Charlotte S. Kasl

This book literally gave me the chills while reading it. Kasl writes about women generally falling into two groups around sex: codependents or sex addicts. She admits that female sex addicts are more fun to be around! More deeply, it's an exploration of what sexual compulsion is like for women. It may sound depressing, but it conveys some realistic truths about women and sexuality.

Great recovery book, provides justification for being an individual and recovering in your own best way. However, it is not an excuse for being "terminally unique".

I wouldn't call myself stuck in a rut but I would describe my life as a bit chaotic. I have been thinking "is there more to this life deal that I should be doing?" even while moving forward towards some goals. I just didn't want to take the chaos with me.

This book is excellent! The reader is walked through how to recognize that they are stuck and then through the steps to get unstuck. I really appreciated the information and have been trying to put a lot of it into practice. Baby steps.

One show more piece of advice Kasl gives is to just show up to your life. To be aware of what is going on around you and to be aware and in tune with yourself. This is a surprisingly difficult task to accomplish. Even just sitting and chatting with friends, I know that my mind wanders to other things often. I'm making an effort now to be completely present. World of difference.

The reader is advised to live in reality, no more making up stories or not telling the truth. We're shown exercises to practice to connect with ourselves and with life.

Lastly, we're advised on how to get ourselves into action and just let go. Letting go is probably the scariest part, just like stepping off a cliff. Whatever the outcome of whatever our plans, we're advised to just accept them, even if things didn't go our way. But you have to move in order to change. You may lose something in the process of action - quitting a job you hate may lose you status and money - but you move forward into a life that you want to live in.

This book was very inspirational and while I have some ways to go in practicing what it preaches, I'm on the path and moving forward. show less

This is a very good guide if you are looking for a guide that doesn't tell you the "do's" and "dont's" of dating and forming relationships. It is more objective and follows in the spirit of Buddhism that nothing is permanent, suffering is inherent, etc. Be in the moment and if things don't work out breathe it in and move on. For me and where I am spiritually this was a great guide.