportive parent. They should explain that sexuality is an appetite, not a recreational activity. Like all appetites, it is only good when it is restrained.

"Ignoring these biological truths has done more than cause soaring rates of distress and disease: our youth cannot appreciate or experience the depth and power of genuine intimacy. They may understand the plumbing, but they do not grasp the big picture—sexuality is like fire. Depending on the circumstances, fire can sustain or destroy. Therefore, you don’t play with it (p. 186). show less

This is a must-read to understand and combat the trans cult that has swept Western cultures and is mutilating and sterilizing our young people. Dr. Grossman doesn't hold back in confronting various medical associations for succumbing to the woke mind virus.

In contrast, she shows compassion towards the victims and their family members. I really appreciated her recognition of the suffering of parents and guardians. She devotes a whole chapter to recognizing their own trauma, which the dominant show more cultural narrative rejects as real. show less

This isn’t an easy subject to read about, and writing isn’t the author’s strong point, but I would encourage parents with children still at home to read it (and pray you never need this information). Gender ideology is a truly destructive modern epidemic among our young people, especially those with other mental health issues, and parents need to be prepared.

Side note: the editing is poor—there are many typos in my copy.