Listen: How to Find the Words for Tender Conversations

by Kathryn Mannix

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From the bestselling author of With the End in Mind, a book about the hardest conversations we have in life and how to do them right honestly and without regret. A child coming out to their parent. A family losing someone to terminal illness. A friend noticing the first signs of someone's dementia. A career's advisor encouraging a teenager to pursue their interests and stay out of trouble. There are moments when we must talk, listen and be there for one another. Why do we so often come away show more from those times feeling like we could have done more, or should have been braver in the face of discomfort? Why do we skirt the conversations that might matter most? By bringing together deeply moving stories with a lifetime's experience working in medicine and the newest psychology, Mannix offers lessons for how we can better speak our mind and help when others need to. There is probably a conversation that you are currently avoiding having. This is a book to help you have it, to help you be there for others, to help you ask for what you want and need, to help you be less unsure in the face of change and challenge. show less

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From the bestselling author of With the End in Mind, this is a book about the conversations that matter and how to have them better – more honestly, more confidently and without regret.

A child coming out to their parent. A family losing someone to terminal illness. A friend noticing the first signs of someone’s dementia. A careers advisor and a teenager with radically different perspectives.

There are moments when we must talk, listen and be there for one another. Why do we so often come away from those times feeling like we could have done more, or should have been braver in the face of discomfort? Why do we skirt the conversations that might matter most?

By bringing together stories with a lifetime’s experience working in medicine show more and the newest psychology, Mannix offers lessons for how we can better speak our mind and help when others need to. show less
Casi todos tenemos pendiente una conversación que evitamos. Podría ser un desacuerdo con un compañero de trabajo o una preocupación por un amigo. Podría tratarse de algo tan importante e inevitable como la muerte. Hay momentos en los que hemos de hablar, escuchar y ser honestos los unos con los otros. ¿Por qué evitamos estas conversaciones con tanta frecuencia o nos quedamos con la sensación de que no han resultado tal y como esperábamos?

Consciente de esto, y tras el éxito de sus consejos para enfrentarnos al duelo en Cuando el final se acerca, Kathryn Mannix conjuga la experiencia de toda una vida laboral dedicada a la medicina con la de su consulta de psicología y explora las conversaciones más importantes y el gran avance show more que puede suponer para nuestra vida conseguir afrontarlas con éxito. show less

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Dr. Kathryn Mannix is a physician specializing in palliative care and a cognitive behavior therapist (CBT). She has run palliative care services in community, hospice, and large hospital settings. She is passionate about public education and has provided CBT skills training to palliative care and oncology professionals.

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Canonical title
Listen: How to Find the Words for Tender Conversations
Original publication date
2021-09-16
Dedication
To the patients, families, colleagues
and mentors who shaped my practice.
'Thank you' will never be enough.
First words
'I can't find the words.'
Quotations
I've been using the word 'tender' to describe sensitive conversations for several years now. Initially, it was a spontaneous counter-response to the vocabulary of fear: 'courageous conversations', 'challenging conversations',... (show all) 'difficulty conversations' all evoke a self-defence response that is the very opposite of the 'I'm here for you' mindset that these conversations require. Tenderness seemed to me to conjure the disposition most helpful for discussions that are painful for one or both parties. It acknowledges the presence of pain not as something to be overcome, but as an experience to be held with sensitivity and respect. Instead of holding myself back, I give myself. It's not about difficulty, courage or challenge. It's simply about being intentionally, fully present.
Blurbers
Perry, Philippa; Lawson, Nigella; Clarke, Rachel; Samuel, Julia; Wise, Greg
Original language
English UK

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Nonfiction, General Nonfiction, Biography & Memoir, Science & Nature
DDC/MDS
153.6Philosophy and PsychologyPsychologyConscious mental processes and intelligenceCommunication
LCC
BF637 .C45 .M36Philosophy, Psychology and ReligionPsychologyPsychologyApplied psychology
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