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Small Animals resonated so deeply with me. She shared the story with what happened with her son but also researched and explored the broader topic of how fear has become such a big part of how we parent in today’s society. Are we afraid to let our kids go out and explore, walk alone to a friends house or play at a park because we think something will happen? Or are we afraid because we are told we should be, and we might also be afraid of the judgments we might receive if we do? And what show more happens when we don’t let kids make some decisions, navigate the tricky waters of childhood friendship, and build their own confidence of “I did this!” by figuring something out by trial and error. Brooks presented a fascinating discussion about this topic and I will be thinking about this for years to come.

I also appreciated that Brooks was able to look at this from her place of privilege and how much this could impact not only the reaction but the consequences of one's actions. Brooks walked us through her own story and also what played into her “lighter” sentence and I appreciated so much that she was able to have perspective about this and also share stories about other women who were not treated as humanely.

Another huge part of this book that I connected so much with what her discussion of postpartum anxiety. There is a lot of discussion about postpartum depression now and I am so happy that this is becoming something that is being “normalized” as it is something that affects many. There hasn’t been as much about postpartum anxiety and I don’t think I have ever read something that resonated so deeply for me. I suffered from crippling anxiety after the birth of our first son. Brooks shares so vividly and honestly about how the anxiety that began with her pregnancy spread and grew much stronger with the arrival of her son.
There were many other aspects of this book that I just thought was so thought-provoking and important not just as a working mother myself but as a member of our society. I highly recommend this book and think anyone who is a parent or spends time with children would benefit from reading it. show less

I devoured this book in one day yesterday and kept waking up during the night thinking about it. Small Animals is part memoir and part sociological analysis. It’s an honest, well-researched look at how batshit crazy modern American parenting has become. The book starts when Kim Brooks decides it’s not worth the fight to get her son out of the car to run into Target for one thing so she leaves him in the car, locked, not too hot, happily occupied by a game on a tablet, for 5 minutes to show more grab headphones for a plane trip. He was fine and perfectly happy when she returned. Interspersed in the rest of the book are the two years following, when she gets home and finds someone had taken video of her son in the car and called the police.
The bulk of this book is a mixture of interviews and case studies, conversations, and her own thoughts about the fear drives modern parenting: Judgement, avoidance of judgement, Irrational and improbable what-if scenarios, competition, social pressures, class and race. Brooks does the research and takes the time to uncover why parents, and mothers in particular, are overwhelmed, frenetic, unhappy, and forced to parent as a competitive sport. The writing is easy and friendly, and doesn’t read like a textbook. I felt like it was a conversation with a friend and found myself identifying with nearly every chapter, like it was an echo of my own feelings and conversations with other moms. If you’re a parent you should read this book, it will change the way you think about raising your kids and what it’s doing to them, to you, to our society. 5/5 stars ⭐️

I received an advanced reader copy of this book from Goodreads giveaways in exchange for an honest review. show less

I've never thought for a second that leaving my kid in the car for 5 minutes was illegal. Unsafe because it's summer in Arizona, yep! But just recently I had to go inside to pay for gas and taking her out of the car just to throw a twenty at the attendant seemed totally unnecessary. So I rolled the windows down, locked the car, and went inside -- she was perfectly content sitting in her car seat watching a video on her phone for those five minutes.

Kim Brooks shares her own experience of show more leaving her kid alone for five minutes and also talks with other parents that have dealt with the "kindness of strangers" -- moms who let their kid ride the subway; moms who let their kid go to the park alone; moms who left their child unattended in a car while getting coffee. She investigates the reasons why "the rules" changed -- why can't parents determine when their kids are old enough/responsible enough to be left alone? Why can't kids go to the park by themselves? Why is there so much fear and anxiety for parents today?

Mainly the answer is THE MEDIA -- and not necessarily what the media reports, but the fact that we CONSUME it so much more than we used to.

Good book - mom friends, you should read it!

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A compellingly written memoir about just what it says on the tin: parenthood in the age of fear -- how cultural anxieties have changed expectations about parenting and children, and the effects that follow. Filled with shocking stories of governmental overreach and "concerned" busybodies, and the author's reluctant journey to shed (at least some of) these new, absurd requirements that children must be surveilled at all times.