Betsy Israel

Excellent. I want more. Israel asks the questions, does the research... but is in this book limited to white urban (NYC) girls. I want more about men, about women from other parts of the country (world?). And newer, this is from 2002 and needs updating. Preferably from Israel as she is a wonderful writer.

And the research is offered out to us not in academese notes, but in plain text so we can do a lot more reading ourselves. I highly recommend the bibliography if nothing else. Index also show more included.

The only 'imperfection' is that she (apparently, I guess...) lost the part of her note that addressed the Murphy Brown character not just as a successful single woman, but as a by-choice single mom excoriated by the politicians for that choice. That 'conversation' in popular media came at the right time in my life to make a big impact on how I thought about feminism. What made an impact on your thoughts and/or choices?

(And of course the reversal of Roe vs. Wade isn't included here.)

So, anyway, to the meat of my review. I thought I knew a lot but boy was I missing important details. Apparently White Slavery was not an urban myth but a real problem, not to mention other forms of prostitution and pressured choices like "treats."

Apparently at about the same time suffrage movements were gaining momentum, obstacles were being raised against female emancipation. "Contraception and abortion had been outlawed and between 1889 and 1906, state legislatures passed more than on hundred restrictive divorce laws."

"The jitterbug... has been called 'a dance of anxiety and bitterness.'"

In re' the Great Depression "Amidst a collapse so hulking and vast there was little energy left to think about the single woman. But there would always be something to say." Exactly; as Israel goes on to point out, typists etc. were seen as stealing jobs from men... but men wouldn't take those jobs. Sheesh.

Well, sorry for the disorganized comments. It's a much better, more interesting book than I'm making it out to be. And I do happen to own this hardcover so if you live in the US just send me a PM and I can ship it to you free. show less

This is a 4.5 star-book. Sadly, Goodreads doesn't allow for half stars so I have to make do with an imperfect rating. Oh well.

Bachelor Girl is a riveting read. Its scope is both an asset and a fault - covering the representation of the single girl in all sorts of media and comparing it to the single girl's actual life, struggles and joys, and the author does so from the nineteenth century to basically Bridget Jones. It's interesting as an overview because it gives you so many starting points show more from which to research more should you wish to do so, but it's also disappointing in that it can only do so much by being so general.

That being said, her account is enormously interesting even though her conclusions, however horrible, are not terribly surprising. Betsy Israel writes with an honesty that's very refreshing for a history book and I greatly enjoyed every section.

Do read her introduction, she explains what she covered and what she didn't (this book is about the single white girl/woman, and while she branches out sometimes and features working class women, it's almost mostly about straight white middle-class single life in New York City). Another reviewer commented that she takes pains to really go into detail up till 1960 and then seems to lose interest, as if single women today weren't still considered a little different, if not downright peculiar.

Despite these limitations, this book is a must-read if you have an interest in history in general and woman history in particular. I'll be looking for more books on the subject that deal with the areas Israel didn't quite touch. show less

I enjoyed this cultural and historical look at a type of life style I've never personally had. I don't think my college years count. On the first day of orientation I met my future husband. By our senior year we were living together. One month after graduation we were married. We're still married. I had fully expected to be a single girl for a while but it just didn't work out that way.

I really enjoyed her analysis of the cultural icons of the various decades. Her screenwriting background show more shows in her delightful analysis of a variety of films from the silent era all the way up through the recent television sitcoms. I think her final chapter is the weakest, but it's hard to analyize something while living in the middle of it.

I stayed up until one in the morning to finish the book which is a testiment to how well written it is. show less

Single life and child-free don’t always go hand-in-hand, but the response to the two of them from society is awfully similar – both groups often feel like they are being looked down upon by the rest of society because the women who choose to be (or who circumstances have made) single and child-free aren’t “doing their duty to mankind” and are “missing out on the best things in life.”

Blah and bother to both of those sentiments.

Up until almost 3 years ago, I had never been in a show more relationship for more than 3 months. Before I met the bf, I had been on one other date in about 10 years. I was good with that, and happy being single. I enjoy my independence and didn’t feel like my life was any less important or less fulfilling because I wasn’t in a relationship. Now that I am in one, I am still happy. I love the bf more than anything, but my happiness isn’t dependant on the fact that I am in a relationship. And I still do not feel like my single life was any less fulfilling.

I am in my 30′s, and I am child-free. I plan on staying that way. But I do have to say this – oh my goodness, I am so sick of people telling me, “you’ll change your mind in a few years.” Or, “you don’t know what you’re missing out on!” Or when they get that look in their eyes that say they feel sorry for me or that they don’t believe me. Even the bf has told me that he thinks I’m just in denial… And a lot of these responses are exactly the same I would get when I would tell people that I was happy being single.

Le sigh.

So when this book spoke about how society has reacted (and still reacts in some cases) to single women, I got that. I’ve been there. And it was so frustrating to read about how people have reacted to single women throughout the ages, as well as the opposition these single women would face trying to make their own way in the world. It was so frustrating, that I actually was tempted to put this book down and walk away from it a number of times.

I wish I could say that was the only thing that frustrated me about this book.

One of the other large frustrations was where Israel drew her information from. The back of the book mentions that she’s gotten her knowledge from “private journals, newspapers, and other materials from popular media.” Really, the majority of it is from popular media… and we all know how accurately popular media depicts real life. Erm. I was hoping for more than recaps of movies or novels.

Israel made the content accessible, easy to read and easy to comprehend… but she didn’t make it exciting. In all honesty, aside from being frustrating, it was also a little dry. I wish there had been a bit more personality included in the narration. Even with the periods where the author is talking about a real person, including interviews or excerpts from journals (or whatever), it feels flat. I found that rather disappointing as I had really been looking forward to reading this book.

The Bottom Line
While I read it at a time when it was somewhat relevant to other things that were going on, it still wasn’t quite as interesting as I had hoped it was going to be. Slightly disappointing. show less