Robin Stern

This one was life-changing for me. Every previous thing I'd read about gaslighting, narcissists, sociopaths etc. ironically focused on them and their behavior. This one did as well, but it also had plenty to say about the gaslightee. It detailed the dance between the two and the personality traits of someone who remains in such a relationship. Somehow seeing myself on the page empowered me. I took action that removed that from my life.

The book isn't solely about romantic relationships show more either which is good. There are examples of gaslighting behavior by bosses, friends and parents as well.

Finally, I've read some reviews where the reader wasn't happy that there was advice for staying with a gaslighter given here. My position is that for whatever personal reasons they have, some people are going to stay. Given that reality, it is smart and good to give them tools for living as healthily as possible in that situation.

One of the big aha realizations as I read was the notion that when you are being gaslighted, your empathy, which is obviously a wonderful characteristic, is actually being used as a weapon against you. LIGHT BULB MOMENT!

If you or someone you know is involved with a manipulator and is at a loss, this is a great resource. show less

If you’ve ever been in a situation with a partner, family member, or employer where something just didn’t seem right, you may have been the target of gaslighting. Robin Stern is the psychologist who recognized this manipulative ploy and gave it its name. Her book on the subject focuses on self-help and includes some good advice on getting and staying out of a gaslighter’s control. I have to admit I skimmed through the case histories as they went through the three levels of gaslighting show more because they seemed a little repetitive. But the book’s appendices were excellent and included domestic and emotional abuse resources as well as advice about exercise, sleep hygiene, and diet. show less

This is a detailed look at a con game played far too often by people with a passion for controlling others.

Gaslighting happens on the job, sure, but the most devastating effects come in our most intimate relationships.

I knew about this pattern before this book was written. I hadn't seen the movie. I saw this unfold in the life of a friend who was temporarily taken in.

I saw the movie, Gaslight, after reading about it in the book. I was amazed it was available for free!

Dr. Stern has done show more the world a service with this insightful, warm and helpful book. show less

A nice read to finalize the nailed coffin after 30 years of trying to please. I get it now, really.