James E. Miller (1) (1945–)

When my partner died 12 years ago, this was one of the books I found that helped. The pictures and the words go so well together.

It reminds us that the Winter of Grief is followed by the Summer of Grace. You can return to life after the death of a loved one. I am living proof of this. Twelve years later, I am now happily married to a man I love beyond all reason who loves me. He knows I still have moments of grief for my former partner, and allows me that grief willingly.

This is a book show more probably better read after a few months of grief. Too early and you'll feel as if you're not allowed to grieve. Try reading the book, "I can't stop Crying" before this. Learn that it's okay to grieve...for as long as YOU need to. show less

I greatly enjoyed this book. It is written in small chapters, each with 1-2 meaningful quotes and the lesson. I utilized it as a journaling assignment and really found the content moving and thought provoking.

When you're the caregiver - By James E. Miller

http://www.amazon.ca/When-Youre-Ill-Incapacitated-Disability/dp/1885933215/ref=s...

This book was split into two separate books. One side was for caregivers and the other was for the person who was sick or needing help. You flipped the book around when you finished reading one topic.

This book is very short. Each topic is broken down into great tips for people who are new to care giving or being the ill one. Clearly broken down into a point per 2 show more pages, this book gives you quick excellent tips on how to handle the journey ahead. With themes such as having compassion for yourself and voicing your feelings or needs, this book is a great starting point for carers and the sick as well.

In the 12 step programs like Al Anon, the first step is always admitting the problem. With this quick read in your bag of tricks you'll be well on your way to gaining some control and making a game plan on how to make your particular situation that much easier.

**I give this book a 5/5** It's a must have for families and those who are sick and trying to make a plan on how to get well and keep your sanity at the same time.

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This two in one book is more of a checklist than a book, laying out twelve things to remember when you have suffered a loss (such as: feel your feelings, give your loss expression, one person can take better care of you than anyone - you, allow others to help, realize others' help might not be perfect, your grieving and its timing and progress are uniquely yours, you have a choice in how you respond to your loss, this time of grieving can be a time of discovery; and twelve things you can do show more when someone you know suffers a loss - such as acknowledge what has happened, listen, no cliches, trust the other to lead you, radiate hope. It is quite helpful for one who is in grief, and for one who is serious about helping others in grief. Recommended. show less