Greg Behrendt

A no excuses guide to understanding guys? I couldn’t help but wonder if authors Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo (of Sex and the City) were full of shit… And yet, their simple adage has a certain element of Truth: guys are not nearly as complex as we think they are when it comes to dating. At least, maybe they aren’t if we don’t allow them to get away with the bs excuses that make women think that dating is a “game” to be played (and presumably won). Exploring concepts as simple as show more “he’s just not that into you if he’s married” to far more complex discussions about intimacy and shared life goals, Greg and Liz treat every topic with a careful blend of humour and hard knocks. Some of their advice we definitely don’t want to hear, since we all want to be the exception and seeing the potential in some flawed man is most womens’ superpower (for better or worse), but it’s almost impossible not to agree with the vast majority of what they’re saying. People may have their issues (on both sides of the relationship), but if they’re going to be together there shouldn’t be any bullshit excuses not to be - sort that shit out, and be in the love that you deserve! Does reading this book mean that I’m ready to get back out there and actively find “my person?” Probably not, considering my current goals and situation, but reading this book somehow gives me hope for the future, even for all its critique of the complexities of dating. show less

While I don't necessarily agree with everything in the book, I get what the author is saying.

This slim, one hundred sixty-five page volume of humor, honesty, and tough love has given me an interesting outlook on relationships, men, women, and priorities.

Reading HJNTIY cracked me up as much as it opened my eyes. Just reading the introductions had me laughing out loud.

And sadly (and most embarrassingly), we [men:] would rather lose an arm out a city bus window than tell you [women:] simply, show more 'You're not the one.' -- Greg Behrendt, pg 6

But the situation is hopeless, so I broke the news to her: 'He's just not that into you.' -- Greg Behrendt, pg 5

I like this book because it's so refreshing to hear the tough love. Typical self-help relationship books are full of the whys and hows. This book isn't about the hows and whys -- it's about realizing your priorities, it's about realizing that we need to move forward, it's about coming to terms with the myth of "mixed messages."

Women can run themselves ragged over-analyzing. Men basically say everything through their actions. Women are frustrated to no end by the lack of a man's ability to be like us -- i.e. talk, emote, over-analyze. HJNTIY makes me realize I'm never going to understand men. It makes me realize I can either over-analyze and ignore the present or I can have a cry, shrug, and find the guy that I really deserve. show less

I laughed my way through this relationship advice book for getting through breakups. The tone is blunt, quick and fast. My favorite sections were the "Psycho Confessionals" where people told stories of what they did after a break-up. It just goes to show how everyone deals with the same issues, give or take, and although hilarious, it is also filled with a lot of good advice to move on.

I never read relationship help books like this, so I was really happily surprised to find this was gold. All the psychiatrists in the world wouldn't give such good advice. It's like someone extracted all the common sense from all the most sensible and sensitive women who ever lived and put it in concentrated form in this book.

And, even better the authors are totally upfront that they are comedic writers and not experts. They're people and that's why they know. I was cynical and thought they show more were just out to make money and a product. But this book is actually really useful and needed to be shared. It's great that they add that, of course, everyone's different and has to make their own decisions.

It was a surprising read that didn't pretend to be more than it is. And, I have to admit, it actually seems like the authors care about the topic and women. I'm pretty cynical, but maybe I've been taken in. Still, it was fun to read and its message bears consideration. show less