Can I share my library with only people I choose?

Is it only public or private? I would like to invite friends to view my library but not just the make it public to everyone.

Also, how do I share my library with friends?

If they are members of Librarything, you can change the settings under private library to allow only your friends to view your library and reviews.
On the other hand, if they are not members, it is an all or nothing option.

Alternatively, you can grant selective access via TinyCat. Create a guest patron (with email and password), and then share the login credentials with those you want to have viewing access. This may be too much hassle for them, perhaps?

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