Stephen Arterburn
Author of Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time
About the Author
Stephen Arterburn is coauthor of the best-selling Every Man Series. He is founder and chairman of New Life Clinics, host of the daily New Life Live! national radio program, creator of the Women of Faith Conferences, a nationally known speaker and licensed minister, and the author of more than forty show more books. He lives in Laguna Beach, California. Fred Stoeker is coauthor of the best-selling Every Man Series. He is founder and chairman of Living True Ministries and a conference speaker who has counseled hundreds of men and married couples. Fred and his wife, Brenda, live near Des Moines, Iowa. show less
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Stephen Forrest Arterburn
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Series
Works by Stephen Arterburn
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (2000) 2,484 copies, 8 reviews
Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation (2002) 1,399 copies, 10 reviews
Every Man's Marriage: An Every Man's Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman (previously released as Every Woman's Desire) (2001) 573 copies, 1 review
Every Man, God's Man: Every Man's Guide to...Courageous Faith and Daily Integrity (The Every Man Series) (2003) 394 copies, 11 reviews
Preparing Your Son for Every Man's Battle: Honest Conversations About Sexual Integrity (The Every Man Series) (2003) 390 copies, 2 reviews
Healing Is a Choice: 10 Decisions That Will Transform Your Life and 10 Lies That Can Prevent You From Making Them (2005) 348 copies, 4 reviews
Every Man's Battle Workbook: The Path to Sexual Integrity Starts Here (The Every Man Series) (2002) 235 copies, 1 review
Every Man's Challenge: How Far Are You Willing to Go for God? (The Every Man Series) (2004) 189 copies, 1 review
Every Young Man, God's Man: Confident, Courageous, and Completely His (The Every Man Series) (2005) 166 copies, 2 reviews
Midlife Manual for Men: Finding Significance in the Second Half (Life Transitions) (2008) 158 copies, 2 reviews
Every Young Man's Battle Workbook: Practical Help in the Fight for Sexual Purity (Everyman: Sexual Integrity) (2003) 134 copies
Addicted to "Love": Understanding Dependencies of the Heart : Romance, Relationships, and Sex (1991) 103 copies
Avoiding Mr. Wrong (and What To Do If You Didn't) Ten Men Who Will Ruin Your Life (2000) 82 copies, 1 review
Being God's Man in Leading a Family: Real Life. Powerful Truth. For God's Men (The Every Man Series) (2003) 77 copies
Every Man's Battle Guide: Weapons for the War Against Sexual Temptation (The Every Man Series) (2003) 74 copies
Regret-Free Living: Hope for Past Mistakes and Freedom From Unhealthy Patterns (2009) 73 copies, 16 reviews
Every Single Man's Battle Workbook: Staying on the Path of Sexual Purity (The Every Man Series) (2005) 69 copies, 13 reviews
Every Young Man's Battle Guide: Weapons for the War Against Sexual Temptation (Every Man Series) (2003) 61 copies
Faith That Hurts, Faith That Heals/Understanding the Fine Line Between Healthy Faith and Spiritual Abuse (1993) 57 copies
Take Your Life Back: How to Stop Letting the Past and Other People Control You (2016) 56 copies, 1 review
Every Man's Marriage: An Every Man's Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman (The Every Man Series) (2008) 56 copies
Being God's Man in Tough Times: Real Life. Powerful Truth. For God's Men (The Every Man Series) (2003) 55 copies
Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back (2014) 54 copies
The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery (2009) 46 copies
Every Man, God's Man Workbook: Pursuing Courageous Faith and Daily Integrity (The Every Man Series) (2003) 43 copies
The Exceptional Life: 8 Powerful Steps to Experiencing God's Best for You (2011) 35 copies, 1 review
Road Warrior: How to Keep Your Faith, Relationships, and Integrity When Away from Home (The Every Man Series) (2008) 34 copies
Understanding and Loving a Person with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder: Biblical and Practical Wisdom to Build Empathy, Preserve Boundaries, and Show Compassion (The Arterburn… (2018) 33 copies, 1 review
Understanding and Loving a Person with Bipolar Disorder: Biblical and Practical Wisdom to Build Empathy, Preserve Boundaries, and Show Compassion (The Arterburn Wellness Series) (2018) 30 copies, 1 review
Every Man's Bible NIV, Deluxe Heritage Edition, TuTone (LeatherLike, Brown/Tan) – Study Bible for Men with Study Notes, Book Introductions, and 44 Charts (2014) 29 copies
The Emotional Freedom Workbook: Take Control of Your Life And Experience Emotional Strength (1997) 28 copies
Internet Protect Your Kids:: Keep Your Children Safe from the Dark Side of Technology (2007) 25 copies
7-Minute Marriage Solution, The: 7 Things to Start! 7 Things to Stop! 7 Minutes That Matter Most! (2013) 18 copies, 2 reviews
Every Young Man, God's Man Workbook: Pursuing Confidence, Courage, and Commitment (The Every Man Series) (2005) 16 copies
Being God's Man by Standing Firm Under Pressure: Real Life. Powerful Truth. For God's Men (The Every Man Series) (2004) 16 copies
What Have You Got to Lose?: Experience a Richer Life By Letting Go of the Things That Confuse, Clutter and Contaminate (2007) 15 copies
The Life Recovery Journey: Inspiring Stories and Biblical Wisdom for Your Journey through the Twelve Steps (2015) 12 copies
The Book of Life Recovery: Inspiring Stories and Biblical Wisdom for Your Journey through the Twelve Steps (2012) 11 copies
Flash Points: When God Ignites the Passion in Your Soul to Make a Difference - No Matter What the Cost (2002) 10 copies
The 7 Minute Marriage Solution: 7 Things to Start! 7 Things to Stop! 7 Things that Matter Most! (2013) 8 copies
Feeding Your Appetites with Bonus Seminar DVD: Take Control of What's Controlling You! (2005) 7 copies
Every Believer's Thought Life: Defeating Destructive Mental Patterns to Gain Victory Over Temptation (2023) 7 copies
NIV, Spiritual Renewal Study Bible, Hardcover: Experience New Growth and Transformation in Your Spiritual Walk (2013) 6 copies
Paredes Emocionais. Como Superar os Obstaculos que Impedem Sua Vida de Seguir Adiante (Em Portugues do Brasil) (2017) 2 copies
Understanding and Loving Your Child in a Screen-Saturated World (Understanding and Loving Series) (2023) 2 copies
Julian of Norwich 1 copy
Lupta fiecărui bărbat 1 copy
Toxic 1 copy
Every Man's Marriage 1 copy
New Life Every Day: Volume 2 1 copy
Take Your Life Back Workbook: Five Sessions to Transform Your Relationships with God, Yourself, and Others (2016) 1 copy
Lose it For Life DVD Series 1 copy
Associated Works
Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment (2003) — Afterword — 708 copies, 3 reviews
Every Heart Restored: A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual Sin (The Every Man Series) (2004) — Foreword — 237 copies
Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement (2006) — Foreword, some editions — 162 copies, 1 review
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- Legal name
- Arterburn, Stephen F.
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- 阿特伯恩
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Arterburn, Steven
Arterburn, Steve - Birthdate
- 1953-06-18
- Gender
- male
- Education
- Baylor University
University of North Texas - Organizations
- New Life Ministries
- Disambiguation notice
- Stephen Forrest Arterburn
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Reviews
Wow! Every once in a while you come across a book that causes something inside you to transform. This book has done that for me.
In my opinion, the author, Stephen Arterburn, is exceptional at relaying a message and conveying emotions, and even displaying Christian principles, without sermonizing the story. What I mean by that is, while reading this book, I don’t feel like I’ve been preached too – yet I feel the internal warmness of a day at church.
That’s not to say I don’t enjoy a show more good sermon—on the contrary! But when I’m reading fiction, I want to be entertained. The Encounter is just that. Entertaining, moving, and even life-changing.
This story is told in two viewpoints:
The main viewpoint is that of Jonathan “Gold” Rush. Though a wealthy and famous business man, he has battled with inner-demons most of his life. After a recent suicide attempt, Jonathan agrees (with a little prodding from his counselor, Tim Moser) to revisits his birthplace, Fairbanks Alaska, to face the past that has haunted him for so long. He harbors so much anger and hurt toward his mother who abandoned him when he was four.
The second viewpoint is that of Ada Rose Guthrie, Jonathan’s birth-mother. She too was troubled by the past. Decisions she made long ago sent her life on a different course than she’d planned. Harboring years of regret and pain, she retreated into somewhat of a recluse.
I highly recommend this book. Although it is a fictional story, the author reveals it is based on two true stories combined into one. The characters are not saccharine or unrealistic. They have real problems, strong emotions, and life-long issues that feel authentic. This is a short read, but the message will stay with you for a long time.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Blogsneeze. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 show less
In my opinion, the author, Stephen Arterburn, is exceptional at relaying a message and conveying emotions, and even displaying Christian principles, without sermonizing the story. What I mean by that is, while reading this book, I don’t feel like I’ve been preached too – yet I feel the internal warmness of a day at church.
That’s not to say I don’t enjoy a show more good sermon—on the contrary! But when I’m reading fiction, I want to be entertained. The Encounter is just that. Entertaining, moving, and even life-changing.
This story is told in two viewpoints:
The main viewpoint is that of Jonathan “Gold” Rush. Though a wealthy and famous business man, he has battled with inner-demons most of his life. After a recent suicide attempt, Jonathan agrees (with a little prodding from his counselor, Tim Moser) to revisits his birthplace, Fairbanks Alaska, to face the past that has haunted him for so long. He harbors so much anger and hurt toward his mother who abandoned him when he was four.
The second viewpoint is that of Ada Rose Guthrie, Jonathan’s birth-mother. She too was troubled by the past. Decisions she made long ago sent her life on a different course than she’d planned. Harboring years of regret and pain, she retreated into somewhat of a recluse.
I highly recommend this book. Although it is a fictional story, the author reveals it is based on two true stories combined into one. The characters are not saccharine or unrealistic. They have real problems, strong emotions, and life-long issues that feel authentic. This is a short read, but the message will stay with you for a long time.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Blogsneeze. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 show less
Church Dogmatics: The Doctrine of God (The Election of God & The Command Of God) by Stephen Arterburn
Karl Barth rounds out his exposition of the doctrine of God under two heads: the election of God and the command of God. In his first self-consciously significant break with John Calvin, Barth here unfolds his highly idiosyncratic doctrine of election.
In his view, although the Reformers did much to rescue the doctrine of sovereign election from a Roman Catholic neo-Pelagianism, they failed to recognize that election is more primal than an arbitrary selection of individuals for salvation and show more a corresponding rejection of others to damnation. Rather, Jesus Christ himself, the second person of the eternal triune Godhead, is the original and proper object of the Father's election. He is chosen before time to be the original Elect Man, and he also is chosen before time to be the original Rejected Man. As he bears the Father's rejection to damnation, so he receives the Father's redemptive election to salvation.
We have no part or parcel in this two-fold work accomplished on our behalf, and solely by the Father's good pleasure, before time and in time. Our role in salvation is either through repentant faith to embrace the Son's election as our own through his work on the cross, or to embrace his rejection as our own in a stubborn insistence on our individual sovereignty. In reality, this is an impossible and impotent choice since Christ has already borne that rejection fully; it is not ours to choose. This is a choice that leaves us in Satan's powerless shadow kingdom, a choice that leads nowhere but to the eternal destruction which awaits all that exists in the impossible unreality outside of Christ's dual role as Elected and Rejected Man.
Again, this is certainly an idiosyncratic view of election. To me, it seems to flirt with the edges of universalism. If we all in some sense exist in a state of election that we have only to accept in repentant humility or (impossibly) to reject in stubborn pride, could one argue that the very impossibility of choosing a rejection that Christ has already fully borne might ultimately lead to universal salvation? Barth himself refers frequently enough to the notion of eternal destruction that he seems still to be within the guardrails, but it would be helpful to get a better grasp of what he means when he speaks of eternal destruction. Perhaps he gets to that later in the series; this is, after all, a twelve-volume theology.
The second head, that of God's command, is concerned with Christian ethics. Here Barth helpfully grounds ethics in the acts of God himself. As God has met and meets us with boundless compassion through his son Jesus Christ, so too we are to meet with others on that same basis of boundless compassion regardless of their disposition toward us or toward God. Here again, though, Barth's idiosyncrasies surface in his insistence that revelation is inherently an historical act of God toward specific individuals in concrete and unrepeatable situations. Revelation can only be attested in the pages of Scripture, not repeated over and over again as general rules for us to interpret and apply in our situations by our own lights (i.e., no Scripture is a matter of one's own interpretation). The Bible, therefore, in passages such as the Ten Commandments and the Sermon on the Mount, does not constitute a rulebook for life so much as it indicates the outer boundaries within which our response to God's command, our execution of Christian ethics, must take place as we respond to that concrete command of God in our own specific historical circumstances.
I appreciate Barth's emphasis on constant and fervent prayer as the means by which, in communication with the Word of God through the Bible, we live in vigilant attendance on God's commands for us from day to day. The urge to prayer is both salutary and welcome. I am less clear on what exactly to do with this on a day-to-day basis, or how I'm supposed to distinguish God's command from my own baptized feelings. I'm not certain Barth manages to extricate himself from the charge he elsewhere lays against Pietism for being too mystical, since the decoupling of the command of God from the specific written commands of Scripture seems to leave the door ajar for the very mysticism Barth otherwise decries.
Still, there are a lot of tough nuts to crack in the question of how exactly to apply Scripture when so much of it has no obvious translation into a modern context (e.g., what to do with slaves captured in regional wars). Whether or not Barth's contribution to this conversation ultimately makes any sense in terms of daily Christian living, he raises good questions and provides thoughtful answers that certainly give the thoughtful reader much to chew on. show less
In his view, although the Reformers did much to rescue the doctrine of sovereign election from a Roman Catholic neo-Pelagianism, they failed to recognize that election is more primal than an arbitrary selection of individuals for salvation and show more a corresponding rejection of others to damnation. Rather, Jesus Christ himself, the second person of the eternal triune Godhead, is the original and proper object of the Father's election. He is chosen before time to be the original Elect Man, and he also is chosen before time to be the original Rejected Man. As he bears the Father's rejection to damnation, so he receives the Father's redemptive election to salvation.
We have no part or parcel in this two-fold work accomplished on our behalf, and solely by the Father's good pleasure, before time and in time. Our role in salvation is either through repentant faith to embrace the Son's election as our own through his work on the cross, or to embrace his rejection as our own in a stubborn insistence on our individual sovereignty. In reality, this is an impossible and impotent choice since Christ has already borne that rejection fully; it is not ours to choose. This is a choice that leaves us in Satan's powerless shadow kingdom, a choice that leads nowhere but to the eternal destruction which awaits all that exists in the impossible unreality outside of Christ's dual role as Elected and Rejected Man.
Again, this is certainly an idiosyncratic view of election. To me, it seems to flirt with the edges of universalism. If we all in some sense exist in a state of election that we have only to accept in repentant humility or (impossibly) to reject in stubborn pride, could one argue that the very impossibility of choosing a rejection that Christ has already fully borne might ultimately lead to universal salvation? Barth himself refers frequently enough to the notion of eternal destruction that he seems still to be within the guardrails, but it would be helpful to get a better grasp of what he means when he speaks of eternal destruction. Perhaps he gets to that later in the series; this is, after all, a twelve-volume theology.
The second head, that of God's command, is concerned with Christian ethics. Here Barth helpfully grounds ethics in the acts of God himself. As God has met and meets us with boundless compassion through his son Jesus Christ, so too we are to meet with others on that same basis of boundless compassion regardless of their disposition toward us or toward God. Here again, though, Barth's idiosyncrasies surface in his insistence that revelation is inherently an historical act of God toward specific individuals in concrete and unrepeatable situations. Revelation can only be attested in the pages of Scripture, not repeated over and over again as general rules for us to interpret and apply in our situations by our own lights (i.e., no Scripture is a matter of one's own interpretation). The Bible, therefore, in passages such as the Ten Commandments and the Sermon on the Mount, does not constitute a rulebook for life so much as it indicates the outer boundaries within which our response to God's command, our execution of Christian ethics, must take place as we respond to that concrete command of God in our own specific historical circumstances.
I appreciate Barth's emphasis on constant and fervent prayer as the means by which, in communication with the Word of God through the Bible, we live in vigilant attendance on God's commands for us from day to day. The urge to prayer is both salutary and welcome. I am less clear on what exactly to do with this on a day-to-day basis, or how I'm supposed to distinguish God's command from my own baptized feelings. I'm not certain Barth manages to extricate himself from the charge he elsewhere lays against Pietism for being too mystical, since the decoupling of the command of God from the specific written commands of Scripture seems to leave the door ajar for the very mysticism Barth otherwise decries.
Still, there are a lot of tough nuts to crack in the question of how exactly to apply Scripture when so much of it has no obvious translation into a modern context (e.g., what to do with slaves captured in regional wars). Whether or not Barth's contribution to this conversation ultimately makes any sense in terms of daily Christian living, he raises good questions and provides thoughtful answers that certainly give the thoughtful reader much to chew on. show less
I'm generally not a fan of books that are co-written by a therapist (see the "R" series by Karen Kingsbury - blaugh). I'm also typically not a fan of books that flip between first person and third person - I consider it cheating. But by the time I had finished this book, I'd forgiven Nancy Rue both and am glad to see that Sullivan Crisp will be resurrected again.
Rue is not your typical Christian author. She errs on the side of grace, not judgement and she is truly taking her life in her show more hands when she tangles with the touchy subject of adultery on a Christian campus. While not condoning the actions of her characters, she does show us the emotional toll their actions take and ultimately, there is redemption. I wish more movers and shakers in Christendom would take up that message. show less
Rue is not your typical Christian author. She errs on the side of grace, not judgement and she is truly taking her life in her show more hands when she tangles with the touchy subject of adultery on a Christian campus. While not condoning the actions of her characters, she does show us the emotional toll their actions take and ultimately, there is redemption. I wish more movers and shakers in Christendom would take up that message. show less
Every Man, God's Man: Every Man's Guide to...Courageous Faith and Daily Integrity (The Every Man Series) by Stephen Arterburn
Every Man God's Man has a very admirable goal: to discover and develop godly character in men. I do not believe that it reached it. While some readers will undoubtedly be helped, the book really fails to address the issues from a gospel-oriented, Christ-centered perspective. It relies heavily on personal testimony and narrative stories to illustrate the need for purity and devotion. The biblical exposition seems to be tacked on to fill in the gaps.
One major issue that I have with the book is show more the absence of any clear gospel articulation and how it impacts the lives of believers. A person grows in holiness in the same way that he was saved: by acting faith in a crucified and risen Savior (cf. Gal. 3:1-6; Col. 2:6). Every Man God's Man seems to relegate this fundamental truth to the sidelines, spending most of its time in the Old Testament. Surely, there is help to be found in the Old Testament, but it must not be the primary tool that we use to try to formulate godly character. We need the grace of the new covenant and the working of the Holy Spirit to make progress here.
Every Man God's Man also seems to minimize the relationship of Christ to the believer. Christ is set forth more as an example than as an expiator. The authors write: "If God alone measures our lives, we are free to live for God without apology or reservation. That's when we feel most like Jesus" (p. 29), and "On that dark evening, the most important thing Jesus might have ever shown us was how to completely let go of our hearts to God" (p. 30). This sounds much more like Jesus our model, than Jesus our Substitute.
I am grateful for the Every Man Series. We need more books that deal directly and bluntly with the issues that men face. But the books that address these issues must not rely on story and psychiatry over and above the gospel message. May God give us books that are firmly rooted in the sin-destroying and heart-sanctifying power of the cross of Christ. show less
One major issue that I have with the book is show more the absence of any clear gospel articulation and how it impacts the lives of believers. A person grows in holiness in the same way that he was saved: by acting faith in a crucified and risen Savior (cf. Gal. 3:1-6; Col. 2:6). Every Man God's Man seems to relegate this fundamental truth to the sidelines, spending most of its time in the Old Testament. Surely, there is help to be found in the Old Testament, but it must not be the primary tool that we use to try to formulate godly character. We need the grace of the new covenant and the working of the Holy Spirit to make progress here.
Every Man God's Man also seems to minimize the relationship of Christ to the believer. Christ is set forth more as an example than as an expiator. The authors write: "If God alone measures our lives, we are free to live for God without apology or reservation. That's when we feel most like Jesus" (p. 29), and "On that dark evening, the most important thing Jesus might have ever shown us was how to completely let go of our hearts to God" (p. 30). This sounds much more like Jesus our model, than Jesus our Substitute.
I am grateful for the Every Man Series. We need more books that deal directly and bluntly with the issues that men face. But the books that address these issues must not rely on story and psychiatry over and above the gospel message. May God give us books that are firmly rooted in the sin-destroying and heart-sanctifying power of the cross of Christ. show less
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